三字经 – 亡国之音

宋齐继 梁陈承 为南朝 都金陵
song4 1i2 ji4 liang2 chen2 cheng2 wei2 nan2 chao2 du1 jin1 ling2

释义
晋朝之后，先后有宋、齐、梁、陈四个朝代，他们被后世称为南朝，它们的国都 (guo2 du1) 均 (jun1) 设在金陵 (jin1 ling2)。

故事
陈霸 (chen2 ba4) 先推翻梁朝建立陈朝，史称陈武帝。后来后主陈叔宝 (chen2 shu1 bao1) 登上皇位。这个陈后主只知道吃喝享乐，他大建宫殿，还让宫里的人作曲，当时比较有名的乐曲是《玉树后庭花》。后来，隋文帝 (sui2 wen2 di4) 杨坚 (yang2 jian1) 率大军打进建康城时，守将来报告消息，陈后主正在欣赏《玉树后庭花》，当得知隋军打来后，吓得慌忙逃走，最后被隋军抓住，陈朝灭亡。后人因此把这首《玉树后庭花》成为亡国之音。

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庸君往往都没有好下场。身为一国之首，如果只懂得吃喝享乐，国家的灭亡是必然的。可能今时今日已经比较少类似的情况出现了，但是世界各地还是会时不时听到关于贪官等的新闻。做人之本要守信，人品修养也要有所进步才行。

我们虽然不是官员，但是也要提升自己的修养和品德哦！

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三字经 – 司马昭之心

故事
司马昭 (si1 ma3 zhao1) 是三国时期魏国 (wei4 guo2) 大将司马懿 (si1 ma3 yi4) 的儿子，他掌握着魏国的大权。他当上大将军后，还不满足，又逼魏帝曹髦 (cao2 mao2) 封他为晋公。曹髦很气愤地说：“司马昭想当皇帝的野心就连过路人都能看出来。” 于是他率领手下去杀司马昭，结果反被司马昭的手下杀死。曹髦死后，司马昭大权独揽 (du2 lan3)，他假装立曹鱼为帝，自己称晋王 (jin4 wang2)。后来司马昭死了，他的儿子司马炎逼曹鱼让位，自己做了皇帝，建立了西晋王朝。

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知足常乐这句话大家有听过吧？有上进心和有野心是不同的。很多时候，因为自己的私心和野心，很可能会造成伤害。

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Mistakes Make Perfect

Think about the people you admire for their exceptional skill and quality of work. They hardly seem to trip up. Even when they do, they invariably pick themselves right up with panache and every strand of hair in place. Blunders that seem to floor the common person simply slide off them.

Let's consider one of mankind's greatest fears - public speaking. We all have to do this in some form at some point in our lives. Notice how no one is truly flawless? There is always some uncomfortable pause, some ill-timed joke, an unsuitable word, or the mic falls off the collar. But why do some faux pas appear worse than others? Why do we sometimes begrudge someone for a slip-up, yet seem to forgive others' blunders almost instantly?

The secret is in the perception of mistakes.

Successful, respected people have mastered their flaws. They understand the role they play in creating uniqueness and motivating learning. Most importantly, they realise that the more you are affected by a mistake, the more likely you're going to make more. The worse you feel about your trip-up, the more likely your audience is going to remember it negatively.

So when you fall, get right back up! Acknowledge it, but make sure people know that you're not going to be cowered by it. Shrug it off and move on. Everyone knows that mistakes are a part of life - they're natural and spontaneous. They may be expecting a watertight performance, but if a little rain should fall, they're very likely to perhaps giggle a little then wipe themselves dry, IF you do the same.

The more we learn about mistakes, the more we understand that really, mistakes make perfect. There is simply no other way to learn. We're all familiar with coughing profusely on our first trip to the swimming pool, our scars from falls from bicycles, the stack of complaints from customers who today are our most loyal consumers.

When we make a mistake, focusing on it simply makes it worse. Consistently high-performing people are not perfect, nor are they as "high-performing" as you might think. You may not remember their boo-boos, but that's only because you were more engaged with how good they were after that.

The world is not without its flaws. There will be earthquakes, there will be suffering, and skyscrapers will fall. Junk mail, sour milk, botched-up presentations and big red F letters on our test papers. And supermodels will continue to fall off runways. Yet, the world moves on. And so can you.

source: Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio

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成功或失败往往就在于我们的观点。如果我们积极地看待失败或犯错，我们就有进步的空间。如果我们就此认定自己是个失败的人，那么我们又怎么回进步或成功呢？

世界并不会因为某个人而停止旋转，太阳的升起也是个定律，没有什么是难得倒你我的。要有自信点儿！加油！！！

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Be Open to Possibilities

When you imagine your future, do you see unlimited potential or do you see a lack of opportunities? Almost everyday, we are overrun by bad news, bleak outlooks, and people who complain about how miserable their lives are. In such a climate, it's no small task remaining upbeat and optimistic. But it is precisely that kind of positive attitude that will open your eyes to the opportunities that are always present.

According to Rosamund Stone Zander, author of "The Art of Possibility", many of the circumstances appear to block us only because of the assumptions we make. In other words, if we colour our view of the world with negative energy, our behaviour towards it will appear to elicit an unfavourable response. If you look at your environment through cracked and grimy glasses, you won't see a pretty picture.

When you participate in negative dialogue, either with yourself or with others, you are setting yourself up for failure. It's almost as if there's an instinct to prove oneself right, and if you think things will turn out badly, your thoughts and action will contribute to that result. When you retreat from a world you perceive as grim, you're closing yourself off to the possibilities.

But what happens if you remain open to the possibilities? When you view the world from a perspective of unlimited potential, your attitude will shift. So will the way you engage your employees, customers, friends and family; everyone you come into contact with. You will project an image of abundance, and your drive and hope will inspire those around you. You will become a motivating force in a climate of openness and courage, a climate that gives back to you just as much, if not more, than what you gave to create it.

When we're open to possibilities, we see further and are more inclined to take risks. Risks that may not always yield the results we want, but which create more paths towards our goals. You're only a failure if you stop trying. Because opportunities for success are limitless - when one doesn't pay off the way you imagined, there's always the next, and the next. One of them will be the one to catapult you forward, and it could just be the next one.

Being open means that you have to stand confident in the realm of possibilities - no matter the competition and no matter your fear. If your entire focus is on what your competitors are doing, your attitude will be passed on to your employees, and, ultimately, your clients. But if you focus on what you do best and how to better satisfy your clients and engage with them in new and powerful ways, your results will be quite different!

source: Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio

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虽然馆主食有一点儿唠叨，但是馆主还是那句话：人有无限可能。其实很多时候，世事难料，所以一定要对自己有一定的肯定和信任，这样才有可能会成功啊，不是吗？

加油罢！

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三字经 – 赤壁之战

魏蜀吴 争汉鼎 号三国 迄两晋
wei4 shu3 wu2 zheng1 han4 ding3 hao4 san1 guo2 qi4 liang3 jin4

释义
汉朝末年，魏、蜀、吴三家争夺江山，历史上称为三国时期，后来晋朝统一了全国，先后经历了东晋和西晋两个王朝。

故事
曹操打败袁绍 (yuan2 shao4) 统一北方后，经过一段时间的整顿，又开始向南方进军，不费吹灰之力，就占据了荆州 (jing1 zhou1)。当时，刘备的军队人数很少，无法和曹操抗衡 (kang4 heng2)，就听从军师诸葛亮的建议，联合孙权一起对抗曹操。曹操远道而来，士兵们不服水土，战斗力受到影响。曹操为了适应水战，命令把所有的战船首尾相连起来，东吴的周瑜使用火攻，联合刘备，大败曹军。曹操慌忙逃回北方，从此，三国鼎立 (ding3 li4) 的局面形成。

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如果馆主没有记错的话，曹操当时就因为把战船首尾都想练起来，因而造成很多兵士都战亡了。当时话说回来，三国真的是很有名气的一个时代。就像《三国演义》等，至今都还很令人津津乐道着。

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Empower Yourself

Everyone goes through murky patches of their lives when they start feeling, for apparently no good reason at all, empty and directionless. This can happen when we're living on auto-pilot, getting lost in the rhythm of the ever turning wheels, and having no clear idea what we want or what we're doing. This lack of vision and control can be very disempowering.

So here are some ways you can reclaim control of your life and empower yourself to move into the future with confidence.

First, ask yourself "What do I want?" It's a simple question but the answer can be unexpectedly complex. Most of us don't even think about this question. But it's the most important thing you need to establish. Do you want more money? Give more love? Spend more time with your children? More health? Really meditate on this and listen to what comes back.

Next, ask yourself "What is stopping me from getting what I want?" Is it doubt? As in "I don't think I can go without a regular income." Or is it limiting beliefs? Such as "I'm too old for that." What about attachment? The unwillingness to let go of certain things in order for other things to come into your life. Upon close examination, you'll find that these things really can't hold you back. It's just fear.

Then look at where you are today. Are you getting from it all that you want? Or are you unhappy with the way things are? Even if you think you're miserable, you're getting something from it, otherwise you would have tried to get out of the situation. Many of us languish in self-pity because we're feeding our insecurities. Somewhere deep inside, we actually do like where we are because it means we don't have to take any action towards change. Change frightens us and so we make up the excuse that we're in a hopeless situation and continue doing nothing.

But the human spirit grows thin when it remains in an unchallenging place for too long. The emptiness you feel is precisely because you've not allowed for change to transform your life. You're doing the same thing which gives you no satisfaction day in day out and your heart is crying out for help. So the key really is to decide what you have to do to start changing your life in positive ways. And really take action.

Even small actions, like walking up the steps at the office instead of taking the lift gives you an empowering feeling of moving forward all the time.

source: Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio

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其实没错，往往我们都忘了给自己力量，忘了自己也是需要强心针的。更重要的是要积极地去面对人生的种种，不要再还没开始之前就贬低自己，这样的话，一定很难成功的。要相信自己！！！

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學習溝通 (4)

延伸祕技5：要讓對方滿意，先讓對方接受

相對於「讓員工滿意」，理光（Ricoh）董事長濱田廣則是提出「讓員工接受」的說法。濱田廣認為，滿意度人人各不相同，要讓全部的人都滿意是非常困難的；但是只要讓員工確實「接受」，員工對工作就會比較容易產生熱情。

延伸祕技6：溝通從「聆聽」開始

積極聆聽者能夠站在發言者的立場，從對方的觀點來領會他們的想法與感受。以下幾項能協助你更有效積極聆聽的祕訣：

＊保持穩定的眼神接觸。
＊正向面對發言者。
＊避免分心。
＊專心聆聽，不要一心多用。
＊等到對方確實結束發言，再做出回應。
＊不要打斷對方，將它視為一個學習的機會。
＊評估完整訊息（包桔言詞、聲音和視覺）。

source: 世界級專家之工作祕技(之八)

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嗯，没错！沟通从聆听开始！馆主非常赞成。很多时候，我们都只想到自己的立场而忽略了对方的想法。我们不一定一直都是对的，同样的，我们也希望对方能听我们的讲解和解释吧，所以，互相一定要聆听。沟通沟通，没代沟就能通！

好了，法师的教诲也就到了一个段落了。我们继续向其他方位进修学习罢！加油了！

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三字经 – 刘秀兴汉

光武兴 为东汉 四百年 终于献

释义
光武帝刘秀复兴汉朝后，称为东汉。西汉和东汉延续 (yan2 xu4) 了四百年，到了汉献帝时汉朝灭亡。

故事
王莽 (wang2 mang3) 政权末年，爆发了绿林军起义。刘秀和哥哥起兵响应，并在昆阳 (kun1 yang2) 之战中重创 (zhong4 chuang4) 王莽主力军，表现出杰出的政治军事才能。公元25年，刘秀称帝，史称东汉。之后刘秀消灭各路豪强 (hao2 qiang2) 势力，统一了中国。刘秀在位期间，实行休养生息政策，为解决当时严重的土地和奴婢 (nu2 bi4) 问题，先后九次下令，释放 (shi4 fang4) 奴婢；同时精兵简政，并在政治上进一步加强中央集权，加强尚书台的权利，这些措施 (cuo4 shi1) 的推行，使东汉的经济恢复，政治安定。后人将这一时期称为“光武中兴”。

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嗯，久违了的三字经。前些日子都在分享一些其他的，可是我们的三字经可不能就此忘却哦！噢，馆主读了今天的这篇后呢，感觉如果世上有更多像刘秀这样的贤者该有多好呀。现代的政治实在充满了太多问题了。咳，看了报告都让人心痛啊。当然，才者难得啊，所以如果我们有什么可以贡献于社会，有利于社会的，一定要付出哦！

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Silencing Your Inner Critic

Critics - can't live with them, some say we can't live without them. After all, they do sometimes provide useful advice. Very often though, our toughest detractors are not other people; our inner critic is usually the harshest of all, and because it's with us all the time, its constant disparagement can break us down and prevent us from achieving our full potential.

Don't underestimate that little voice inside your head that goes "You can't", "You'll fail", or "Don't risk it". Enough hammering and those limiting beliefs will become an inseparable part of you. So how can you make your inner critic shut up? Here are four ways that might help:

Tactic One: Know Your Enemy. In order to fight a good fight, you must spend some time getting to know your own thinking process. What are you saying to yourself? When a great idea pops into your head, what do you do with it? Many people diminish it until the good idea is but a mere memory. So listen close and hear what your personal inner critic sounds like.

Tactic Two: Talk Back. Isn't it strange that we won't accept someone else putting us down, but we are quite content to let our inner critic do us in? Quit being your own worst enemy. When you hear "I can't", disagree immediately!

Tactic Three: Write It Down To Size. Once you have learned to recognize the inner critic, and you've started talking back, keep it in its place by writing it out. This takes a little more time and a little more discipline, but in the long run you will come out ahead. Write down all the icky, finicky, frustrating stuff in your head. Write freely with no editing, no reading, and no rereading. Just get it out. Vent and complain!. Then you'll be rid of the emotional clutter that can keep you from succeeding. And don't stop with just the negative bits. Write out your affirmations as well - your strengths, your blessings, your hopes, your achievements.

Tactic Four: Be Nicer to Yourself. In other words, give yourself permission to be a little insane. Be better to yourself! It's high time you did! Praise yourself, give yourself treats, rewards for good work done, indulge your desires sometimes, look in the mirror and see what a beautiful person you are! Write down ten great things about yourself and read them everyday. Before long, you'll begin to see that you are right. You have amazing potential and superb ideas.

Now, you're the verge of making your dreams a reality.

source: Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio

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噢，虽然馆主会鼓励大家要时时自我反省，但是我们不能忘了要将自己的心魔给先打败才行。其实很多时候，自己才是我们通往理想的绊脚石。因此，我们要认清方向，自己觉得不好的地方就改进；好的就再加强。我们不只是有坏的一面，也有我们优秀的地方，所以，也要好好地肯定自己哟！

加油！

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Team Hoyt

Dick and Rick Hoyt --- a role model; a father's love for his son.

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馆主不晓得大家是否有看过这个短片，真的很感人。那位父亲的伟大、无私的爱。为了心爱的儿子翻山越岭，通过了一次又一次的比赛。感动了世人，更让儿子的心愿成真。看看吧！

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學習溝通 (3)

延伸祕技3：善用故事打動人心

假如你想引發行動，你可以考慮用對大家說故事的方式，而不是只告訴他們該做什麼。假如你發號施令，大家可能會用頭腦來回應；但假如你靠說故事來領導，大家則會用「心」來回應。

延伸祕技4：再一開始就得到許多「是」的答覆與別人交談，不要先討論你不同意的事，要先強調你所同意的事。

懂得溝通技巧的人，會在一開始就先得到許多「是」的答覆，這可以引導對方進入肯定的方向。
就像撞球一樣，原先你打的是一個方向，只要一稍有偏差，等球碰回來時，完全與你期待的方向相反了。當你說了一個「不」字，對方所有本性裡的自尊都會自然往反方向堅持下去。所以，如何讓對方一開始就有肯定的方向，這是很重要。

source: 世界級專家之工作祕技(之八)

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人们都像是爱听故事的小孩儿一样 [哈哈，馆主就很爱听故事，但是个老人了罢！哈哈！:p]，所以，如果希望队员用“心”而不是只用“脑”来做事的话，试着用故事吧！=）嗯，与其说撞球，如果要形容的是人与人之间的沟通，就像是在打网球，一来一往的才能让游戏精彩、继续。也许，在很多时候，你的立场是什么自己要先弄清楚，这样一来，就不至于陷入进退两难的情况了。

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*Two Choices*

What would you do?....you make the choice. Don't look for a punch line, there isn't one. Read it anyway. My question is: Would you have made the same choice?

At a fund raising dinner for a school that serves learning-disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: 'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?'

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. 'I believe, that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'

Then he told the following story:

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'

Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His father watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!' Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!' Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball ... the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay!!!'

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third! Shay, run to third!'

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!' Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.

'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'.

Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home and seeing his mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND NOW A LITTLE FOOTNOTE TO THIS STORY: We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate. The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces.

If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the 'appropriate' ones to receive this type of message. Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference. We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the 'natural order of things.' So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice: Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?

A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them.

You now have two choices:
1. Delete
2. Forward
May your day, be a Shay Day

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馆主必须承认，虽然这篇文章已经读了几遍，但是，每次在读的当儿，还是会两眶盈泪。谢谢钧韡小姐和我们分享这篇文章。真的很感人。我们是否有时不时将他人摆在第一位？可以不可以将胜利抛在脑后，为了他人一次呢？很多时候，我们总会愤愤不平地埋怨为什么上帝让我们有一些残缺，但是，上帝在造人时，早已经自由打算了。我们所拥有或缺少的，就是要来让世界变得更完整、更美好，我们的一切一切冥冥中早已注定、安排得好好的。所以，要相信“天生我才必有用”，不要再埋怨了，学习感恩一切的恩赐罢！

馆主不晓得大家读了这篇文章后有何感想，与大家分享一下吧！

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Master Your Thoughts

We’re all built with incredible propensity to imagine the worst. Let’s say you notice a strange spot on your chest. You begin to think "something is wrong." This quickly becomes “it’s a STD” or “it’s cancer”. In no time at all, you arrive at the idea that you’re going to die from this. Well, that settles it then, time to plan the funeral.

You see how we can catatrophize matters? And it’s not just in areas such as our well-being; it’s our children, our careers, our finances, our partner, or the superior we thought we offended. If we start catching ourselves imagining disastrous scenarios that are not grounded in facts, we’ll realize that our thoughts can go askew very easily. And they affect our emotional and mental well-being. Sometimes, they can even make us physically sick!

To reduce unnecessary angst, focus on the situation at hand. Nothing more. A spot is just a spot. Until you see a doctor or get more information, further thought is useless and can be dangerous.

The thing is, a thought is just a thought. Some thoughts may be more useful, but that makes them no more real.

The trouble begins when we buy into the thoughts. When we start believing that they have some inherent truth or reality.

A good way out of this trap is to imagine a continuum, a line between two extremes. At one end is the idea that "A Thought Is Reality." At this extreme, people believe that whatever pops into their head is real. In other words, "if I think it, it is real." The extreme is what we know as psychosis, that is, no matter what others or bare facts tell me, I simply choose to believe my thoughts.

At the other end of the continuum is the idea that "A Thought Is Just A Thought." If a thought begins to torment a person at this end of the spectrum, he or she is able to take a step back, remember that a thought is just a thought, and let it go. If it warrants some follow-up action, go ahead, but until then, don’t let your thoughts slip into the gunk of fear and imagination.

Thoughts really only have as much power as we give them. No more, no less.
Become aware of your thoughts. Master your thoughts and you master your world.

source: Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio

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我们是不是也常常陷入苦恼当中？[庸人自扰] 是一位馆主很尊敬的哥哥前辈教育馆主的。很多时候，烦恼是来自我们自己的念头。当然，我们时时要为将来做好准备，但是不要过于担忧。无谓的担忧只会让日子难过。还没发生的事情不代表它就不会发生，但是，谁有十足的把握它一定会发生？未来是掌握在你我手里的。如果事情已经发生了，那就看看结果会是如何，可以弥补的，我们就尽力去办到；没办法挽救的，就交由命运了。

加油加油！记住：快乐就是不把困难变成困扰！

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學習溝通 (2)

延伸祕技1：溝通三要件

溝通的第一要件，就是真誠，真心誠意地說出你的看法，只要真心，不要擔心別人認為你是在諂媚。第二、肯定對方表達意見的權利。第三、要婉轉、正面、積極地表達。

延伸祕技2：善用會議有效溝通

身為全球流通零售業龍頭的沃爾瑪（Wal-Mart）百貨，一年365天都有新的門市在世界的某個角落開張，沃爾瑪領導人在溝通上面臨了很大的困難，他們利用各種方法來克服這項困難，包括現場衛星轉播、沃爾瑪電視與廣播網、名為「沃爾瑪世界」的公司電子報、官方網站、電子郵件、公司的教育訓練課程、順暢的溝通政策、員工意見調查、夥伴工作手冊、以及各種的溝通會議，諸如：

●管理團隊每周開周會－－每星期六早上7點，沃爾瑪的管理團隊會 齊聚在總部，討論本周的心得，提出必須調整的事項。

●店長每周舉行電話會議－－每星期六早上，區經理會召集店長進行電話會議，讓各店長了解最新的公司消息。

●門市員工每天站著開早會－－在每家沃爾瑪門市，全體成員每天早上都會站著開會，這場會議十分簡短，重點在於傳達新資訊。

source: 世界級專家之工作祕技(之八)

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噢，沟通的第一要件是什么？是真心诚意。你我学习到了吗？

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學習溝通 (1)

證嚴法師祕技1：「放空」與「專注」
曾有人問證嚴法師如何獲得溝通的智慧？證嚴的祕訣是「放空」與「專注」。

聽別人說話時，必須先將自己放空，不可心存成見，才能將別人的話真正聽進去。另外就是專注於現在，因為未來是妄想，過去是雜念，唯有專心於當下，智慧才不會停滯不前。

證嚴法師祕技2：溝通的智慧
什麼是溝通？如何與人溝通？不同生活背景與知識程度的人，能否溝通？證嚴以為，就現實上來說，觀念、目標、習氣相近的，比較容易溝通，但是起點 仍在個人。要先能心思平靜，先能傾聽；先有了可以捐棄自己成見、虛心接受別人想法的胸襟和智慧，才有真正的溝通。因此所謂「溝通」，不是要人家和我溝通，而是自己如何與人溝通；要別人退一步，自己進一步，不是溝通，只是說服。

證嚴法師祕技3：理直氣「和」
遇到理念不合的人，要如何回應？證嚴認為，信念要堅定、要展現出更大的耐心和誠意，但「理直」必須「氣和」，才能讓人心悅誠服。

source: 世界級專家之工作祕技(之八)

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谢谢婉琳小姐与我们分享的这篇文章。这将会是新的一系列关于沟通的篇章。首先，让我们看看證嚴法師所提的秘技作为参考。下来几次，我们会学习一些被分享的技巧，看看该怎样与他人好好地来沟通。虽然是属于工作秘技，但是馆主觉得我们在日常生活中也需要与他人沟通，所以应该也蛮管用的罢。

加油咯！

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Fate of Dolphins in Taiji

Documentary of Dolphins in Taiji:


Oct 2006, in Taiji, Japan:


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馆主不记得之前是否有将一个关于中国非法动物宰杀和伤害的短片放送在这儿，但是这个关于海豚在日本被残杀的短片真的很令人心酸。谢谢钰惠小姐和我们分享这个纪录片。大家会不会觉得渔夫们很残忍？更让馆主心寒的是有位日本小朋友 （应该还是小学生罢）经过海豚被杀害的现场的那一幕 --- 他竟然无动于衷。这表示他已经习惯了。好令人心痛哦。习惯、看惯了这些残忍的行为；不为所动了。这是我们希望我们的下一代所学习的吗？我们希望他们长大后也都是个残忍、血腥的人吗？有必要那么的铁石心肠吗？

好可恶、好可怕、好残忍、好令人难过。海豚不是可爱的动物吗？不是和平的动物吗？它们信任人们，所以毫无防备地一步步踏入圈套里 --- 这是个死亡圈套。海豚是爱好生命的，就算亲友受了伤，明知道会有危险，它们也不会丢下它们不管。咳！

不要伤害无辜的生命了，好吗？每一份力量都有可能可以制止这一切！其实，人们伤害和杀害动物是为了他们的皮和肉。试想想，如果有一天我拿起屠刀要杀你的家人朋友只是为了他的皮和肉，你觉得怎样？既然不行，为什么要这样对待动物呢？

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