A very interesting and educational video suitable for all parents and childhood educators =)

別身在福中不知福！有錢人和窮人的生活！

 有能力的人就多付出一點，相對的沒有就珍惜感恩多一點。♥

«慈悲没错，但要用智慧»

一个禅者在河边打坐时，听到挣扎的声音。睁开眼睛一看是，一只蝎子正在水里挣扎。他伸手把它捞上来，被蝎子竖起的毒刺蛰了一下。他把蝎子放到岸上，继续打坐。过了一会儿，他又听到挣扎的声音。睁开眼睛一看，蝎子又掉到水里了。他又把它救上来，当然又被蛰了一下。他继续打坐。过了一会儿，他又有了相同的不幸遭遇。

 旁边的渔夫说：“你真蠢，难道不知道蝎子会蛰人吗？”

 “知道，被它蛰三次了。”

 “那你为什么还要救它？” 

“蛰人是它的本性，慈悲是我的本性。我的本性不会因为它的本性而改变。”

 这时，他又听到挣扎的声音。一看，还是那只蝎子。他看着自己肿起来的手，看看水里挣扎的蝎子毫不犹豫地再次向它伸出手去。这时，渔夫把一个干枯的树枝递到他手上。禅者用这根树枝捞起蝎子，放到岸边。

渔父笑着说，“慈悲是对的，既要慈悲蝎子，也要慈悲自己。所以，慈悲要有慈悲的手段。” 

保护好自己，才有资格善待别人。 人们常说的一句话：“这年头，好人难做”。是啊，好人行善，是他的本性。但行善的对象却不一定也是善的；行善的结果也不一定是善果。为什么会这样呢？正如渔夫所言：“慈悲要有慈悲的手段。”

 “慈悲是对的，既要慈悲蝎子，也要慈悲自己。” 

实际上是在提醒我们：首先要对自己负责，才能真正做到对其他人负责。很难想象，一个连自己都照顾不好的人，怎么可以照顾好别人。保护好自己，才有资格，才有能力去善待别人。

New 5 Cs that will actually make you a happy Singaporean

1. Compare less 

The more we compare ourselves with others, the unhappier we become. There will always be someone who is: Smarter than you Richer than you Luckier than you Better-looking than you More popular than you More charismatic than you More accomplished than you You don’t benefit from comparing yourself with these people. The only person you should compare yourself with is you. Are you wiser than you were a year ago? Kinder? More generous? More courageous? If your answer is “no”, then it’s time to reflect and to commit to making real changes in your life. 

2. Cherish what you have 

Every expert on happiness will tell you that grateful people are happy people. Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, in her book The How of Happiness, describes from a scientific perspective why counting your blessings makes you happier. Following Dr. Lyubomirsky’s advice, we should write down at least one thing we’re grateful for every day. That’s sure to make us happier. By expressing gratitude, we’re not denying that some things in life aren’t ideal. We’re simply acknowledging that, in many ways, we’re blessed. We can all become happier by making a conscious effort to cherish what we have: family, friends, religious freedom, food to eat, a safe country to live in. 

3. Choose your attitude 

I’ve heard a saying that goes, “Your attitude determines your altitude.” Cheesy but true? I think so. You can’t always choose your circumstances, but you can always choose your attitude. Your boss gave you a difficult assignment? You can either see it as a problem or as a challenging opportunity. Your project didn’t get off to a good start? You can either see it as a stumbling block or as a stepping-stone to future success. Attitude is a choice, just like happiness is a choice. 

4. Complain less 

Complain—it’s something we all do. But whenever we complain, without also proposing an alternative, we’re being irresponsible. Some people believe that it’s the citizens’ job to complain and the government’s job to provide solutions. But this isn’t the right attitude. As a responsible citizen, if we oppose government policy, then we should also take the initiative to suggest a viable solution. When we’re whining, nobody’s winning. So let’s complain less. 

5. Change your circumstances and yourself 

When things don’t go your way, it’s easy to feel frustrated, helpless or confused. Any time you feel this way, ask yourself: “What is one thing I can do right now to improve the situation?” This is an empowering question, because it makes you realize that there’s always something productive you can do. Always. You just need to focus on the one action you can take immediately. If you’re unhappy about your relationship with your boss, schedule a conversation with him or her. If you’re unhappy about your salary, improve your skills, enroll in a course, find a mentor, or negotiate a pay increase. You could even start a business on the side. There’s an endless list of things you could do to make your life better. If you’re not willing to do anything on that list, then you shouldn’t complain. Instead of complaining, take action. 

In closing… 

Happiness isn’t just an emotion. It’s a choice—a daily one. Finding real happiness takes dedication and determination, so it’s not for the fainthearted. It’s time to embrace the new 5 Cs. It’s time to build a happier life and a happier Singapore. It’s time to get to work.

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adapted from yahoo.com, by D*aniel W*ong, see article here.