Breathing Therapy

Good for stressful people who frequent headaches.

我們有左邊、右邊鼻孔，吸氣、吐氣時有沒有一樣？
We have left, right nose, is that the same for inhale and exhale?
其實不一樣，可以感覺不一樣；右邊等於是太陽的意思，左邊等於是月亮.
Actually they are different, can feel the difference; right side represents the
sun, left side represents the moon.

平常頭痛時可以用手把右邊鼻孔關起來，只用左邊鼻孔吸氣、吐氣，約五分鐘，頭
痛就好了。
When having headache, try to close right nose and use your left nose to do your
breathing, about 5 mins, headache will be gone.

如果疲倦、累了，相反的關起左邊的鼻孔，只用右邊吸氣、吐氣，不用多久，馬上
精神好起了。
If you feel tired, do it the opposite round, close your left nose and breathe
through your right nose. After a while, you will feel your mind is fresh again.

因為右邊屬於火氣，比較會熱，左邊比較會涼。
Right side belongs to heat, so it gets hot easily, left side belong to cold.

女生大部分吸氣、吐氣在左邊，所以心比較會涼快。
Most of the girls breathe with their left nose, so their heart gets cold
easily.

男生大部分吸氣、吐氣在右邊，所以他們比較會生氣。
Most of the guys breathe with their right nose, so they get angry easily.

我們起床時，可以注意哪邊吸氣、吐氣比較快？左邊或右邊？
Do you notice the moment we wake up, which side breathes faster? Left or right?

如果左邊比較快，覺得提不起精神，可以關起左邊鼻孔，用右邊呼吸，很快的精神
會好起來。
If left is faster, you will feel tired. So, close your left nose and use your
right nose for breathing, you will get refresh quickly

這也可以教給小孩，大人用更好。如果你有警覺心的話，速度更快。
This can be taught to kids, but the effect will be better if apply by elders.

以前我曾經頭痛，痛得非常厲害，去看醫生，醫生說：你去結婚就好了！（眾笑）,醫生說得沒錯，他有理論根據。
I used to have headache, it was so painful, go to doctor, doctor told
me: it will be all right if you married ! (All audients laugh), doctor does
not bullshit, what he said is supported with proofs.


當時每天晚上都頭痛，沒有辦法看書，有吃藥，也不是辦法。
That time, every night I am having headache problem, not able to study, I did
take medicine, but that is not a good way.

有一天晚上靜坐，關起右鼻孔呼吸，這樣子做，不到一個禮拜，頭痛好了！持續做
了一個月，從那天晚上到現在，一次也沒有頭痛過。
One night, I sit down and close my right nose and breathe with left nose, less
than one week, my headache problem is gone! I continue to do it one month, from
that night until today, headache does not attack me anymore.

這是我自己親身經驗過，每一次我告訴別人，你們頭痛的話，試試看，因為我的身
體有效果，很多人試過也有效果。這是一種自然的處理，不像吃藥會有副作用，為
什麼不用呢？
This is what I experienced myself, I told others, if headache, can try this
way, because this is effective for me. Many people have tried and it works for
them as well. This is a natural therapy, not like medicine, taking for long term
will get side effect. So, why not try it out?

經常清楚的吸氣、吐氣，身體會覺非常輕鬆。
Always breathing your body can feel very relax.

The sentences below are some wishes from author.

Wish everyone is well and healthy, and advice people must do good and act good
****
要時時心存好意！腳走好路！身行好事，惜緣種福．．

願所有收到這封信的朋友都能平安．健康．幸福．
在這裡要送幸福給你。

Your 4 boyfriends

Once upon a time there was this girl who had four boyfriends.

She loved the 4th boyfriend the most and adored him with rich robes and treated him to the finest of delicacies. She gave him nothing but the best.

She also loved the 3rd boyfriend very much and was always showing him off to neighboring kingdoms. However, she feared that one day he would leave her for another.

She also loved her 2nd boyfriend. He was her confidant and was always kind,considerate and patient with her. Whenever this girl faced a problem, she could confide in him, and he would help her get through the difficult times.

The girls 1st boyfriend was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining her wealth and kingdom. However, she did not love the first boyfriend. Although he loved her deeply, she hardly took notice of him!

One day, the girl fell ill and she knew her time was short. She thought of her luxurious life and wondered, I now have four boyfriends with me, but when I die, I'll be all alone.'

Thus, she asked the 4th boyfriend, 'I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?'

'No way!', replied the 4th boyfriend, and he walked away without another word..

His answer cut like a sharp knife right into her heart.

The sad girl then asked the 3rd boyfriend, 'I loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?'

'No!', replied the 3rd boyfrien d. 'Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to marry someone else!'

Her heart sank and turned cold.

She then asked the 2nd boyfriend, 'I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?'

'I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!', replied the 2nd boyfriend. 'At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave.'

His answer struck her like a bolt of lightning, and the girl was devastated.

Then a voice called out: 'I'll go with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go..'

The girl looked up, and there was his first boyfriend. He was very skinny as he suffered from malnutrition and neglect.

Greatly grieved, the girl said, 'I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!'

In truth, you have 4 boyfriends in your lives:

Your 4th boyfriend is your body. No matter how much time and effort you lavish in making it look good, it will leave you when you die.

Your 3rd boyfriend is your possessions, status and wealth.When you die, it will all go to others.

Your 2nd boyfriend is your family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for you, the furthest they can stay by you is up to the grave.

And your 1st boyfriend is your Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world.

However, your Soul is the only thing that will follow you where ever you go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of you that will follow you and continue with you throughout Eternity.

Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect. It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.

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馆主大约记得这个故事之前是讲着我们的“四个老婆”其实，无论是丈夫、老婆、男友还是女友，真正要传达的意义是我们往往都忽略了这一世人最为重要的一环：我们的本性良心。我们都在在乎那些身外物，而不好好修持我们内在的主人。

记得哦，快乐并不代表一切完美，而是当我们决定将眼光和视线跨越不完美。

今天也是我们微笑学习馆的“两岁生日”！真是令人兴奋啊！但是，馆主也知道，咱们这儿的分享不算多哦，所以，大家不必害臊，多多投稿分享唔！

加油！^_^g

杀蛇记

今天，馆主没有文章要特别和大家分享的，但是，馆主想与大家分享一篇部落格的心情语录。在新加坡有一位艺人郑斌辉，他在上个星期分享了他为了救朋友而杀死了一条并没有毒的蟒蛇，而感到后悔。

其中有几段话是馆主想特别与大家分享的：

1：可是，我因为心里对毒蛇的忧虑，而第一时间就判了它死刑。我并没有给它任何机会，也没有怜悯，更没有先确定它是否有毒，就把那蛇的生命抹杀了。
2：我们人类最自私的本性
3：我没有滥用主宰他物生死的权力
4：兄弟姐妹们，下次如果有小虫子飞入你们房间时，不要立刻把它们消灭掉，打开窗口，给它们一点时间飞出去吧，因为哪怕是多小的生命，也是一条命。正因为我们能够主宰它们的生死，我们背负的责任更大。除非是生死关键，放生一命，是我们必须做的。

就这几段话，让馆主深深感动。为什么？因为我们都很习惯地为了确保自己的安危和欲望，而不假思索地伤害其他人和小生命。无论是动物、昆虫还是植物。我们都习惯性地把自己的利益放在第一位而忽略了宇宙主宰是多么希望我们每一个生命能和睦共处，一起相处及存亡啊。馆主真的很希望借助郑斌辉的这篇心情分享提醒我们要好好地爱惜和珍惜每一个生命。我们不要事事都等到来不及时才知道后悔哦。

加油哦！^_^g

Source: 郑斌辉 - 杀蛇记

Anticipating Success

Are you affected by what happens to you? Or do you affect what happens to you? Which would you prefer?

In The Art of Possibility, authors Rosamund and Benjamin Zander remind us of our tremendous ability to attract what we want in our lives by being purposeful.

After 25 years of teaching, Ben Zander observed that students would be in such a chronic state of anxiety over the measurement of their performance that they would be reluctant to take risks with their playing. announced at the beginning of the semester that each student in the class would be getting an A for the course. However, they were asked to fulfill one requirement to earn this grade. Sometime during the next two weeks, each student was to write him a letter post-dated by a year, which began with the words, "Dear Mr. Zander, I got my A because...". In the letter they were to tell a detailed story of what would have happened to them within a year that was in line with them receiving an A in his class.

In other words, Zander asked the students to place themselves in the future, looking back, and to report on all the insights they acquired and milestones they attained during the school year, as if those accomplishments were already in the past.

Zander tells us that “the A is an invention that creates possibility for both mentor and student, manager and employee, or for any human interaction. The practice of giving an A allows the teacher to line up with her students in their efforts to produce the outcome, rather than lining up with the standards against these students. In this way, the instructor and the student, or the manager and the employee, become a team for accomplishing the extraordinary.

Zander reminds us that “It is dangerous to have our musicians so obsessed with competition because they will find it difficult to take the necessary risks with themselves to be great performers. The art of music, since it can only be conveyed through its interpreters, depends on expressive performance for its lifeblood. Yet it is only when we make mistakes in performance that we can really begin to notice what needs attention.” You don’t have to be a musician to appreciate the value of his wisdom.

So write yourself a letter, dating it a year from now. Project yourself into the future as you write a letter about all the insights you will have acquired and the milestones you will have attained during the year, as if your accomplishments for the next twelve months were already in the past. Chances are you’ll be able to reach your goals more effectively.

Source: Adapted from A Slice of Life by Eugene Loh

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馆主想也是吧。如果能够将心思放在未来、为人生设定目标，那生命就会是有意义的。我们不都希望自己是有意义地活着吗？

加油哦！

^_^g

从前有一棵树……

从前有一棵树……

她好爱一个小男孩。
每天男孩都会跑来，男孩会爬上树干，抓着树枝荡秋千，吃吃苹果。
他们会一起玩捉迷藏。玩累了，男孩就在她的树荫下睡觉。
男孩好爱这棵树……
好爱喔！
树好快乐。

日子一天天过去,
男孩长大了。
树常常好孤独。

有一天, 男孩来到树下
树说：“来啊，孩子，来，爬上我的树干，抓着我的树枝荡秋千，吃吃苹果，在我的树荫下玩耍，快快乐乐的！”
“我不是小孩子了，我不要爬树和玩耍。”男孩说，“我要买东西来玩，我要钱。妳可以给我一些钱吗？”
“真抱歉。”树说，“我没有钱。我只有树叶和苹果。孩子拿我的苹果到城里去卖。这样，你就会有钱，你就会快乐了。”
于是男孩爬到树上，摘下她的苹果，把苹果通通带走了。
树好快乐。

男孩好久都没有再来……
树好伤心。
有一天，男孩回来了，
树高兴得发抖，她说：“来啊！孩子，爬上我的树干，抓着我的树枝荡秋千，快快乐乐的。”
“我太忙，没时间爬树。”男孩说。
“我想要一间房子保暖。”他说，“我想要妻子和小孩，所以我需要一间房子，妳可以给我一间房子吗？” 　　　　　　　　
“我没有房子。”树说，“森林就是我的房子，不过，你可以砍下我的树枝，去盖房子，这样你就会快乐了。”
于是男孩砍下了她的树枝，把树枝带走，去盖房子。
树好快乐。
　　
可是男孩好久都没有再来，所以当男孩再回来的时候，树太快乐了，快乐得几乎说不出话来。
“来啊！孩子”她轻轻地说，“过来，来玩呀！”
“我又老又伤心，玩不动了。”男孩说，“我想要一条船，可以带我远离这里。妳可以给我一条船吗？”
“砍下我的树干去造条船吧！」树说，“这样你就可以远航……你就会快乐。”
于是男孩砍下了她的树干，造了条船，坐船走了。
树好快乐……但不是真的。

过了好久好久，那男孩又再回来了。
“我很抱歉，孩子。”树说，“我已经没有东西可以给你了，我的苹果没了。”
“我的牙齿也咬不动苹果了。”
“我的树枝没了。你不能在上面荡秋千了。”
“我太老了，不能在上面荡秋千。”男孩说。
“我的树干没了。”树说，“你不能爬……”
“我太累了，爬不动的。”男孩说。
“我很抱歉。”树叹了口气，“我真希望我能给你什么……可是我什么也没了。我只剩下一块老树根。我很抱歉……”
“我现在要的不多。”男孩说，“只要一个安静，可以坐着休息的地方。我好累好累。”
“好啊。”树一边说，一边努力挺直身子，“正好啊，老树根是最适合坐下来休息的。来啊！孩子，坐下来，坐下来休息。”
男孩坐了下来。
树好快乐。

有一棵大树，
春天倚着她幻想；
夏天倚着她繁茂；
秋天倚着她成熟；
冬天倚着她沉思；
这棵大树就是妈妈，

No matter how busy you are, share some time with parents. 祝天下所有的母亲身体健康，一生平安！

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这是馆主还蛮敬佩的一个人分享的小故事。觉得很有意思，也和之前的那篇文章很接近，就想和大家分享了。

希望这篇文章会带给我们联想的空间哦！

^_^g

母亲一生的八个谎话

儿时，小男孩家很穷，吃饭时，饭常常不够吃，母亲就把自己碗里的饭分给孩子吃。母亲说，孩子们，快吃吧，我不饿！――母亲撒的第一个谎

男孩长身体的时候，勤劳的母亲常用周日休息时间去县郊农村河沟里捞些鱼来给孩子们补钙。鱼很好吃，鱼汤也很鲜。孩子们吃鱼的时候，母亲就在一旁啃鱼骨头，用舌头舔鱼骨头上的肉渍。男孩心疼，就把自己碗里的鱼夹到母亲碗里，请母亲吃鱼。母亲不吃，母亲又用筷子把鱼夹回男孩的碗里。母亲说，孩子，快吃吧，我不爱吃鱼！――母亲撒的第二个谎。

上初中了，为了缴够男孩和哥姐的学费，当缝纫工的母亲就去居委会领些火柴盒拿回家来，晚上糊了挣点分分钱补点家用。有个冬天，男孩半夜醒来，看到母亲还躬着身子在油灯下糊火柴盒。男孩说，母亲，睡了吧，明早您还要上班呢。母亲笑笑，说，孩子，快睡吧，我不困！――母亲撒的第三个谎

高考那年，母亲请了假天天站在考点门口为参加高考的男孩助阵。时逢盛夏，烈日当头，固执的母亲在烈日下一站就是几个小时。考试结束的铃声响了，母亲迎上去递过一杯用罐头瓶泡好的浓茶叮嘱孩子喝了，茶亦浓，情更浓。望着母亲干裂的嘴唇和满头的汗珠，男孩将手中的罐头瓶反递过去请母亲喝。母亲说，孩子，快喝吧，我不渴！――母亲撒的第四个谎。

父亲病逝之后，母亲又当爹又当娘，靠着自己在缝纫社里那点微薄收入含辛茹苦拉扯着几个孩子，供他们念书，日子过得苦不堪言。胡同路口电线杆下修表的李叔叔知道后，大事小事就找岔过来打个帮手，搬搬煤，挑挑水，送些钱粮来帮补男孩的家里。人非草木，孰能无情。左邻右舍对此看在眼里，记在心里，都劝母亲再嫁，何必苦了自己。然而母亲多年来却守身如玉，始终不嫁，别人再劝，母亲也断然不听，母亲说，我不爱！――母亲撒的第五个谎

男孩和她的哥姐大学毕业参加工作后，下了岗的母亲就在附近农贸市场摆了个小摊维持生活。身在外地工作的孩子们知道后就常常寄钱回来补贴母亲，母亲坚决不要，并将钱退了回去。母亲说，我有钱！――母亲撒的第六个谎


男孩留校任教两年，后又考取了美国一所名牌大学的博士生，毕业后留在美国一家科研机构工作，待遇相当丰厚，条件好了，身在异国的男孩想把母亲接来享享清福却被老人回绝了。母亲说，我不习惯！――母亲撒的第七个谎

晚年，母亲患了胃癌，住进了医院，远在大西洋彼岸的男孩乘飞机赶回来时，术后的母亲已是奄奄一息了。母亲老了，望着被病魔折磨得死去活来的母亲，男孩悲痛欲绝，潸然泪下。母亲却说，孩子，别哭，我不疼。――母亲撒的第八个谎

不论你多富有,不管你官多大,到什么时候也离不开咱的妈.... 愿天下父母平安度春秋....... 珍惜母亲的每一个谎言,好好的对待父母,很多东西,失去后才得来的珍贵代价太大.所以一定要好好的爱我们的父母~

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馆主如果没记错，之前也有和大家分享过这篇文章，但是英文版本的。父母的伟大，非我们三言两语能尽的。说要孝顺他们很容易，但是真正做到的又有几个？

大家要加油哦!

^_^g

《我們的彩虹》

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q6-3v1eFSNg


知道吗？这首歌并不是真的很好听还是怎样。但是，它是由自一个真人真事的故事而研发开来的。真的很感人的一首歌。看吧，就连一个受了伤的人，一直还是那么的坚强，真的很值得我们学习。

“不放弃就是成功！”

^_^g

三字经 – 孙康映雪

如囊萤 如映雪 家虽贫 学不辍

释义
晋朝的车胤，用装有萤火虫的丝袋借光读书。晋朝的孙康，借白雪反射的月光读书。他们虽然家贫，但仍想办法不中断学习。

故事
晋朝时期，孙康是一个穷人家的孩子，没钱买灯油，所以晚上不能继续读书。一次，孙康看到外面下起了大雪，自己又睡不着觉，就起床拿书在月光下看起来，看了一会儿，感觉眼睛不舒服。于是他干脆趴在雪地上，雪地反射的光芒把书上的字迹照得非常清楚。孙康忘记了寒冷，专心看起书来。从此，孙康经常在雪夜里看书，后来，孙康成了一名大学问家，为国家做出了贡献。

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孙康真的是个用功的孩子。真的，其实一切都是看我们的用心。如果我们是真心的，那么困难的事都不再是难事了。

那我们呢？我们是否也像他们一样，会找机会好好学习？

加油哦！^_^g

The Power of Love

Les Brown, an Emergency Technician, was driving home from a busy day at work when he heard an emergency call on his car radio scanner. A child was choking and in need of immediate help.

The police dispatched a rescue squad but Les, realizing he was only a few blocks away, knew that he could get there sooner. He radioed the police to tell them that he was also on the way. When he tried to exit the freeway, he couldn't. A large caterpillar tractor had dug a deep trench right across the exit.

Les pulled to the side, jumped from his car and yelled to the tractor driver, "There's a baby in trouble down the street. I have to get there urgently!"

Immediately, the man filled in a large part of the trench he'd spent all day digging, packed the fill down and waved Les across. Les rushed to where the call came from. There he found a frantic mother waiting for help to arrive. The baby she was holding had turned purple. Les grabbed the child, put him over his knee and carefully hit him on the back and out popped a button from his mouth. Much to the mother's relief, the child breathed again.

On the way home the following evening Les noticed the tractor working at the same exit so he pulled over to tell the driver what had happened. When the man saw him, he jumped from his tractor and this time he yelled to Les, "The baby you saved yesterday ... That was my baby! Mine! Mine!"

Here we see genuine love in action and such love has many facets. In the powerful words of Scripture, it is patient, thoughtful, kind and forgiving. It isn't jealous, proud, boasting, self-seeking, rude or easily angered. Nor does it keep a record of wrongs. "It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. It never fails."

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真的，有些时候，我们根本没想过我们做的每一个决定都有可能影响身边的人，甚至是自己。我们在作决定时，有时真的需要以“智”来衡量事情的轻重才好噢！

^_^g

蝸牛

馆主总是觉得这首歌很有意思。看看它的歌词，希望我们对未来积极些、勇敢些、更要下定目标然后勇往直前！

加油哦大家！^_^g

Hearing Test

A man feared his wife wasn’t hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family doctor to discuss the problem. The doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.

“Here’s what you do,” said the doctor, “stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response.”

That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, “I’m about 40 feet away, let’s see what happens.”

Then in a normal tone, he asks, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

No response.

So the husband moves closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Still no response.

Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Again he gets no response.

So, he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Again there is no response.

So he walks right up behind her, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

“Peter, for the FIFTH time I’ve said, CHICKEN!”

Moral of the story:
The problem may not be with the other person as we always think, could be very much within us!!!

Credits: Eugene Loh, 938LIVE, MediaCorp Pte Ltd

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真的，有些时候，我们只看见别人的短处，却看不见自己的短处。是不是因为人们的眼睛长在前面所以才看不见自己的缺点呢？我们真的需要一日三省啊！

加油哦！ ^_^g

家，太遠了（A Home Too Far）

好感人的一支音乐，所以与大家分享。

The Paradox of Our Time

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints.

We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less.

We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time.

We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.

We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life.

We’ve added years to life not life to years.

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor.

We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.

We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.

We write more, but learn less.

We plan more, but accomplish less.

We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait.

We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships.

These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.

It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.

A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete…

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away…

Adapted: Various

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其实，我们这时代还真是有很多矛盾的地方。所以，我们不要以为真的就获得了更多，说不定是失去更多了。

Spoilt for Choice

We live in an age of freedom and choice. 85 types of cookies, 30 varieties of canned soup, and 60 kinds of shampoos at the supermarket. More than 30 TV channels. Thousands of single Singaporeans who might just be the one with whom to share the rest of our lives. And of course, the internet is a world of endless opportunities.

Some people would say that having more options is a good thing. But is it really? Does it improve the quality of our lives? Or are our lives becoming increasingly complex because of the overload of choices? What about discontentment? Are Singaporeans demanding more, appreciating less, and always seeking the best such that they think their present lot is never good enough?

In the book The Paradox of Choice (2004), Barry Schwartz says:
"Not all choice enhances freedom, increased choice among goods and services may contribute little or nothing to the kind of freedom that counts. Indeed, it may impair freedom by taking time and energy we'd be better off devoting to other matters."

Freedom of choice is a good thing, but we are slowly discovering that it has a limit. There is a point at which it becomes a burden. Excessive choice can set you up to have expectations too high for satisfaction. Is this also happening in our relationships? Can no one live up to our expectations because we're looking for the elusive "ideal" mate?

As the number of choices keeps growing, there is an increase in stress, decision-making dilemmas, anxiety, fears, and disappointments. Schwartz suggests that:

1. We might be better off if we embrace certain voluntary constraints on our freedom of choice instead of rebelling against all constraints.

2. We might be better off seeking what is "good enough" instead of seeking out the best.

3. We might be better off if we lower our expectations about the results of decisions.

4. We would be better off if we paid less attention to what others were doing or what they were acquiring.

So think about your freedom of choice today. Is it making your life better? Or has it become a burden?

Credits: Eugene Loh, 938LIVE, MediaCorp Pte Ltd

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是真的不是吗？当我们拥有着越多选择时，我们就越没有选择的余地。可能真的可以试试那位教授的方法吧。

愿我们都会活得快乐些！

^_^g

【五塊錢的誤會】‏

【五块钱的误会】谈人际关系

希望大家用心来体会文中的含意，想想自己是不是常遇见这种“想说又碍于面子又不好意思说”的情境中...

有一位影剧界的朋友告诉我一个生活小插曲... 某次录像她打电话叫了无线电出租车回家，下车时计费表上显示的是一百八十元，她拿出两百元给司机，司机默默的收了。以台北市的计费标准， 表上加十五元等于车费，她稍微等了一下，以为司机会找五元给她，但司机一点动静也没有，她想，算了，才五元嘛，就拉开车门下车了。关上车门的那一刹那，她才恍然想起自己是叫无线电车的，按规矩需再加叫车费十元，是她还欠司机五元才对。于是她又敲敲前车窗，赶紧把五元再递给司机。司机冷冷地摇下前车窗来，说：「哼，亏你想到了，不然我还以为，连你这样一个名人，也想贪我五块钱的小便宜！」

虽然误会是化解了，但我这个朋友心里老大不舒服，她说：「他为什么不直接告诉我，我少给了他五元呢？」 在日常生活中微不足道的五元，在这给了我们一个启示：是不是有些时候，我们像那个司机一样，无声的在忍耐着某个人的作为，而事实上，我们的沈默反而误解那个无辜的人，让他根本不知道哪里得罪了你？ 你心里因为这样不舒服，他的名誉也因而受损。

为什么你不说出口呢？

很多类似这种「五块钱」的问题, 影响了我们的朋友情谊、爱情品质、人际关系，甚至人的情感...

婆嫌媳妇洗的碗不干净，怕变成坏婆婆，隐忍不说，自行把媳妇洗过的碗再洗一遍。。媳妇当然老大不高兴。觉得媳妇的菜不顺口，硬把每餐揽来自己弄，背地里又感到自己好委屈。

办公室亦然，你虽然喜欢助人，但因别人搞不清楚你「助人」的尺度为何，常做出你认为过份的要求，你默默做了，却咬牙切齿在心里，在别的同事面前对他表示不屑，也是常有的办公室情事。

忍，不一定都是美德。除非你忍了就忘了，但有几人能够呢？

我们想认亏了事，不愿表达自己的看法，但在无意间，我们却以成见，伤害了彼此的关系，或无辜者的名誉。 「不知者无罪」，如果对方并不知道他哪里得罪你，你的忍耐，只会造成他受损而已。忍耐人的时候，脸色通常很难好看，如果你忍耐的对象是自己很亲密的人，他的情绪和你们的关系，一定受损得更厉害！！

so 有话不妨直说吧！我有没有欠大家五块钱 ~~ ^^

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哈哈！很有趣却又发人深省的一篇文章。当月莉小姐传发给馆主时，馆主就觉得这是一篇不得不分享的文章。真的，很多时候我们可能认为忍一忍就过去了，但是，如果我们内心并没有真正放下，而开始埋怨时，我们其实是对对方很不公平的。因为他/她根本就不知道得罪了你啊！

当然，说话时需要技巧的。虽然要跟对方表明你的不满，但是也还是需要礼貌些哦！

大家要来学习学习才行！加油！

^_^g

You're My Sunshine, My Only Sunshine

Like any good mother, when Karen found out that another baby was on the way, she did what she could to help her 3-year-old son, Michael, prepare for a new sibling.

They found out that the new baby was going to be a girl, and day after day, night after night, Michael sang to his sister in mommy's tummy.

He was building a bond of love with his little sister before he even met her.

The pregnancy progressed normally for Karen, an active member of the Panther Creek United Methodist Church in Morristown, Tennessee.

In time, the labor pains came. Soon it was every five minutes, every three, every minute. But serious complications arose during delivery and Karen found herself in hours of labor.

Would a C-section be required? Finally, after a long struggle, Michael's little sister was born. But she was in a very serious condition.

With a siren howling in the night, the ambulance rushed the infant to the neonatal intensive care unit (ICU) at St. Mary's Hospital, Knoxville, Tennessee. The days inched by. The little girl got worse. The pediatrician had to tell the parents there is very little hope. Be prepared for the worst.

Karen and her husband contacted a local cemetery about a burial plot.

They had fixed up a special room in their house for their new baby but now, they found themselves having to plan for a funeral. Michael, however, kept begging his parents to let him see his sister. "I want to sing to her," he kept saying.

Week two in intensive care looked as if a funeral would come before the week was over.

Michael kept nagging about singing to his sister, but kids are never allowed in ICU. Karen decided to take Michael whether they liked it or not.

"If he didn't see his sister right then, he may never see her alive." She dressed him in an oversized scrub suit and marched him into ICU. He looked like a walking laundry basket.

The head nurse recognized him as a child and bellowed, "Get that kid out of here now. No children are allowed." The mother rose up strong in Karen, and the usually mild-mannered lady glared steel-eyed right into the head nurse's face, her lips a firm line.

"He is not leaving until he sings to his sister," she stated.

Then Karen towed Michael to his sister's bedside.

He gazed at the tiny infant losing the battle to live. After a moment, he began to sing.

In the pure-hearted voice of a 3-year-old, Michael sang:

"You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy when skies are gray." Instantly, the baby girl seemed to respond. The pulse rate began to calm down and become steady.

"Keep on singing, Michael," encouraged Karen with tears in her eyes.

"You never know, dear, how much I love you, please don't take my sunshine away."

As Michael sang to his sister, the baby's ragged, strained breathing became as smooth as a kitten's purr. "Keep on singing, sweetheart."

"The other night, dear, as I lay sleeping, I dreamed I held you in my arms."

Michael's little sister began to relax as rest, healing rest, seemed to sweep over her.

"Keep on singing, Michael." Tears had now conquered the face of the bossy head nurse. Karen glowed.

"You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. Please don't take my sunshine away..."

The next day... the very next day, the little girl was well enough to go home.

Woman's Day Magazine called it 'The Miracle of a Brother's Song'; The medical staff just called it a miracle; Karen called it a mirale of God's love.

Never give up on the people you love. Love is so incredibly powerful. Life is good.

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真的好感人哦！馆主第一次读这篇文章时就深深地被那三岁小哥哥的爱所感动。其实，他的爱真的很纯、没有任何的条件、没有任何要求回报。以前，馆主记得有人说过，每一个小孩儿都是上帝牵着手来到世界的，所以，越是单纯的爱，越是会被小婴儿感受到。

真的，现代的我们是否已经不相信奇迹就掌握在我们手中？我们是否不在乎也不珍惜我们的手足？能成为兄弟姐妹其实是积了几世的福、栽满了多少的缘分才有的啊。所以，我们就从现在开始，学习着去珍惜好吗？

加油！

^_^g

The Law of the Garbage Truck

Today, a story called "The Law of the Garbage Truck" by David J. Pollay, a syndicated columnist, a television host, and an internationally sought after speaker and seminar leader.

He writes:

"I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.

My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly.

So, I said, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'

And this is what my taxi driver told me what i now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck'.

Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.

As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you.

When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on.

You will be happy you did.

I started thinking, how often do i let Garbage Truck run right over me?

And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets?

It was that day I said, 'I'm not going to do it anymore.'

I began to see garbage trucks. I see the load they're carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on."

Written by: David J. Pollay

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嗯，的确，我们身旁的的确确是有很多载满了愤怒和不平的人们。所以，我们真的应该体谅一下。

^_^g

Mum's Love

When you were 1 year old, she fed you and bathed you.
You thanked her by crying all night long.

When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk.
You thanked her by running away when she called.

When you were 3 years old, she made all your meals with love.
You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor.

When you were 4 years old, she gave you some crayons.
You thanked her by coloring the dining room table.

When you were 5 years old, she dressed you for the holidays.
You thanked her by plopping into the nearest.

When you were 6 years, she walked you to school.
You thanked her by screaming, "I'M NOT GOING!"

When you were 7 years old, she bought you a baseball.
You thanked her by throwing it through the next-door-neighbor's window.

When you were 8 years old, she handed you an ice-cream.
You thanked her by dripping it all over her lap.

When you were 9 years old, she paid for piano lessons.
You thanked her by never even bothering to practice.

When you were 10 years old, she drove you all day, from soccer to gymnastic to one birthday party after another.
You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

When you were 11 years old, she took you and your friends to the movies.
You thanked her by asking to sit in a different row.

When you were 12 years old, she warned you not to watch certain TV shows.
You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

When you were 13, she suggested a haircut.
You thanked her by telling her she had no taste.

When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp.
You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

When you were 15, she came back from work, looking for a hug.
You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

When you were 16, she taught you how to dive her car.
You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

When you were 17, she was expecting an important call.
You thanked her by being on the phone all night.

When you were 18, she cried at your high school graduation.
You thanked her by staying out partying until dawn.

When you were 19, she paid for your college tuition, drove you to campus, carried your bags.
You thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn't be embarrassed in front of your friends.

When you were 20, she asked whether you were seeing anyone.
You thanked her by saying, "It's none of your business."

When you were 21, she suggested certain careers for your future.
You thanked her by saying, "I don't want to be like you."

When you were 22, she hugged you at your college graduation.
You thanked her by asking whether she could pay for a trip to Europe.

When you were 23, she gave you furniture for your first apartment.
You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.

When you were 24, she met your fiance and asked about your plans for the future.
You thanked her by glaring and growling, "Muuhh-ther, please!"

When you were 25, she helped to pay for your wedding, and she cried and told you how deeply she loved you.
You thanked her by moving halfway across the country.

When you were 30, she called with some advice on the baby.
You thanked her by telling her, "Things are different now."

When you were 40, she called to remind you of a relative's birthday.
You thanked her by saying you were "really busy right now."

When you were 50, she fell ill and needed you to take care of her.
You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children.

And then, one day, she quietly died. And everything you never did came crashing down like thunder on your HEART.

If she's still around, never forget to love her more than ever.
And if she's not, remember her unconditional love and pass it on... always remember to love thy mother, because you only have one mother in your lifetime!!!

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其实，无论是父亲还是母亲，天下父母心，他们都是无微不至地疼爱着我们的。可是，儿女们总是那个忘恩负义的、不知道要感恩、要孝敬他们。可能人总是这样吧，总要等到失去了才会懂得珍惜，可是，待那时到来时，可能已经来不及了。

咳，所以，感谢月莉小姐与大家分享的这篇诗句。希望我们能用心地去领悟其中的道理吧！

^_^g

三字经 – 苏秦刺股

故事

战国时期有位著名的纵横家叫苏秦，他跟随鬼谷子学习纵横术，学成后为了能找到用武之地，就变卖了家产，四处游说 (you2 shui4)。可是几年过后，不仅没有人赏识他，而且钱也用光了，他只好回到家里。然而，父母和妻子都觉得他没出息。这对苏秦的刺激很大。于是，他刻苦读书，困了就用锥子刺自己的大腿来提神。经过一段时间的苦读，苏秦再次出游，他针对秦国的野心，提出六国联合对付秦国的策略，得到六国的赞同，一下子身佩六国的相印，成为当时显赫天下的名人。

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看吧，为了出人头地、不然人看扁，古人甚至不惜出此下策。所以说，天下无难事，只怕有心人，只要我们下定了决心，一定能成功的！加油了！

^_^g

三字经 – 孙敬悬发

头悬梁 锥刺股 彼不教 自勤苦


释义
古人学习时，为了避免瞌睡，把头发吊在屋梁上，用锥子刺自己的大腿。他们学习时没有人教授，全凭自己的勤奋和努力。

故事
汉朝时期，有个叫孙敬的人，从小就酷爱读书。虽然读了很多书，可孙敬仍不满足，恨不得把天下的书都读完。可是读书久了，就很容易打瞌睡。为了不影响读书，孙敬想了个办法：他在屋顶的梁上吊了一根绳子，然后把绳子一端系在自己的头发上。如果一打瞌睡，绳子就会扯住头发，疼痛就会赶走睡意。用这种方法，孙敬在短时间内阅读了大量书籍，长大后，终于成为国家的栋梁。

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哇，圣贤认真苦读的精神真的值得我们学习。真是自叹不如啊！现在叫我们多念两个书都像要我们的命似的，真是惭愧。莘莘学子们啊，我们可真的要好好爱惜我们还能求知识的时刻哦，不要等到以后才后悔哦。

加油加油！

^_^g

A Singapore Quilt - Threads of Peace

A Singapore Quilt - Threads of Peace - more free videos

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的确，和平的日子得来不易。生长在二十一世纪的新加坡的我们可能无法了解我们每天背诵誓言和唱国歌到底有什么意义。先祖为了我们现在太平的日子可是付出了血汗啊。

我们要爱惜我们身边的人；更要学习与不同种族的相邻和睦共处才是。其实，我们肯能没有想过，住在这么一个多元种族国家的我们是多么幸福的。可以了解不同文化、语言，可以品尝那么多元化的食物，更可以了解彼此。

要珍惜哦！今天是新加坡的种族和谐日，希望我们会学习更多！

^_^g

A Gift of Love

"Can I see my baby?" the happy new mother asked.

When the bundle was nestled in her arms and she moved the fold of cloth to look upon his tiny face, she gasped. The doctor turned quickly and looked out the tall hospital window. The baby had been born without ears.

Time proved that the baby's hearing was perfect. It was only his appearance that was marred. When he rushed home from school one day and flung himself into his mother's arms, she sighed, knowing that his life was to be a succession of heartbreaks.

He blurted out the tragedy. "A boy, a big boy ... called me a freak."


He grew up, handsome for his misfortune. A favorite with his fellow students, he might have been class president, but for that. He developed a gift, a talent for literature and music. "But you might mingle with other young people," his mother reproved him, but felt a kindness in her heart.

The boy's father had a session with the family physician. Could nothing be done? "I believe I could graft on a pair of outer ears, if they could be procured," the doctor decided.

Whereupon the search began for a person who would make such a sacrifice for a young man. Two years went by.

Then, "You are going to the hospital, Son. Mother and I have someone who will donate the ears you need. But it's a secret," said the father.

The operation was a brilliant success, and a new person emerged. His talents blossomed into genius, and school and college became a series of triumphs.. Later he married and entered the diplomatic service.

"But I must know!" He urged his father, "Who gave so much for me? I could never do enough for him."

"I do not believe you could," said the father, "but the agreement was that you are not to know ... not yet."

The years kept their profound secret, but the day did come ... one of the darkest days that a son must endure. He stood with his father over his mother's casket.

Slowly, tenderly, the father stretched forth a hand and raised the thick, reddish-brown hair to reveal that the mother had no outer ears.

"Mother said she was glad she never let her hair be cut," he whispered gently, "and nobody ever thought Mother less beautiful, did they?"

Real beauty lies not in the physical appearance, but in the heart. Real treasure lies not in what that can be seen, but what that cannot be seen. Real love lies not in what is done and known, but in what that is done but not known.

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母爱的伟大，可以为了孩子而牺牲一切。父母对我们的爱，可不是我们能够想象的。所谓“谁言寸草心，报得三春晖”呀。我们一定要好好地爱惜和孝顺他们哦。

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Peace of Mind‏

If you were to ask your neighbor,
'What would give you peace of mind?' he might tell you,
'A vacation in Bermuda !' or
'An extra hundred grand would give me peace!', or
'A new Ferrari would make me content!'

But going places – and getting stuff – is usually a temporary solution ...

Let's say you buy a lottery ticket and by some miracle you win your dream Ferrari.
Today you are content.
Tomorrow you are saying, 'If I could just catch that little punk who scratched it in the car park!'

Peace of mind rarely comes from getting more stuff.
Getting more stuff usually leads to wanting even more stuff!

Peace of mind starts with being grateful for what you have right now.

GRATITUDE is POWER, and here's why....

When you are thankful for what you have - for the friends you have, and for the things you've got, you attract more good people and good things!

People who always complain about what they DON'T HAVE, stay stuck. Complainers attract more things to complain about!

It is a law of life.
It's hard to explain, but you can observe it around you.
We get more of what we dwell upon.

That's why all the spiritual masters have taught the same lesson ...
'Start by being thankful. Be happy with what you have now, and more will come your way.'

It's practical advice.

IN A NUTSHELL
Every time you say a silent 'thank you' you become more peaceful – and more power.

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感谢月莉小姐跟我们分享的文章。的确，我们往往都忘了要时时感恩。感恩两个字虽然容易，但是真正做起来却不是人人时时刻刻都能做到的哦。

加油！

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Family Misfortunes

The Dough family was an unsual one. The head of the family, Dough, as his name suggested, was a ball of dough. His wife was a slab of butter. They had two children, Ant and Cotton.

One morning, Mother Butter asked her son, Ant to go and get some resin from the mepche tree, as resin made good fuel.

"Stay away from fresh resin," she cautioned. "You could get stuck. Get a small dried piece."

"She thinks I'm still a baby," thought Ant as he climbed jauntily up the tree. "She doesn't know how strong I've become." He saw a big blob of resin emerging from a crack and rushed forward to grab it. And of course he got stuck.

When he didn't return, Father Dough decided to go in search of him.

"Don't go too near the edge of the road," said his wife. "You could easily slip and roll down the side."

"What does she know?" thought Dough as he rolled out of the house. "If I follow her advice and walk down the middle of the road, I could get crushed by the carts going by. I'm safer at the edge."

He zoomed to the edge of the road, lost his balance and went rolling down the side of the steep hill.

When her husband did not return, Mrs. Dough asked her daughter, Cotton, to go out and look for him.

"Take care not to walk in open spaces, my child," warned Mother Dough as Cotton got ready to leave. "You could get blown away by the wind."

Cotton thought her mother was being too fussy and went dancing down the street. Then disregarding her mother's advice she decided to take a short cut across a meadow. She didn't even get halfway. A gust of wind picked her up and carried her away into the mountains.

Mother Butter waited for her family to return. The day got hotter and hotter and Mother Butter began to melt and became smaller and smaller till finally there was nothing left of her except a puddle of liquid.

So ends the story of the Dough family which perished because nobody wanted to be told what to do.

Source: A Bhutanese Fairytale, Author Unknown

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真的，有时候，不听老人言，吃亏在眼前。我们往往都不听别人的劝导，总以为自己是对的，可是结果是什么呢？不一定是对的哦。

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一句话 (4)

心灵导航

亲爱的朋友，如果你早上醒来发现自己还能自由呼吸，你就比在这个星期中离开人世的人更有福气。如果你从来没有经历过战争的危险、被囚禁的孤寂、受折磨的痛苦和忍饥挨饿的难受… 你已经好过世界上5亿人了。

如果你的银行帐户有存款，钱包里有现金，你已经身居于世界上最富有的8%之列！

如果你的双亲仍然在世，并且没有分居或离婚，你已属于稀少的一群。

如果你能抬起头，面容上带着笑容，并且内心充满感恩的心情，你是真的幸福了── 因为世界上大部分的人都可以这样做，但是他们却没有。

如果你能握着一个人的手，拥抱他，或者只是在他的肩膀上拍一下… 你的确有福气了── 因为你所做的，已经等同于上帝才能做到的。

亲爱的，如果你能读到这段文字，那么你更是拥有了双份的福气，你比20亿不能阅读的人不是幸福很多吗？看到这里，请你暂且放下书，然后非常认真地对自己说一句话：「哇！原来我是这么富有的人！」

以美好的心，欣赏周遭的事物；以真诚的心，对待每一个人；以愉悦的心，分享他人的快乐；以慷慨的心，帮助需要帮助的人；以感恩的心，感谢所拥有的一切。

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时时感恩，因为我们都太粗心大意了，将美好的一切小看了。可能就因为拥有了太多，所以身在福中不知福。馆主有个朋友的老板，真的是个很好的老板、他同时也是个善良的老爷爷。他的人生经历也许是我们无法想象的，但是，他已经不是个怨天尤人的凡人。说他看破了，也不是没可能的，毕竟，经过了岁月的洗刷和磨练，如果还有所执著只会杞人忧天。

馆主很佩服他的人生态度。他应该可以算是个在生命中学习出来的一位智者，是学习的好榜样。好了，这一连串关于“一句话”的系列就到此了。

大家学习快乐！

^_^g

一句话 (3)

原来你也很富有

有一位青年，老是埋怨自己时运不济，发不了财，终日愁眉不展。这一天，走过来一个须发皆白的老人，问：「年轻人，为什么不快乐？」

「我不明白，为什么我总是这么穷。」

「穷？你很富有嘛！」老人由衷地说。

「这从何说起？」年轻人不解。

老人反问道：「假如现在斩掉你一个手指头，给你1千元，你干不干？」

「不干。」年轻人回答。

「假如砍掉你一只手，给你1万元，你干不干？」

「不干。」

「假如使你双眼都瞎掉，给你10万元，你干不干？」

「不干。」

「假如让你马上变成80岁的老人，给你100万，你干不干？」

「不干。」

「假如让你马上死掉，给你1000万，你干不干？」

「不干。」

「这就对了，你已经拥有超过1000万的财富，为什么还哀叹己贫穷呢？」老人笑吟吟地问道。

青年愕然无言，突然什么都明白了。

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那年轻人是明白了，那我们呢？我们是不是也突然觉得自己其实真的是很富有呢？我们往往都忘了，其实我们真的很幸福。也许，时而一小故事能为我们带来反省的机会吧？

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一句话 (2)

佛教六祖惠能大师原是樵夫，因为听到《金刚经》里「应无所住而生其心」这句话，若有所悟，进而寻师访道，后来在五祖弘忍大师座下舂米八月，开悟见性；丹霞禅师本来要进京赶考，因为听到一句「选官不如选佛」而出家学佛，精进修持，成为禅宗一代祖师。

生命是一种学习，任何人在学习的过程中不免遇到困难和迷惑。

给人一句好话，让人生命奋起飞扬，何乐而不为呢？

所以，人要常说：

第一、给人欢喜的话；
第二、给人鼓励的话；
第三、给人肯定的话；
第四、给人赞叹的话。

多说好话，少说坏话。

不经意的一句轻浮话，有时会自毁前程，而一句关怀别人的话，却能让沮丧的人有生存下去的勇气。

因此，人要经常检点自己的口舌，以免破坏了好因好缘。

寒山曰：世间谤我、欺我、辱我、笑我、轻我、贱我、厌我、骗我，我如何处治乎？

拾得云：忍他、让他、由他、避他、耐他、敬他、不要理他。再待几年，你且看他！

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馆主对「应无所住而生其心」特别有感觉。就之前也是如此。可能是受上海的一个艺人在受伤后的感触而引申的启发吧？其实，生命真的是一种学习。因为无论我们的信仰是什么又或者我们有无信仰，我们现在确确实实是从新来到了世间。所以，我们一步一脚印的，就是学习怎么做人，与生命探险着无数的未知数。

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一句话 (1)

人生的成败，常常因为一个人、一件事，甚至一句话而有决定性的影响。

尤其对人有用的一句话，胜过千言万语。

古今中外有很多人因为别人的一句话而深受感动，甚至豁然开朗；由于「一句话」而改变一生的事例，更是多不胜数。

美国著名的教育家和演讲口才艺术家卡内基，小时候是一个非常调皮的小男孩。

他九岁的时候，父亲将继母娶进门。

他父亲向新婚妻子介绍卡内基时，如是说：「希望你注意这个全郡最坏的男孩，他实在令我头痛，说不定明天早晨他还会拿石头砸你，或做出什么坏事呢！」

出乎卡内基预料的是，继母微笑地走到他面前，托着他的头，注视着他。

接着告诉丈夫：「你错了， 他不是全郡最坏的男孩，而是最聪明，只是还没找到发泄热忱地方的男孩。」此话一出，卡内基的眼泪不听使唤地滚滚而下。

就因为这一句话，建立了卡内基和继母之间深厚的感情；也因为这一句话，成就了他立志向上的动力；更因为这一句话，让他日后帮助千千万万的人一同步上了成功之路。

「一句话」很容易说，但重要的是要能让对方受用。

失落着的生命再造，不一定要靠能言善道的人来开导，有时仅仅是一句看起来普通的话，就能为对方带来力量。

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也太巧了。不是才和大家分享“该如何说”吗？若嫦小姐与我们分享这篇关于“一句话”的文章。馆主也在网上看到了这篇文章。看似不错，而且易懂的文字，发人深省。

我们每天都可能说上上百句话，但是，我们有没有发现，在那么多句话中，可能有那么一句将影响另一个人的一生？

像故事中的继母的一句话，就改变了卡内基的一生。所以我们绝对不能口出妄言哦！

^_^g

该怎么说

急事，慢慢的说；
大事，清楚的说；
小事，幽默的说；
没把握的事，谨慎的说；
没发生的事，不要胡说；
做不到的事，别乱乱说；
伤害人的事，不能说；
讨厌的事，对事不对人说；
开心的事，看场合说；
伤心的事，不要见人就说；
别人的事，小心的说；
自己的事，听听自己的心怎么说；
现在的事，做了再说；
未来的事，未来再说；
如果对我有不满意的地方，请一定要对我说。

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说得没错，其实，说话是一门艺术，需要技巧的。我们往往不知道如何说话，才会闹出一连串的事情来。希望这篇文章会对我们有所启发哦！

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A poem for our MOM!

Why are you crying, a young boy asked his Mom?
"Because I'm a woman," she told him.
"I don't understand," he said.
His Mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will, but that's O.K.".......

Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does Mom seem to cry for no reason?" "All women cry for no reason," was all his Dad could say......

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.

Finally he put in a call to God and when God got back to him, he asked "God, why do women cry so easily?"

GOD answered......

"When I made woman, I decided she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet, made her arms gentle enough to give comfort...

I gave her the inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times will come even from her own children.

I gave her a tenacity that allows her to keep going and take care of her family and friends, even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue without complaining....

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances. Even when her child has hurt her badly....

She has the very special power to make a child's boo-boo feel better and to quell a teenager's anxieties and fears....

I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults and I fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart....

I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly....

For all of this hard work, I also gave her a tear to shed. It is hers to use whenever needed and it is her only weakness....

When you see her cry, tell her how much you love her, and all she does for everyone, and even though she may still cry, you will have made her heart feel better.

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好久不见！哈哈！抱歉，前些时候馆主都没登入和大家分享些故事还是什么的，该打该打。接下来的日子里还是会继续和大家一同来学习。那大家也要踊跃投稿，和微笑学习馆的读者一起分享哦！

好了，这一篇文章呢是馆主的一个友人分享的。我们的父母都很伟大，养我们、育我们，还得担心我们。可是很多时候，我们都忽略了他们的感受，和原因。希望我们会注入都一分的孝心来爱戴我们的父母好吗？

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Socrates' Triple Filter Test

One day the great Philosopher came upon an acquaintance, who said excitedly, " Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?"

"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test." "Triple filter?" questioned the young man.

That's right," Socrates continued, "Before you talk to me about my student, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say."

The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?" "No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and ...''

"Ah right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not - Now let's try the second filter, the 2nd filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

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嗯，很多时候我们还没弄清楚状况就有了先入为主的想法，那是对于当事人很不公平的。更多时候，我们应该好好地想想我们要传出去的话是否是真实的，如果没查证，还是先不要胡乱将谣言说成像真的似的。

记住了哦！

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The Light That's Given Away

Once upon a time a man had heard, that in a foreign place, far away, there was a holy flame burning. So he got up and left his home to find the holy flame and bring some of its light back home to his house.

He thought: 'When I have this light, then I will have happiness and life and all the people I love will have it too.'

He travelled far, far away and finally found the holy flame, with which he lit his light. On his way back he had only one worry: 'That his light could go out.'

On his way home he met someone who was freezing and didn't have any fire and who begged him to give him some of his fire. The man with the light hesitated for a moment. Wasn't his light too precious, too holy to be given away for something ordinary like that? Despite these doubts, he decided to give some of his light to the one who was freezing in the darkness.

The man continued his journey home and when he had almost reached his house a terrible thunderstorm started. He tried to protect his light from the rain and the storm, but in the end his light went out.

To travel the long way back to the place where the holy flame was burning was impossible; he wouldn't have enough strength to go back that far - but he was strong enough to return to the human being whom he had helped on his way home.

.........and with his light he could light his own again.

ORIGIN OF STORY UNKNOWN

田真叹荆

tián zhēn tàn jīng

在隋朝时候有三个兄弟，老大叫田真，两个弟弟叫田庆、田广。
zài suí cháo shí hou yǒu sān gè xiōng dì，lǎo dà jiào tián zhēn，liǎng gè dì di jiào tián qìng、tián guǎng。

父母都去世了，田真就打算把家产分为三份，准备分家。
fù mǔ dōu qù shì le，tián zhēn jiù dǎ suàn bǎ jiā chǎn fēn wéi sān fèn，zhǔn bèi fēn jiā。

所有的东西都分好了，他们家门口有棵紫荆树，这棵树如何分？
suǒ yǒu de dōng xī dōu fēn hǎo le，tā men jiā mén kǒu yǒu kē zǐ jīng shù，zhè kē shù rú hé fēn？

三兄弟都说，不然就把它砍成三份，这样也公平。
sān xiōng dì dōu shuì，bù rán jiù bǎ tā kǎn chéng sān fèn，zhè yàng yě gōng píng。

结果才讲完没有多久，这棵紫荆树就枯死了。
jié guǒ cái jiǎng wán méi yǒu duō jiǔ，zhè kē zǐ jīng shù jiù kū sǐ le。

田真毕竟读过书，一看到树枯死了，突然想到同气连枝的话，
tián zhēn bì jìng dòu guò shū，yī kàn dào shù kū sǐ le，tū rán xiǎng dào tóng qì lián zhī de huà，

「我们兄弟要分家，要把树分了，树已经感受到这种不仁爱、不友爱的行为，立刻就枯死了。」 「wǒ men xiōng dì yāo fēn jiā，yāo bǎ shù fēn le，shù yǐ jīng gǎn shòu dào zhè zhǒng bù rén ài、bù yǒu ài de xíng wéi，lì kè jiù kū sǐ le。」

田真想，我们不能连树木都不如，应该要友爱才对。
tián zhēn xiǎng，wǒ men bù néng lián shù mù dōu bù rú，yīng gāi yāo yǒu ài cái duì。

所以，他把这种感受讲给兄弟听，希望我们是同气连枝，都是父母所养育的，父母不愿意看到我们分离。
suǒ yǐ，tā bǎ zhè zhǒng gǎn shòu jiǎng gěi xiōng dì tīng，xī wàng wǒ men shì tóng qì lián zhī，dōu shì fù mǔ suǒ yǎng yù de，fù mǔ bù yuàn yì kàn dào wǒ men fēn lí。

后来三兄弟就没有分家，又住在一起，结果这个紫荆树没过多久又复活了。
hòu lái sān xiōng dì jiù méi yǒu fēn jiā，yòu zhù zài yì qǐ，jié guǒ zhè gè zǐ jīng shù méi guò duō jiǔ yòu fù huó le。

所以，万物确实都是有感觉的。
suǒ yǐ，wàn wù què shí dōu shì yǒu gǎn jué de。

连树都可以感觉到家庭失和而枯萎，也能感受到家庭的每一分子都团结和睦而欣欣向荣。
lián shù dōu kě yǐ gǎn jué dào jiā tíng shī hé ér kū wěi，yě néng gǎn shòu dào jiā tíng de měi yī fēn zǐ dōu tuán jié hé mù ér xīn xīn xiàng róng。

三字经 - 削竹为简

公孙弘是西汉时的名臣，小的时候家里很穷，但他一直没有停止过学习。买不起书，他就把竹林里的竹子砍下来，劈成一块块竹片，刮去青皮，然后从别人那里借来《春秋》，一字不漏地抄下来，日夜诵读。后来，在汉武帝亲自主持的一次考试中，他已经辟的见解和渊博的知识，技压群雄，得到汉武帝的赏识，最后做了汉朝的宰相。他在艰苦的条件下发奋努力，成为国家的有用之才，很值得我们学习。

三字经 – 编蒲抄书

披蒲编 削竹简 彼无书 且知勉


释义
古时候的路温舒把蒲草编织成席抄书学习，公孙弘将竹子削成抄书学习。他们虽然家里穷没书可读，但依然能刻苦学习。

故事
汉朝有个叫路温舒的人，非常爱学习。可是因为家里穷，父亲没有钱供他上学，他只好给别人放羊勉强维持生计。虽然失去了学习的机会，路温舒心里很难受，但他并没有放弃学习。没钱买书，就向别人借，可这样很不方便。有一天，他放羊时发现河边有一种叶子很宽的蒲草灵机一动，就采了不少蒲草，编成一张席子。然后把借来的书都抄在席子上，这样读起来就很方便了。他用这种方法读了很多书，后来成了一个很有学问的人。

Appreciate what you have

My mother and I (part 2)

'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice, Much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.

A few days later, my Mother died of a massive heart attack.

It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.'

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I love YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till 'some other time.'

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby.... somebody doesn't know that once you're a Mother,'normal' is history.

Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first... somebody doesn't have two or more children.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a Mother is labor and delivery ... somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten ... or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.'

Somebody said a Mother can stop worrying after her child gets married ... somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a Mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a Mother's job is done when her last child leaves home ... somebody never had grandchildren.

Somebody said your Mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her ... somebody isn't a Mother.

My mother and I (part 1)

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.'

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.. 'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked? My Mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded 'just the two of us.'

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that very much.'

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait to hear about our meeting.'

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My Mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print.. Half way through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw Mother sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was I who used to have to read the menu
when you were small, 'she said.

'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,! ' I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.' I agreed.

... to be continued...

迷失與本質 (3)

發現自己的本質，瞭解自己本質的目標，重新找回這些目標，不要再迷失了。現在飛機、船隻大量使用衛星定位系統GPS，好知道自己身在何處，以免迷失。


心靈裡，是否也需要一種系統，以免自己迷失了本質的作用呢？別再犯同樣的錯誤：由本質之良善出發，卻迷失在這紅塵俗世中。


當你感覺很不好時，希望你能像那位爸爸一樣，找回自己最原始的目標，從而放下一切根本不必要的負面情感。

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忙的時候，想要休息；渡假的時候，想到未來。

窮的時候，渴望富有；生活安逸了，怕幸福不能長久。

該決定的時候，擔心結果不如預期；看明白了，又後悔當初沒有下決心。

不屬於自己的，常常心存慾望；握在手裡了，又懷念未擁有前的輕鬆。

「生命若不是現在，那是何時？」

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迷失與本質 (2)

是的，許多事的本質與動機都是好的，可是一但出發之後，卻似太空船航向未知的星空，投入無邊的「迷失」之中了。人的本質，有愛、有情、有慈悲、有智慧，但這是所謂本質投入這個世界後，有另一定律，牽引著這本質走向另一未知，那就是：「迷失」。


宗教的本質，是為認識上帝，接近上帝，但歷史上有多少宗教戰爭呢？！慈善事業的本質，是在恤貧憫孤，但大多數的慈善是不是也有迷失於名、利的狀況呢？


孟子的性善，道盡人心深層裡必定有一至善之本質；可是荀子的性惡，卻似乎毫不掩飾地指出，這本質有極大的可能，迷失在往前走的路上。無怪乎儒家千百年中不敢獨尊性善或性惡，因為很可惜的是，純善的本質易迷失在這人世間！


人的內心中，都充滿了愛，由此本質出發，推動我們做不少事；但日常生活中，多少愛轉成分離、爭吵、失望，甚至怨恨。這也是一種迷失，迷失了本質的目的。


二十一世紀，人類最大的發現，將是：發現自己。

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有时候，馆主更觉得我们都没怀着不好的想法出发，但是我们的行为并不一定把这好意表现出来。之前馆主读了一本由特里沙修女语录实记所写成的一本书籍，真的很感人。而最重要的一点就是“爱”。要好好地爱身边的人，到底有多难，你知道吗？

我们也好好地学习着吧！

加油！

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迷失與本質 (1)

先從一個故事開始吧。美國有個中年人，平時忙於工作，沒空陪他唯一的兒子為此感到內疚。有一天他下定決心安排好某個周六下午保持絕對的空檔，買了兩張大聯盟賽的門票，來好好陪陪兒子！


時間到了，他和兒子快快樂樂開車出門，但很不幸地，居然碰上了大塞車！眼看球已經開始，他們的車還塞在半路上動彈不得，兩人在車內便一直抱怨，生氣這個都是...這個交通...忽然，老爸想起來：「我安排今天有空，不是就是為了要和我兒子在一起嗎? 現在我不是正和兒子在一起嗎？那我又何必在乎那場球賽呢？」於是他開始放下生氣的情緒，和他的兒子愉快的聊了一個下午。


人的許多動機，是由他的本質出發，但在實踐的過程中，卻很容易迷失了。正如這為老爸他所求的本質是好好陪一陪他的兒子，但在實踐的過程中，卻被塞車、球賽等等牽扯到了另一種心境去了。


婚姻的本質，是兩個人相知相惜的相伴結果，但不少人最後迷失在爭吵、鬧意見、誰該洗碗的牢籠中，找不回當初結婚的本質；認識新朋友，本該在友情的基礎上，互相幫助，製造快樂；但隨著時間的流逝，演變出多少計較、冷漠與抱怨。

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谢谢月莉小姐和我们分享这则故事。我们会慢慢分享着关于本质的原理。好好来阅读哦！

加油！

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三字经 – 勤奋的赵普

赵中令 读鲁论 彼既仕 学且勤

释义
赵普是宋朝的开国宰相，他非常喜欢《论语》，即使做了高官，仍然坚持勤奋地学习。

故事
赵普 (zhao4 pu3) 是宋朝的宰相 (zai3 xiang4)，没当官之前就非常喜欢读书。当了宰相后，爱读书的习惯仍没有改变。一天晚上，宋太祖赵匡胤 (zhao4 kuang1 yin2) 找他去商量国家大事。一进门，见赵普正在挑灯 (tiao3 deng1) 夜读，赵匡胤见他读的是《论语》，十分奇怪，就问他：“《论语》是儿童的启蒙 (qi3 meng2) 读物，你怎么还在读呢？”赵普说：“我只用半部《论语》就为你打下天下，还要用另一半帮你治理天下。”像赵普这样的高官都能坚持读书，今天的青少年更应发奋学习。

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确实啊！如今能像他那么学而不倦的精神的人真的是少有。更别说青少年了。我们总是觉得为了应付课业就很辛苦了，课外还要再读书可真是南国的事。但我们如果只读课业的东西，是不足够的。我们要充实自己就得从各方面下手才行哦！

加油！

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Not Making Negative Meanings

Ever since we were conscious of ourselves and our surroundings, we’ve been trying to perceive or “make meaning” of things. We do this all the time, with everything – a child gleefully laps up an ice-cream cone, because to him, it tastes sweet and cool. To a person watching his weight, the same ice-cream cone may mean an extra hour at the gym. A tree, to the average person, is simply a big plant. To a conservationist, it’s a precious resource to be saved.

It’s human instinct to create meaning for ourselves. How we feel is based largely on how we “make meaning” of people, events, and things, and sometimes, we can create unnecessary worry or pain for ourselves by making negative meanings. For some of us, this happens so often that it affects our relationships, peace of mind, self-esteem, and work performance.

Here are some common examples of how we create needless pain for ourselves.

When our partner seems too busy to pick us up, or forgets the anniversary of the day we met, we think that he or she no longer loves us. Or when a friend cancels a date and we imagine that he or she doesn’t like our company. You say “hello” to someone you admire at work and he or she doesn’t seem to see you. Does that mean he or she doesn’t like me? Does it mean that I’m a nobody? Maybe I’m not good enough for his or her attention. Did someone say something bad about me?

You see how this kind of negative self-talk can be pointless and damaging? The real reason is probably that he or she really did not see you or was preoccupied with a particularly stressful dilemma. Whatever the reason, who knows? Why speculate?

The next time you’re faced with an emotional reaction, get in the habit of asking yourself, “What am I making this mean”? Stop your mind from derailing. Connect with reality. Is your perception the only reality? The only possible conclusion? Aren’t there simply too many to fathom?

Consider shifting from a limited view of yourself. Focus on what’s positive, larger and perhaps more true about you. Let go of the negative self-talk. Once you eliminate the endless mind loops of fear and self-doubt that come from second-guessing, from making meaning without the facts, you free up your energy. Can you imagine how this could improve your relationships? How much more peaceful your world can be?

How could you use your time and energy in more positive and enjoyable ways?

source: Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio

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哇，不知不觉已经在这个小小天地分享了 200 则故事。哈哈！时间过得真快不是吗？如果我们用一片刻的时间好好地回顾我们的一生，是不是也发现我们很多时候会很悲观地去看待别人对待我们的方式呢？其实，我国我们有去反省那还好，可是很多时候我们也就只停留在“他不喜欢我；他针对我”的想法而已，所以我们一直埋怨，一直觉得天理何在。为什么要别自己狭窄的心胸所限制呢？

放开胸怀，好好地享受活着的每一份每一秒吧！

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A $20 bill

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?".

Hands started going up.

He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this." He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill.

He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air.

Well, he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on th ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.

He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. "Now, who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.

"My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20."

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless.

But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to your Creator and those who love you.

The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE and WHOSE WE ARE.

Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? - Matthew 6:26

Adapted from Precious Moments

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我们往往都忘了我们都是无价之宝。我们因为遇到了挫折就贬低自己的价值。我们不可以忘记天生我才必有用这句话。加油加油！相信自己，我们的潜能无限哦！

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Isn't it strange?

Isn't it strange how a 100-dollar bill seems like such a large amount when you donate it to church/temple, but such a small amount when you go shopping?

Isn't it strange how 2 hours seem so long when you're at church/temple, and how short they seem when you're watching a good movie?

Isn't it strange that you can't find a word to say when you're praying, but you have no trouble thinking what to talk about with a friend?

Isn't it strange how difficult and boring it is to read one chapter of the Bible/Dao-books, but how easy it is to read 100 pages of a popular novel or ZANE GREY book?

Isn't it strange how everyone wants front-row-tickets to concerts or games, but they do whatever is possible to sit at the last row in Church/Temple?

Isn't it strange how we need to know about an event for Church/Temple 2-3 weeks before the day so we can include it in our agenda, but we can adjust it for other events at the last minute?

Isn't it strange how difficult it is to learn a fact about God to share it with others, but how easy it is to learn, understand, extend and repeat gossip?

Isn't it strange how we believe everything that magazines and newspapers say, but we question the words in the Bible/Dao-books?

Isn't it strange how everyone wants a place in heaven, but they don't want to believe, do, or say anything to get there?

Isn't it strange how we send jokes in e-mails and they are forwarded right away, but when we are going to send messages about God, we think about it twice before we share it with others?

source: Adapted

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其实没错哦，我们老是会犯以上的错误不是吗？至少有一项吧？像馆主也是。人非圣贤，若十全十美也就不会在人世间了。但无论如何，我们都希望在有生之年可以讲不好的习惯一一改进。

加油了！

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