迷失與本質 (3)

發現自己的本質，瞭解自己本質的目標，重新找回這些目標，不要再迷失了。現在飛機、船隻大量使用衛星定位系統GPS，好知道自己身在何處，以免迷失。


心靈裡，是否也需要一種系統，以免自己迷失了本質的作用呢？別再犯同樣的錯誤：由本質之良善出發，卻迷失在這紅塵俗世中。


當你感覺很不好時，希望你能像那位爸爸一樣，找回自己最原始的目標，從而放下一切根本不必要的負面情感。

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忙的時候，想要休息；渡假的時候，想到未來。

窮的時候，渴望富有；生活安逸了，怕幸福不能長久。

該決定的時候，擔心結果不如預期；看明白了，又後悔當初沒有下決心。

不屬於自己的，常常心存慾望；握在手裡了，又懷念未擁有前的輕鬆。

「生命若不是現在，那是何時？」

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迷失與本質 (2)

是的，許多事的本質與動機都是好的，可是一但出發之後，卻似太空船航向未知的星空，投入無邊的「迷失」之中了。人的本質，有愛、有情、有慈悲、有智慧，但這是所謂本質投入這個世界後，有另一定律，牽引著這本質走向另一未知，那就是：「迷失」。


宗教的本質，是為認識上帝，接近上帝，但歷史上有多少宗教戰爭呢？！慈善事業的本質，是在恤貧憫孤，但大多數的慈善是不是也有迷失於名、利的狀況呢？


孟子的性善，道盡人心深層裡必定有一至善之本質；可是荀子的性惡，卻似乎毫不掩飾地指出，這本質有極大的可能，迷失在往前走的路上。無怪乎儒家千百年中不敢獨尊性善或性惡，因為很可惜的是，純善的本質易迷失在這人世間！


人的內心中，都充滿了愛，由此本質出發，推動我們做不少事；但日常生活中，多少愛轉成分離、爭吵、失望，甚至怨恨。這也是一種迷失，迷失了本質的目的。


二十一世紀，人類最大的發現，將是：發現自己。

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有时候，馆主更觉得我们都没怀着不好的想法出发，但是我们的行为并不一定把这好意表现出来。之前馆主读了一本由特里沙修女语录实记所写成的一本书籍，真的很感人。而最重要的一点就是“爱”。要好好地爱身边的人，到底有多难，你知道吗？

我们也好好地学习着吧！

加油！

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迷失與本質 (1)

先從一個故事開始吧。美國有個中年人，平時忙於工作，沒空陪他唯一的兒子為此感到內疚。有一天他下定決心安排好某個周六下午保持絕對的空檔，買了兩張大聯盟賽的門票，來好好陪陪兒子！


時間到了，他和兒子快快樂樂開車出門，但很不幸地，居然碰上了大塞車！眼看球已經開始，他們的車還塞在半路上動彈不得，兩人在車內便一直抱怨，生氣這個都是...這個交通...忽然，老爸想起來：「我安排今天有空，不是就是為了要和我兒子在一起嗎? 現在我不是正和兒子在一起嗎？那我又何必在乎那場球賽呢？」於是他開始放下生氣的情緒，和他的兒子愉快的聊了一個下午。


人的許多動機，是由他的本質出發，但在實踐的過程中，卻很容易迷失了。正如這為老爸他所求的本質是好好陪一陪他的兒子，但在實踐的過程中，卻被塞車、球賽等等牽扯到了另一種心境去了。


婚姻的本質，是兩個人相知相惜的相伴結果，但不少人最後迷失在爭吵、鬧意見、誰該洗碗的牢籠中，找不回當初結婚的本質；認識新朋友，本該在友情的基礎上，互相幫助，製造快樂；但隨著時間的流逝，演變出多少計較、冷漠與抱怨。

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谢谢月莉小姐和我们分享这则故事。我们会慢慢分享着关于本质的原理。好好来阅读哦！

加油！

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三字经 – 勤奋的赵普

赵中令 读鲁论 彼既仕 学且勤

释义
赵普是宋朝的开国宰相，他非常喜欢《论语》，即使做了高官，仍然坚持勤奋地学习。

故事
赵普 (zhao4 pu3) 是宋朝的宰相 (zai3 xiang4)，没当官之前就非常喜欢读书。当了宰相后，爱读书的习惯仍没有改变。一天晚上，宋太祖赵匡胤 (zhao4 kuang1 yin2) 找他去商量国家大事。一进门，见赵普正在挑灯 (tiao3 deng1) 夜读，赵匡胤见他读的是《论语》，十分奇怪，就问他：“《论语》是儿童的启蒙 (qi3 meng2) 读物，你怎么还在读呢？”赵普说：“我只用半部《论语》就为你打下天下，还要用另一半帮你治理天下。”像赵普这样的高官都能坚持读书，今天的青少年更应发奋学习。

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确实啊！如今能像他那么学而不倦的精神的人真的是少有。更别说青少年了。我们总是觉得为了应付课业就很辛苦了，课外还要再读书可真是南国的事。但我们如果只读课业的东西，是不足够的。我们要充实自己就得从各方面下手才行哦！

加油！

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Not Making Negative Meanings

Ever since we were conscious of ourselves and our surroundings, we’ve been trying to perceive or “make meaning” of things. We do this all the time, with everything – a child gleefully laps up an ice-cream cone, because to him, it tastes sweet and cool. To a person watching his weight, the same ice-cream cone may mean an extra hour at the gym. A tree, to the average person, is simply a big plant. To a conservationist, it’s a precious resource to be saved.

It’s human instinct to create meaning for ourselves. How we feel is based largely on how we “make meaning” of people, events, and things, and sometimes, we can create unnecessary worry or pain for ourselves by making negative meanings. For some of us, this happens so often that it affects our relationships, peace of mind, self-esteem, and work performance.

Here are some common examples of how we create needless pain for ourselves.

When our partner seems too busy to pick us up, or forgets the anniversary of the day we met, we think that he or she no longer loves us. Or when a friend cancels a date and we imagine that he or she doesn’t like our company. You say “hello” to someone you admire at work and he or she doesn’t seem to see you. Does that mean he or she doesn’t like me? Does it mean that I’m a nobody? Maybe I’m not good enough for his or her attention. Did someone say something bad about me?

You see how this kind of negative self-talk can be pointless and damaging? The real reason is probably that he or she really did not see you or was preoccupied with a particularly stressful dilemma. Whatever the reason, who knows? Why speculate?

The next time you’re faced with an emotional reaction, get in the habit of asking yourself, “What am I making this mean”? Stop your mind from derailing. Connect with reality. Is your perception the only reality? The only possible conclusion? Aren’t there simply too many to fathom?

Consider shifting from a limited view of yourself. Focus on what’s positive, larger and perhaps more true about you. Let go of the negative self-talk. Once you eliminate the endless mind loops of fear and self-doubt that come from second-guessing, from making meaning without the facts, you free up your energy. Can you imagine how this could improve your relationships? How much more peaceful your world can be?

How could you use your time and energy in more positive and enjoyable ways?

source: Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio

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哇，不知不觉已经在这个小小天地分享了 200 则故事。哈哈！时间过得真快不是吗？如果我们用一片刻的时间好好地回顾我们的一生，是不是也发现我们很多时候会很悲观地去看待别人对待我们的方式呢？其实，我国我们有去反省那还好，可是很多时候我们也就只停留在“他不喜欢我；他针对我”的想法而已，所以我们一直埋怨，一直觉得天理何在。为什么要别自己狭窄的心胸所限制呢？

放开胸怀，好好地享受活着的每一份每一秒吧！

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A $20 bill

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?".

Hands started going up.

He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this." He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill.

He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air.

Well, he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on th ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.

He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. "Now, who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.

"My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20."

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless.

But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to your Creator and those who love you.

The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE and WHOSE WE ARE.

Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? - Matthew 6:26

Adapted from Precious Moments

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我们往往都忘了我们都是无价之宝。我们因为遇到了挫折就贬低自己的价值。我们不可以忘记天生我才必有用这句话。加油加油！相信自己，我们的潜能无限哦！

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Isn't it strange?

Isn't it strange how a 100-dollar bill seems like such a large amount when you donate it to church/temple, but such a small amount when you go shopping?

Isn't it strange how 2 hours seem so long when you're at church/temple, and how short they seem when you're watching a good movie?

Isn't it strange that you can't find a word to say when you're praying, but you have no trouble thinking what to talk about with a friend?

Isn't it strange how difficult and boring it is to read one chapter of the Bible/Dao-books, but how easy it is to read 100 pages of a popular novel or ZANE GREY book?

Isn't it strange how everyone wants front-row-tickets to concerts or games, but they do whatever is possible to sit at the last row in Church/Temple?

Isn't it strange how we need to know about an event for Church/Temple 2-3 weeks before the day so we can include it in our agenda, but we can adjust it for other events at the last minute?

Isn't it strange how difficult it is to learn a fact about God to share it with others, but how easy it is to learn, understand, extend and repeat gossip?

Isn't it strange how we believe everything that magazines and newspapers say, but we question the words in the Bible/Dao-books?

Isn't it strange how everyone wants a place in heaven, but they don't want to believe, do, or say anything to get there?

Isn't it strange how we send jokes in e-mails and they are forwarded right away, but when we are going to send messages about God, we think about it twice before we share it with others?

source: Adapted

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其实没错哦，我们老是会犯以上的错误不是吗？至少有一项吧？像馆主也是。人非圣贤，若十全十美也就不会在人世间了。但无论如何，我们都希望在有生之年可以讲不好的习惯一一改进。

加油了！

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三字经 – 孔子拜师

昔仲尼 师项橐 古圣贤 尚勤学

释义
从前，孔子曾拜过一个七岁的孩子项橐 (xiang4 tuo2) 为师。作为一代圣贤，还如此谦虚好学，是多么值得我们学习啊！

故事
孔子是古代著名的圣贤，他一生勤奋好学，而且十分谦虚，不论任何人，只要有一技之长，他都虚心向人家学习。一次，他外出遇到几个小孩正在玩游戏，挡住了他的去路。当孔子问他们为什么不让路时，一个叫项橐的小孩儿针对孔子的问话提出了自己的观点。孔子见项橐聪明，便一连提出了很多问题，但项橐都对答如流。孔子十分惊叹他的聪明，就虚心地向他学习。被称为圣人的孔子都能这样，我们普通人更应该多学习了。

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不耻下问，是孔子圣人让人敬佩的学习精神。像他如此的一名贤者都一直学不厌倦，我们真的是该好好地不断学习才是。其实，学无止境，所以无论我们已经拥有了多少的文凭也不代表我们真的已经“天下无敌”了哟。

加油加油！

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Amazing Hug

知道狮子为什么会那么温顺地拥抱那位妇女吗？因为之前那位女士救了快要死掉的它，它现在已经康复了，所以看到那位女士时，特别开心，于是拥抱她。所以我们可以看到，动物也有灵性。它们也知道感恩。

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清明节

清明节是中华民族传统的纪念祖先的节日，其主要形式是祭祖扫墓。

这一习俗相沿已久，据史书记载，秦汉时代，墓祭已成为不可或缺的礼俗活动。

唐代杜牧的名句：

"清明时节雨纷纷，路上行人欲断魂；
借问酒家何处有，牧童遥指杏花村。"

自古以来，清明扫墓不光是纪念自己的祖先，对历史上为人民立过功，做过好事的人物，人民都会纪念他。

清 明 节 习 俗

清明节的习俗是丰富有趣的，除了讲究禁火、扫墓，还有踏青、荡秋千、蹴鞠、打马球、插柳等一系列风俗体育活动。

相传这是因为清明节要寒食禁火，为了防止寒食冷餐伤身，所以大家来参加一些体育活动，以锻炼身体。
因此，这个节日中既有祭扫新坟生别死离的悲酸泪，又有踏青游玩的欢笑声，是一个富有特色的节日。

取自《农历网》