Living With Dementia
produced by Singapore Polytechnic
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真的很感人，也很让人觉得可悲。。我们是不是也让爱着我们的人为了我们奔波劳累，而没有关心他们？
真的应该好好反省了。
^_^g
Sunday 6 December 2009
Friday 4 December 2009
Letting Go of Revenge
Retailation is an instinctive response for most people when they suffer an injustice. Even the most peace-loving pacifist experiences some points in life where he or she comtemplates the idea of revenge. One may not act upon the thought, but the very idea of "getting back" at someone is enough to rob us of happiness, if it becomes a preoccupation.
The desire for revenge is an obsession, and obsessions pull us away from the most important things in life, like our loved ones, our work, and the enjoyment of all that we have. It prevents us from living fully in the moment because it traps us in a cycle of thinking: "Now, how shall I hurt this person who has hurt me, so that I might feel better?"
The fact is, no one feels better after a vengeful act. If someone has done something disrespectful or disdainful enough to upset us, our act of vengeance would have to be just as bad, or worse. Consequently, we lower ourselves to a level where it's difficult to respect ourselves, and our sense of self-worth suffers. In the long-run, our souls become pale and sick because we've shut it in a dark room for too long, ignoring the sunshine of forgiveness which exists just outside. As E.H. Chapin once said, "Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge, and dares to forgive an injury."
People who focus on revenge don't allow their wounds to heal. They never quite recover from the transgression, because in order to fan the flame of revenge, they have to keep their wounds open... better still, make them bigger and allow them to fester. Old hurts tend to become more and more grievous when we allow them to bubble and boil in our cauldron of resentment.
People with a strong desire for revenge miss out on many good things in life. They often only see the ugly, the unjust, and the irredeemable. They add to the anger and hatred in the world, of which, if you haven't already noticed, we have in great abundance.
Revenge, ultimately achieves nothing. After the act, you might feel "good" for a while, but the thrill wears off. You realise that revenge doesn't heal your grievances. You don't become a better person, in fact, you're just as bad as the person who supposedly wronged you. You realise that while you were comtemplating revenge, your relationship with your loved ones and the world had suffered.
Forgiveness is so much easier, and it is so much sweeter than revenge.
As Confucius once said, "To be wronged is nothing... unless you continue to remember it."
Adapted from Eugene Loh - A Slice of Life
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没有错，其实人生中最大的美德，就是饶恕。可是，我们往往只记得别人对我们的不好，而一心想要报复他们，而最终在这过程中迷失了自己 --- 真正的自己。
我们要学习放开过去，这样，我们才有可能拥抱更美好的明天哟！
加油！^_^g
The desire for revenge is an obsession, and obsessions pull us away from the most important things in life, like our loved ones, our work, and the enjoyment of all that we have. It prevents us from living fully in the moment because it traps us in a cycle of thinking: "Now, how shall I hurt this person who has hurt me, so that I might feel better?"
The fact is, no one feels better after a vengeful act. If someone has done something disrespectful or disdainful enough to upset us, our act of vengeance would have to be just as bad, or worse. Consequently, we lower ourselves to a level where it's difficult to respect ourselves, and our sense of self-worth suffers. In the long-run, our souls become pale and sick because we've shut it in a dark room for too long, ignoring the sunshine of forgiveness which exists just outside. As E.H. Chapin once said, "Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge, and dares to forgive an injury."
People who focus on revenge don't allow their wounds to heal. They never quite recover from the transgression, because in order to fan the flame of revenge, they have to keep their wounds open... better still, make them bigger and allow them to fester. Old hurts tend to become more and more grievous when we allow them to bubble and boil in our cauldron of resentment.
People with a strong desire for revenge miss out on many good things in life. They often only see the ugly, the unjust, and the irredeemable. They add to the anger and hatred in the world, of which, if you haven't already noticed, we have in great abundance.
Revenge, ultimately achieves nothing. After the act, you might feel "good" for a while, but the thrill wears off. You realise that revenge doesn't heal your grievances. You don't become a better person, in fact, you're just as bad as the person who supposedly wronged you. You realise that while you were comtemplating revenge, your relationship with your loved ones and the world had suffered.
Forgiveness is so much easier, and it is so much sweeter than revenge.
As Confucius once said, "To be wronged is nothing... unless you continue to remember it."
Adapted from Eugene Loh - A Slice of Life
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
没有错，其实人生中最大的美德，就是饶恕。可是，我们往往只记得别人对我们的不好，而一心想要报复他们，而最终在这过程中迷失了自己 --- 真正的自己。
我们要学习放开过去，这样，我们才有可能拥抱更美好的明天哟！
加油！^_^g
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