'Owed to Joy'

Today, a story by Ted A. Thompson shows us the true meaning of Christmas.

He writes: The year our youngest daughter, Shelly, was four, she received a Christmas present of a giant bubble-maker, a simple device of plastic and cloth, the inventor promised would create huge billowing bubbles, large enough to swallow a wide-eyed four year-old.

Both Shelly and I were excited about trying it out but it was after dark so we would have to wait until the next day.

Later that night I read the instruction booklet which stated that Joy dishwashing detergent would create the best giant bubbles. I would have to buy some.

The next monring, I was awakened very early by small stirrings in the house. Shelly was up. I arose and made my way towards the kitchen to start the coffee. In the hallway, I met my daughter, already wide awake, the bubble-maker clutched in her chubby little hand, the magic of Christmas morning embraced in her four year-old heart.

Her eyes were shining with excitement and she asked, "Daddy, can we make bubbles now?"

I sighed heavily and rubbed my eyes. "Shelly," I said, my voice almost pleading and perhaps a little annoyed, "it's too early. I haven't even had my coffee yet."

Her smile fell away. Immediately, I felt a father's remorse for bursting her bright Christmas bubble with what I suddenly realized was my own selfish problem and my heart broke a little.

But I was a grown-up. I could fix this. In a flash of adult inspiration, I unshouldered the responsibility. Recalling the inventor's recommendation of a particular brand of bubble-making detergent --- which I knew we did not have in the house --- I laid the blame squarely on him, pointing out gently, "Besides, you have to have Joy."

"Oh, Daddy," she promised, with all the honesty and enthusiasm and Christmas excitement she could possibly communicate, "Oh, Daddy, I do."

I broke records getting to the store and in no time at all we were out on the front lawn creating gigantic, billowing, gossamer orbs --- each one filled with Joy and sent forth shimmering into the Christmas sun.

Written by Ted A. Thompson

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祝大家圣诞快乐哦！也要记住，真正的快乐是因为身边的家人朋友的相伴而不是礼物的价值哦！

加油~！

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Effective Time Management

Time is one of our most precious resources.

Each of us is only given a finite amount of it and how we choose to make use of that time makes all the difference.

Consider these questions:

Do you know where your time is being spent?

Do you know where you are maximising your time and where it is simply being wasted?

Are you spending more time on the things that take you closer to your goals?

Do you prioritise your activities in order of importance or impact?

Do you focus on one thing at a time instead of trying to do many things at once?

People who feel like they're stuck are not fully aware of where their time is going or going into. They don't prioritise their activities and tend to spend most of their time on things that don't bring about any positive change.

The passage towards their goals is often derailed by distractions. And they try to cram as many tasks as possible into a period of time, often ending up with mediocre or even below-average results.

The first step towards taking control of your time is understanding what it is exactly you're spending it on. Keep a record of how much of your time each day is spent doing what.

You might be surprised at just how much of your life is being wasted on activities that essentially don't benefit you at all.

Gradually scratch those things off your schedule and replace them with what I call "actuators" --- activities that get you ahead in terms of your self-development.

Next, identify the activities that give you the greatest mileage and spend more time on time. For example, would shifting your gym training to before you go to the office make you more alert and efficient?

Would it give you more time later to tackle unforeseen tasks and finish your work properly?

What about focusing on clients who demand better quality work but also pay better rather than accepting every job that comes along?

Always prioritise your tasks and highlight the top or top two jobs that absolutely must be done by the end of the day. This way, even when contingencies crop up (as they often do), you'll be sure that you got the most important things covered.

As much as possible, focus on one task at a time and strive to give it your best. Too much emphasis is put on multi-tasking these days and it's highly over-rated.

If you can do several things at a time but only produce average results, you're simply a robot in a factory line.

It's the ones who can do one thing but excel in it who are most valuable.

And finally, even if the Internet seems like the only thing you'll need these days, it can be one of the biggest time-wasters.

Things like email, instant messaging and social networking can easily take up a huge chunk of your day if you don't limit the time you spend on them.

So give yourself a quota. One or two hours a day and that's it.

There's more to life than Facebook.

Adapted from 'A Slice of Life' --- Presented and Written by Eugene Loh

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没错，其实，我们可能都没有好好地去利用时间，所以才会觉得时间永远都不够用。馆主有时也会这样觉得，所以，开始在生活中做出了不同的尝试和改变。希望大家也能在生活中找到更好的使用程序哦！

加油！

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素食豬的由來 養豬戶駱鴻賢的覺悟

说真的，馆主看了这短片、访问后，真的感到很感动。也很庆幸骆先生的领悟。。。说实在的，大家应该都晓得世上的所有动物、植物都是有灵性的。己所不欲、勿施于人，所以，我们也不希望我们是任由别人宰割的吧？那么相同的道理，动物当然也不希望任由我们的摆布。

认真想想哦。

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Africa's Super Seven

Seeing Failure As Success

We all know that in life, we can't avoid failing.

Yet, there's a way of viewing failure that might actually make it empowering for us.

Author Laura B. Randolph once said that "failure is success if we learn from it".

Following this logic, we can take it that life's upheavals are not meant to defeat us. They are intended to make us stronger. Every failure presents an opportunity to learn something that would benefit us in future.

With this view, we no longer need to see failure as a setback.

So if you're going through a bad patch, instead of spending your time moping, think critically about what could have led to your situation. What could you have done better? What new knowledge did you gain from this experience? What are your options now taht can take you to a better place?

Look forward. No storm lasts forever. And though life's potholes can slow us down, even break us a bit, they can always be breached. And we can heal and improve. Humans are the original upgradeable machines.

In life, there is only one dead end. But the rest of the time, your life is still ahead of you, no matter how bleak present circumstances seem. Even the apparent "dimness" of your present plight is a matter of outlook. Don't allow a setback to limit your view and prevent you from enjoying the rest of what life has to offer.

Too many of us focus on the negative aspects of life. Seldom do we savour and cherish the good parts of life. We simply take them for granted until they're no longer around.

Similarly, we often view failure with derision and disappointment. But it's time to change this mindset.

Make failure a stepping stone and it will nudge you towards your eventaul goals.

Let's learn from the words of author Laura B. Randolph... if we learn from Failure, it really is Success with another name.

Adapted from 'A Slice of Life' presented by Eugene Loh

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其实，馆主还蛮赞同的。每次事情发生后，我们只顾着找出罪魁祸首，却忘了其实那已经不重要了。更重要的是，依据现在的情况，我们该如何将它变好。从过失中学习、进步，那才是有用的。

加油哦！

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A Thinking Problem

Do you think too much? Do you dream up worse-case scenarios in your head before they happen? Do you turn trivial snags in your career or relationships and turn them into apocalyptic catastrophes?

Well, I'm exaggerating for effect of course, but it's a condition that many of us suffer from but are woefully unaware of.

If you feel you could be suffering from a "thinking problem", well, that's a good start because if you're able to admit it, you're already on the road to recovery. Most "problem thinkers" don't realise they have a problem.

"What's the harm in a couple of thinks?" they say.

"Oh, I'm just a social thinker!" they claim.

But very soon, they can't start their day without a think and can't go to bed without one. Or four. They then feel as thought they can't function without thinking. They're consistently distracted at work, and their relationships suffer because of over-analysis and suspicion. Before they know it, they're thinking their lives away.

Now I'm not knocking the "think" per se. We both know that thinking is essential in life. It's when thinking becomes a barrier, an imaginary gulf that separates you from happiness and self-development. Over-thinking can interfere with your natural instinct and spontaneity. It can make you fearful and suspicious. It can impair your ability to focus and if it becomes a habit, can become a crutch you lean on instead of actually taking action.

Over-thinking can also be incredibly isolating. We can begin to avoid social situations because we're thinking too much about what others are thinking about us. We might also judge others prematurely, sometimes avoiding or despising them because of some aspect we perceive as negative or undesirable. We might also withhold love and intimacy because of our suspicions.

A thinking problem can also affect performance, well, at anything really... at work, at a meeting, on stage, in bed. How can we do well when we're so fixated with how well we're doing? You know as well as I that pressure is the last thing we need when trying to perform.

So if you feel like you're carrying a mountain of worries and problems on your shoulders, assess your situation. Are you perhaps thinking too much?

As author Oscar Wilde once remarked, "Life is too short to be taken seriouslyy".

Adapted from 'A Slice of Life' presented and written by Eugene Loh

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馆主也好一段时间没有在这里做分享了。刚巧前些日子读到了这篇文章，觉得很适合我们现代人和社会，就摘选了。可不是吗？现代人很爱胡思乱想，把一些有的没的东西想得想是生命中的全部。最要不得的是在还未向前迈进以前，就先打退堂鼓，因为已经幻想了一万种不可能和肯定失败的结局来限制了自己。

不要让自己陷入这种无谓的自我约束。无论结果是什么，只要还有一线希望，我们都要努力地尝试。说不定结局并不是我们想象的那样呀。

加油哦！

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智慧与道德

为什么欧洲许多先进国家还是很富强?

在某个电视访谈节目中，嘉宾是一位当今颇具知名的青年企业家。

节目渐近尾声时，按惯例，主持人提出了最后一个问题。请问：你认为事业成功的最关键质量是什么？

沉思片刻之后，他并没有直接回答，而是平静地叙述了这样一段故事：

十二年前，有一个小伙子刚毕业就去了法国，开始了半工半读的留学生活。

渐渐地，他发现当地的的公共交通系统的售票处是自助的，也就是你想到哪个地方，根据目的地自行买票，车站几乎都是开放式的，不设检票口，也没有检票员。甚至连随机性的抽查都非常少。

他发现了这个管理上的漏洞，或者说以他的思维方式看来是漏洞。凭着自己的聪明，他精确地估算了这样一个概率：逃票而被查到的比例大约仅为万分之三。

他为自己的这个发现而沾沾自喜，从此之后，他便经常逃票上车。

他还找到了一个宽慰自己的理由：自己还是穷学生嘛，能省一点是一点。

四年过去了，名牌大学的金字招牌和优秀的学业成绩让他充满自信，他开始频频地进入巴黎一些跨国公司的大门，踌躇满志地推销自己，因为他知道这些公司都在积极地开发亚太市场。但这些公司都是先热情有加，然而数日之后，却又都是婉言相拒。

一次次的失败，使他愤怒。他认为一定是这些公司有种族歧视的倾向，排斥中国人。

最后一次，他冲进了某公司人力资源部经理的办公室，要求经理对于不予录用他给出一个合理的理由。

然而，结局却是他始料不及的。下面的一段对话很发人深省。

「先生，我们并不是歧视你，相反，我们很重视你。 因为我们公司一直在开发中国市场，我们需要一些优秀的本土人才来协助我们完成这个工作，所以你一来求职的时候，我们对你的教育背景和学术水平很感兴趣，老实说，从工作能力上，你就是我们所要找的人。」

「那为什么不收天下英才为贵公司所用？」

「因为我们查了你的信用记录，发现你有三次乘公交车逃票被处罚的记录。」

「我不否认这个。但为了这点小事，你们就放弃了一个多次在学术报告上发表过论文的人才？」

「小事？我们并不认为这是小事。我们注意到，第一次逃票是在你来我们国家后的第一个星期，检查人员相信了你的解释，因为你说自己还不熟悉自助售票系统，只是给你补了票。但在这之后，你又两次逃票。」

「那时刚好我口袋中没有零钱。」

「不、不，先生。我不同意你这种解释，你在怀疑我的智商。我相信在被查获前，你可能有数百次逃票的经历。」

「那也罪不至死吧？干吗那么认真？以后改还不行吗？」

「不、不，先生。此事证明了两点：

一、你不尊重规则。不仅如此，你擅于发现规则中的漏洞并恶意使用。

二、你不值得信任。而我们公司的许多工作的进行是必须依靠信任进行的，因为如果你负责了某个地区的市场开发，公司将赋予你许多职权。为了节约成本，我们没有办法设置复杂的监督机构，正如我们的公共交通系统一样。所以我们没有办法雇用你，可以确切地说，在这个国家甚至整个欧盟，你可能找不到雇用你的公司。」

直到此时，他才如梦方醒、懊悔难当。然而，真正让他产生一语惊心之感的，却还是对方最后提到一句话：

道德常常能弥补智慧的缺陷，然而，智慧却永远填补不了道德的空白。

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馆主特别赞同“道德常常能弥补智慧的缺陷，然而，智慧却永远填补不了道德的空白。”的确，道德的空白，到底有什么能弥补呢？根本就没有耶。。所以，大家一定要秉持着道德观念和道德理念哦。

加油哦！

^_^g

永不放弃

from movie: "Facing The Giants"


馆主看了这片段，真的很震撼。我们往往需要更大的勇气才不会轻言放弃。你也有这份勇气吗？
大家加油！

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I Can

在刚过去的八月十四日至二十六日，青年奥运会在新加坡举行 (Youth Olympic Games 2010)。馆主之前在德士上观看了这则广告片段，觉得特别有意思，所以，就一直想要和大家分享。里头写的每一句都让人觉得不管你年纪多大，都有可能创造辉煌的历史。重要的是，不要做出任何对社会、家人和自己没有贡献或没有意义的事。

加油哦！

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空姐日記

我是東方航空公司的一名普通的空姐，由於參加工作沒幾年，所以沒有遇到叫人難忘的大事，天天都是在端茶倒水的小事中度過。沒有工作的激情，很平淡。可是今天６月７日發貼當天，就是今天遇到的一件事情卻叫我改變了對工作對人生的看法。

今天我們執行上海----北京航班時，旅客很多，滿滿的一飛機。上飛機的人群中就有一位很不起眼的農村老伯伯，背著一個大麻袋身上還有一股農村特有的土炕味。

當時站在機門迎客的我第一個反映就是現在的社會還真發達了，連農村老伯伯都有錢坐飛機，真奢侈。當飛機平飛時，我們開始加水，加到２０多排時，看到了這位老伯伯，他很據謹的坐在座位上，直挺挺的，一動不動，麻袋也不放在行李架上,老伯伯抱著大麻袋，乍一看象是個支著地球的地球儀，直挺挺象個雕塑。 問他喝什麼，他很驚慌的連連挥手說不要。要幫他把麻袋放在架子上，他也拒絕。

只好由著他抱著了。過一會，開始發飯了，我們發現他還是一動不動的坐在座位上，感覺好像很緊張的樣子，給他飯他還是連連挥手不要。於是乘務長過去親切的問是不是病了。他很小聲的說他要上廁所，但是不知道飛機上能不能亂跑，怕碰壞了飛機上的東西。

我們告訴他沒關係的，並叫一個男空保帶他去了廁所。等我們第二次加水的時候，發現他看著別的客人喝水，在舔嘴，於是沒有問他就幫他倒了一杯熱茶水給他放在桌子上。

誰知，這樣一個動作卻驚嚇住了他，他一下跳起來連連說不用不用，我們對他說您渴了，就喝點吧。這時他做了一個更驚人的動作,從懷裡掏出一把錢，都是一塊一毛的，要塞給我們。

我們告訴他說這是不要錢的，他不相信，說他在街上走的時候進去要水喝別人都從來沒給過他，都是很厭惡的趕他走。我們這才知道，他為了節約錢，一路上盡可能不坐車就走，硬是從郊區走到機場附近才坐的車到了機場，他身上沒多少錢，只能問路上的餐廳要水，可惜大多數時候都是被趕出來，別人以為他是要飯的。

我們勸了好一陣子，他才相信了我們，坐下，慢慢的喝著茶。我們問他餓不餓，要不要吃飯，他還是連連說不要，他說他有兩個兒子，都很爭氣，考上了大學，小兒子在上大三，大兒子已經工作了。這次他來北京看他上大學的小兒子，由於大兒子已經工作了，想把他們兩口子接到城裡來跟自己住，可是老兩口不習慣，住了一陣想回鄉下了。

這次是大兒子不想讓老爹周車勞頓特意買的飛機票，本來想陪老爹一起去，因為老爹沒坐過飛機怕他不認識路，可是老爹嫌飛機票太浪費死活不肯坐。後來勸通了，老爹怎麼也不叫兒子再買一張票浪費錢，堅持自己一個人來。 他背了一麻袋的紅薯幹，要給小兒子吃。上飛機前安檢時，工作人員說麻袋太大叫拖運，可是他死活不肯，說怕弄碎了小兒子不喜歡吃了。

我們告訴他說放在架子上很安全的，他警惕的站起來看了半天才小心的放上去。 在航班期間我們一直很勤的給他加水，他都很有禮貌的謝謝我們。可是他還是一直堅持不吃飯。盡管我們看出來他已經餓的咕咕叫。到飛機快落地的時候，他很小心的問我們有沒有袋子，給他一個，並要求我們把他自己的那份飯裝好提給他。

他說他從來沒見過這麼好吃的東西，他要帶給他的小兒子。我們都驚住了。對於我們來說，天天見的飯菜，在一個農村老人眼裡是這樣的珍貴。 他自己捨不得吃，餓著，要留給他的兒子。於是我們把剩餘沒有發的飯都裝好了準備給他，可是他很驚慌的拒絕了，他說他只要屬於他自己的那份，不佔別人的便宜。我們都被這樣的一個老人感動了。

雖然不是什麼大事，但是卻深刻的教育了我。 本以為事情結束了，誰知道在別的客人下完以後，他最後下飛機，我們幫助他把麻袋提到了出口，正準備幫他背上，他做出了一個讓我一輩子都忘不了的動作：他撲通一聲跪在地下，老泪縱橫的給我們磕頭，一邊磕一邊說"你們真是大好人，我們農村人一天只吃一頓飯，從來沒喝過這樣甜的水，見過這樣好的飯，今天你們不嫌棄我，這麼熱情的對我，我真不知道怎麼樣感激你們，希望你們好人有好報。"一邊跪一邊說一邊哭，我們大家慌忙扶起他，連連勸他，並交代一個地面服務員將他安頓好，我們才回飛機上繼續執行我們的任務。

說實在話，工作了５年，飛機上什麼樣的客人都見過了，野蠻的，打人的，無理取鬧的，就是沒見過給我們下跪的，說實在的我們真沒有做什麼特別的事，就是給他老人家多倒了兩杯水，竟要這個７０多歲的老伯伯跪下謝我們，再加上看著他背著一麻袋紅薯幹，自己不肯吃寧願餓著把飛機上的飯帶下去給兒子，還不肯多要別人的飯貪便宜，我真為我自己感到內疚，我以後要學會感恩學會報答別人。是這個老伯伯教會我怎麼去善良正直的活著。

【版主曰】

頭等艙與經濟艙

決定了一個人的階級

卻無法決定一個人的良善......

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馆主在 F*acebook 上不经意看到的文章。真的很感人。。天下父母心，为了给孩子最好的，自己很多时候都不愿意花费。。看到好的，都想留给孩子。。而文章中的老先生，是如此的纯朴、善良。。感恩。。。

我们也要像他那样哟。

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鼠牛虎兔龙蛇马羊猴鸡狗猪

一群中国人参加接待了一个由欧洲贵族组成的参访团的活动。他们中的大多数跟王族有亲戚关系，非常有学问和修养，待人彬彬有礼，但他们的修养背后隐藏着一种傲慢。

最后一天聚餐，可能酒喝多了，这些贵族的言谈举止变得比较率性。席间，一位德国贵族站了起来说：你们中国人，怎么属什么猪啊，狗啊，老鼠啊!不像我们，都是金牛座，狮子座，仙女座……真不知你们祖先怎么想的!

众人听了哈哈大笑，还互相碰杯，先前的优雅完全不见了。

这时有一个中国人站了起来，用平和的语气说：“是的，中国人的祖先很实在。我们十二生肖两两相对，六道轮回，体现了我们祖先对我们的期望和要求。”这时，现场气氛慢慢安静了下来，不过，贵族们的脸上还是一幅满不在乎的神情。

中国人说：第一组是老鼠和牛。老鼠代表智慧，牛代表勤奋。智慧和勤奋一定要紧紧结合在一起。如果光有智慧，不勤奋，那就变成小聪明；而光是勤奋，不动脑筋，那就变成愚蠢。这两者一定要结合。这是祖先对我们第一组的期望和要求，也是最重要的一组。

第二组是老虎和兔子。老虎代表勇猛，兔子代表谨慎。勇猛和谨慎一定要紧紧结合在一起才能作到胆大心细。如果勇猛离开了谨慎，就变成了鲁莽，而没了勇猛，就变成了胆怯。这一组也非常重要，所以，”中国人看着这些贵族，补上一句：“当我们表现出谨慎的时候，千万不要以为中国人没有勇敢的一面。

看着大家陷入沉思，中国人继续说：第三组是龙和蛇，龙代表猛，蛇代表柔韧。所谓刚者易折，太刚了容易折断，但是，如果只有柔的一面就易失去主见，所以，刚柔并济是我们的祖训。

接下来是马和羊，马代表勇往直前，羊代表和顺。如果一个人只顾自己直奔目标，不顾及周围环境，必然会和周围不断磕碰，最后不见得能达到目标。但是，一个人光顾及和顺，他可能连方向都没有了。所以，勇往直前的秉性，一定要和和顺紧紧结合在一起，这是祖先对我们的第四组期望。

再接下来是猴子和鸡。猴子代表灵活，鸡定时打鸣，代表恒定。灵活和恒定一定要紧紧结合在一起。如果你光灵活，没有恒定，再好的政策也得不到收获。一方面具有稳定性，保持整体和谐和秩序，另一方面有能在变通中前进，这才是最根本的要旨。

最后是狗和猪。狗代表忠诚，猪代表随和。如果一个人太忠诚，不懂得随和，就会排斥他人。反过来，一个人太随和，没有忠诚，这个人就失去原则。无论是对一个民族的忠诚，还是对自己理想的忠诚，一定要与随和紧紧结合在一起，这样才容易保持内心深处的平衡。”

解释完毕，中国人说：“最后，我很想知道你们的宝瓶座，射手座等星座体现了你们祖先对你们的哪些期望和要求？希望赐教。”

这些贵族们很长时间都没有说话，全场鸦雀无声。

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馆主觉得那人解说得真的是太棒了！哈哈！你觉得呢？

加油哦！要为了你的民族、你的根本而骄傲哦！当然，我们也要学习与他人和睦共处、互敬互爱哟！

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Focusing More On Ourselves

Most of the problems in the world today stem from a fundamental malaise of Mankind that the centuries have not been able to cure. Our tendency to be overly-concerned about other people --- their flaws, their injustices, their immorality --- and not caring enough about our own weakness and what we can do about them.

Murder, racial and religious intolerance, revenge attacks, bomb blasts... these all have roots in our refusal to critically examine ourselves first before judging others. Leaders of the world continue to condemn these acts and the perpetrators continue to justify their behaviours, but we're no closer to resolving age-old conflicts.

The truth is, the world has always been torn by strife and clashes, civilizations rise and fall, good intentions get corrupted by self-righteousness, greed and power, and revenge continues to breed more and more revenge. In fact, the history of Man has been a history of repetition. We come, we conquer, we plunder, we use up, then go find some other place to feed our cravings or someone else to blame.

If we could all stop thinking about blaming others for our problems and begin to focus more on ourselves and our self-development, I'm sure the world would be a much better place. The problem with focusing on others is that it's a convenient distraction from our own flaws. While we're preoccupied with others, we don't have time to think about our own shortcomings and therefore don't have to do anything about them. It's a weakness of character, because it takes courage to look within, discover our own flaws and work towards improving ourselves.

If we want others to change, we must first change ourselves. We can only lead by example. This is as true of a parent and child relationships as it is with poitician and citizen, boss and subordinate, believer and non-believer. Nothing will make othes see our point of view unless we can prove just how clearly we see it ourselves. Whether you believe in God or not is a personal choice --- only you can see it, only you can feel it or not; you don't need anyone for that. And why should it matter to you how others think as long as it doesn't affect the way you think?

Starting now, try to shift your focus from other people onto yourself. Think about how you can be a better person. How you can reach for that deeper humanity in you.

As respected author and speaker Stephen Covey once said, "We immediately become more effective when we decide to change ourselves rater than asking things to change for us."

Adapted from 'A Slice of Life', presented and written by Eugene Loh

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馆主也同意作者他的说法。很多时候，我们都将我们的精力和时间注射在他人的缺点和错误上，而往往忽略了自己的不足。若要他人改，还不如先检讨自己，让自己先改进。

你们觉得呢？要加油哦！

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您也可以選擇這樣的生活

感谢诗杰先生的分享。这个短短的影片真的很有意思。希望大家一定要好好想想你改变饮食会带来的好处哦！

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Tell Me Why

By: Declan Galbraith

In my dream,children sing
A song of love for every boy and girl
The sky is blue and fields are green:
And laughter is the language of the world
Then I wake and all I see
Is a world full of people in need

Tell me why (why) does it have to be like this?
Tell me why (why) is there something i have missed?
Tell me why (why) cos I don't understand
When so many need somebody
We don't give a helping hand
Tell me why?

Everyday I ask myself
What will I have to do to be a man?
Do I have to stand and fight
To prove to everybody who I am?
Is that what my life is for
To waste in a world full of war?

Tell me why? Tell me why?
Tell me why? Tell me why?
Just tell me why, why, why?

Tell me why (why, why,does the tiger run)
Tell me why (why, why do we shoot the gun)
Tell me why (why, why do we never learn)
Can someone tell us why we let the forest burn?
(why,why do we say we care)
Tell me why (why, why)

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馆主听完后，起鸡皮疙瘩了。。。真的，如果，当时录制这首歌的时候才不到十岁的小朋友都有这种感同身受的想法，何况是你和我呢？

这个世界，到底怎么了？为什么会是现在这个样子呢？你和我，都有能力一起去拯救这个世界。大家加油~！

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UN URGES GLOBAL MOVE TO MEAT AND DAIRY-FREE DIET

for those who can comprehend English version better, here you go:

Lesser consumption of animal products is necessary to save the world from the worst impacts of climate change, UN report says.

The UN says agriculture is on a par with fossil fuel consumption because both rise rapidly with increased economic growth.

A global shift towards a vegan diet is vital to save the world from hunger, fuel poverty and the worst impacts of climate change, a UN report said today.

As the global population surges towards a predicted 9.1 billion people by 2050, western tastes for diets rich in meat and dairy products are unsustainable, says the report from United Nations Environment Programme's (UNEP) international panel of sustainable resource management.

It says: "Impacts from agriculture are expected to increase substantially due to population growth increasing consumption of animal products. Unlike fossil fuels, it is difficult to look for alternatives: people have to eat. A substantial reduction of impacts would only be possible with a substantial worldwide diet change, away from animal products."

Professor Edgar Hertwich, the lead author of the report, said: "Animal products cause more damage than [producing] construction minerals such as sand or cement, plastics or metals. Biomass and crops for animals are as damaging as [burning] fossil fuels."

The recommendation follows advice last year that a vegetarian diet was better for the planet from Lord Nicholas Stern, former adviser to the Labour government on the economics of climate change. Dr Rajendra Pachauri, chair of the UN's Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC), has also urged people to observe one meat-free day a week to curb carbon emissions.

The panel of experts ranked products, resources, economic activities and transport according to their environmental impacts. Agriculture was on a par with fossil fuel consumption because both rise rapidly with increased economicgrowth, they said. Ernst von Weizsaecker, an environmental scientist who co-chaired the panel, said: "Rising affluence is triggering a shift in diets towards meat and dairy products - livestock now consumes much of the world's crops and by inference a great deal of freshwater, fertilisers and pesticides."

Both energy and agriculture need to be "decoupled" from economic growth because environmental impacts rise roughly 80% with a doubling of income, the report found.

Achim Steiner, the UN under-secretary general and executive director of the UNEP, said: "Decoupling growth from environmental degradation is the number one challenge facing governments in a world of rising numbers of people, rising incomes, rising consumption demands and the persistent challenge of poverty alleviation."

The panel, which drew on numerous studies including the Millennium Ecosystem Assessment, cites the following pressures on the environment as priorities for governments around the world: climate change, habitat change, wasteful use of nitrogen and phosphorus in fertilisers, over-exploitation of fisheries, forests and other resources, invasive species, unsafe drinking water and sanitation, lead exposure, urban air pollution and occupational exposure to particulate matter. Agriculture, particularly meat and dairy products, accounts for 70% of global freshwater consumption, 38% of the total land use and 19% of the world's greenhouse gas emissions, says the report, which has been launched to coincide with UN World Environment Day on Saturday.

Last year the UN's Food and Agriculture Organisation said that food production would have to increase globally by 70% by 2050 to feed the world's surging population. The panel says that efficiency gains in agriculture will be overwhelmed by the expected population growth.

Prof Hertwich, who is also the director of the industrial ecology programme at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology, said that developing countries – where much of this population growth will take place – must not follow the western world's pattern of increasing consumption: "Developing countries should not follow our model. But it's up to us to develop the technologies in, say, renewable energy or irrigation methods."

Adapted from: http://www.guardian.co.uk/environment/2010/jun/02/un-report-meat-free-diet
Wednesday 2 June 2010 18.09 BST

BE VEG! Go Green, Save the Planet! (中文版)

聯合國環境規劃署(UNPE)，永續資源管理跨國專家委員會發表報告：全球的人口預估將於2050年前成長為91億，而嗜食大量肉類奶類的西方飲食，是無法讓地球永續生存的飲食習慣。

這項報告表示："人口增加帶來越來越多的肉食消費，而農牧業對環境帶來的衝擊，預料將大幅地增加。不像石化燃料，農牧業不容易有替代方案：人都得吃東西。所以，如果要減輕農牧業對環境帶來的衝擊，唯一可行的辦法，只有靠全世界大規模的飲食改變，不吃動物產品。"

愛德格•赫衛區教授是這份報告的主要作者，他表示：生產動物性產品對環境造成的傷害，比生產建築材料，像砂子、水泥、塑膠跟金屬等都來的大。生產生質物還有穀物來餵養動物，跟燃燒石化燃料一樣危害劇烈。

聯合國報告的這項建議，也呼應了去年史登爵士所提出的忠告，史登爵士是前英國工黨的氣候變遷經濟顧問。他呼籲大家蔬食是對地球比較友善的飲食，聯合國跨政府氣候變遷小組的主席，帕卓理博士也大聲疾呼，要採行一週一素來抑制排碳

委員會的專家分別將產品、資源、經濟活動、交通運輸等對環境造成的衝擊，排序其嚴重性，其中，農牧業跟燃燒石化燃料的危害一樣大，因為這兩項的消耗都伴隨著經濟成長而快速增加。

委員會的另一位主席，也是環境科學家的魏茨澤克說：越來越富裕的生活誘使人類吃更多的肉、乳製品。豢養的家畜消耗了世界大部分的穀物糧食、淡水資源、也用了大量的化學肥料、以及殺蟲劑。

經濟成長必須 "扣除" 能源以及農業部門，因為在國民所得加倍的同時，這兩種產業造成的環境衝擊也會上升約80%。

聯合國副秘書長，同時也是聯合國環境規劃署執行長的Achim Steiner說 "世界人口不斷增加、所得不斷提高、資源消耗越來越大、我們還得持續努力消弭貧窮。在這種世界局勢之下，各國政府的最大挑戰，就是得將經濟成長扣除環境破壞所帶來的成本。"

委員會也引用了包括千禧年生態系統評估 (Millennium Ecosystem Assessment) 在內的各種報告，列舉以下各項環境議題，供各國政府施政的優先重點。氣候變遷、棲地變遷、肥料裡過度添加氮磷元素、漁業濫捕、林業以及其他資源的過度開採、物種入侵、不安全的飲水及衛生問題、鉛暴露、城市空氣污染、職業場所污染。

報告指出，農業生產，特別是肉類及乳製品，消耗全世界70%的淡水資源、38％的土地資源、排放全球19％的溫室氣體。這項報告於禮拜六，在聯合國世界環境日同時發表。

去年聯合國糧農組織(FAO)預估，為了餵養不斷增加的世界人口，全球糧食生產必須在2050年之前提高70%。委員會還表示，農業生產效率的提升，完全不足以應付預期的人口成長。

任職於挪威科學與科技大學，主持工業生態研究所的Hertwich教授表示，大部分的人口成長將集中於開發中國家，他們不能再跟隨西方國家的發展模式，不斷增加消費。他還說：他們不應再跟隨我們的模式，而我們得發展新的科技，例如再生能源、或是新的灌溉方法。

新聞出處 : http://www.guardian.co.uk/environment/2010/jun/02/un-report-meat-free-diet
Wednesday 2 June 2010 18.09 BST

Earthlings (Part 2)

This is the single most powerful and informative movie about society's treatment of animals. Directed by Shaun Monson, narrated by Joaquin Phoenix.

Earthlings (Part 1)

This is the single most powerful and informative movie about society's treatment of animals. Directed by Shaun Monson, narrated by Joaquin Phoenix.

아버지 Father 父親 爸爸

很感人，真的。很多时候，父亲都不会让我们知道他的辛苦。

我们要爱惜我们的爸爸哦。

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Can I Borrow $100?

Tim knew his father was an important lawyer who worked most nights and weekends. So he was disappointed but not surprised when his father didn't attend his last soccer game of the season.

That night he got up the nerve to interrupt his dad's work to ask, "How much do lawyers make?"

Annoyed, his father gruffly answered, "My clients pay me $300 an hour."

Tim gulped. "Wow, that's a lot. Would you lend me $100?"

"Of course not," his father said. "Please, just let me work."

Moments later, he heard his son sobbing in the other room, and he called him back. "Son, I'm sorry. If you need some money, of course I'll lend it to you. But can I ask why you need it?"

Tim said, "Well, I've saved $200, and if you lend me a hundred, I'll have enough."

"Enough for what?"

"To buy an hour of your time so you can come to our banquet on Friday and see me get the most valuable player award. Will you come?"

His father felt like he'd been stabbed in the heart. For the first time, he realized the cost of his priorities. None of his clients needed him as much as his son, and nothing he could do as a lawyer was more important than what he could do as a father. How had he missed that insight?

It's always difficult to balance job demands and family needs, but the test of whether you work too much is simple: Are you able to be the kind of parent your child deserves?

Few people look back on their lives and wish they'd spent more time at the office. Far more wish they'd spent more time with their kids.

This story is derived and adapted from one circulated on the Internet without attribution. The original source is unknown.

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快要父亲节了。馆主希望大家会珍惜我们的父母亲，因为，如果没有他们，就没有我们；如果没有他们的养育之恩，更没有今天的我们。

加油哦！

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Love of the Family is Life's Greatest Blessing

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是个马来西亚的广告。。馆主觉得，真的，再有钱也不比在身边更让我们的长辈感受到家的温暖和爱。。

大家要记得孝顺和疼爱我们的长辈们哦。

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Juliana Wetmore

Julianna Wetmore was born with a rare genetic craniofacial disorder known as Treacher Collins Syndrome. This condition normally appears as elongated or sagging eyes and small or missing ears and generally affects 1 in 10,000. Not only is this a rare occurrence but, Julianna has perhaps the most severe case ever seen. The condition was first seen during pre-natal scans where doctors thought that she had a cleft palate. However, the full extent of her disfigurement was not seen until she was born.

Treacher Collins Syndrome is a genetic mutation that prevents the proper formation of the skull, cheek and jaw bones. Julianna's case was so severe she required immediate plastic surgery to uncover her left eye and to open up an airway so that she could breathe.

Are You Going To Finish Strong?

Nick Vujicic and his attitude serve as a great examples of the celebration of life over limitations.

The human spirit can handle much more than we realize.

"I LOVE LIVING LIFE. I AM HAPPY."

It matters how you're going to FINISH...
Are you going to finish STRONG?

We are put in situations to build our character... not destroy us.

The tensions in our life are there to strengthen our convictions... not to run over us.

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大家要学习起他的精神。。。要加油哦！

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三字经 - 苏洵发奋

苏老泉 二十七 始发奋 读书籍

彼既老 犹悔迟 尔小生 宜早思

释义
苏洵到二十七岁时才发奋读书，他成人后才明白读书的重要，后悔自己的行为，现在的年轻人，更应该及早学习。

故事
苏洵是著名的唐宋八大家之一，可他小时候并不喜欢读书，到了二十七岁，仍然一事无成。看到很多与自己年纪相仿的人都有了成就，苏洵才猛然醒悟，下决心努力读书。通过一段时间的努力，他进步很快。后来他带着两个儿子苏轼、苏辙一起进京赶考，相继金榜题名，轰动了当时的京城，他们父子三人也被后人同时列入“唐宋八大家”的名单。

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嗯，馆主也晓得，年幼时的我们都可能有不爱读书的时候，但是，大人们总是逼着我们去学习。我们可能还不能理解大人们的苦心，但如果真的等到我们年老的时候才来了解，真的会后悔哦。

所以，就算再怎么讨厌，我们也要找个喜欢的方向努力学习。不要等到后悔时就真的太迟了哟。

馆主也还真是好久没有与大家分享《三字经》了吧？所以，今天又为大家继续了。其实，剩下的内容不多了。希望大家这些日子以来有学到些什么才好哦。

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Living a Life Worth Living

It's the mortal coil --- ever since we started thinking philosophically, human beings have struggled to answer the question: "What is the meaning of Life?"

And the endless sub-questions: "What am I here for?", "What does being alive mean?", "What purpose does my life serve?" and so on.

To answer these big questions, let's first break life down into smaller parts. Imagine that just one day in your life, you simply did whatever you felt like, anytime you felt like it, just moving from random though to random though, random action to random action. You don't think about the next day or even the next moment. You have no goals, no plans, have no consideration for others, and every day brings the same kind of numbing self-indulgence.

Many of us are, more or less, living this kind of existence. We don't know what we really want, we don't think about our future, we don't know what we're going to achieve. We simply go through life half asleep, finding temporary comfort in our material possessions and insatiable pleasures. A life lived this way ultimately yields disappointment and unfulfilled desires.

What gives one a sense of purpose and meaning is having something worthwhile to strive for.

Why are some rich people happy while others are not? Why do some musicians overdose on drugs and depression while others adopt orphans or use their talent for some worthy cause? The key is having nobler ambitions than simply amassing wealth or indulging in self-fulfillment.

We all need to seek a higher purpose in order to give our lives meaning. Some find it in self-discipline. Others discover it in the pursuit of knowledge. Some find it in helping others or becoming leaders in their community, others in making the world better in some way.

What about you? Have you achieved wealth and status only to find something lacking? Do you want to live your life with more lucid intention?

Then think about what you really want to achieve. Even if the goals seem too lofty (think "world peace"), embark on the road towards them anyway. It's in the endeavour that we find satisfaction. What are simple steps you can take or habits you can adopt right now that will bring you closer to your goals?

You will have your own unique set of goals, but think beyond just creating wealth, getting your dream house, or marrying your dream partner. Before all that and after all that, what will continue to sustain you? Consistent self-improvement? What about improving life for others? Inventing something? Creating awareness? Educating others so that they too can become successful and happy? What can you do conscientiously and persistently that will make a difference?

Think of the value that you can create for others and the world and you will make your life worth living.

Adapted from 'A Slice of LIfe' by Eugene Loh

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很多人可能就像 Mr. Loh 所说的那样吧？是不是也常常觉得或提问自己，生命的意义到底是什么呢？我为什么而生，为什么而死？来到这个世界上，到底是为了什么而来？活着，到底有何意义？

你想过吗？是为了赚钱？为了寻找命中注定的那个人？是为了求知识？是为了升职？是为了在社会上拥有崇高的地位？

到底你是为了什么？

想想吧。希望你会找到生命的意义、活着的意义。加油哦！

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I Still Know Who She Is

It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80s arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would be able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided since I wasn’t busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On examining it I saw it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors and got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while as she is a victim of Alzheimer's disease.

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?'

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, 'She doesn't know me but I still know who she is.'

I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goosebumps on my arm and thought, 'That is the kind of love I want in my life. True love is neither physical nor romantic'.

True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

Peace is seeing a sunset and knowing who to thank. The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.

Life isn't about how to survive the storm but how to dance in the rain.

The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, a driver called Almighty God, you will make it to a place called Success.

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馆主读了很感动。感谢水进先生的分享。真的，像老先生那样的人，可能真的很少见了吧？

遇到困境时，记住，你不是一个人的。所以，为了那些爱你，和你爱的人，一定要加油，努力！

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【 LOVE LIFE 珍愛生命‧永不放棄 】

**当你无助的时候，请记住在社会的某个角落里，
还有一群永不放弃的小小斗士们正与生命搏斗著**



我们是不是更应该珍爱自己的生命，因为，拥有的生命，是有些人梦想的。加油哦！

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The Source of Our Unhappiness

We're always looking for something or someone to blame for our unhappiness. It's our job ["there's too much work, I've no time for fun!"], it's our partner ["I can't stand her mysterious outbursts!"], it's our parents ["they brought me up to be fearful and unable to stand up for myself"], or it's the economy, social bias, disappointing children... and the list goes on.

It does seem as though the source of our frustrations lies outside of us. After all , we didn't ask for these problems.

Or did we?

A popular theory called 'The Law of Attraction' refers to "the idea that thoughts influence chance. It argues that thoughts (both conscious and unconscious) can affect things outside the head, not just through motivation, but by other means". In other words, we attract what we think about.

If you don't feel you deserve happiness, then you'll continue to invite things, people and events that upset you. You stick with a job you find unfulfilling because you don't think you can do any better. Your partner's habits rile and baffle you but you don't talk to him or her about it... "It's just one of those things" you think, but could it be because you don't respect yourself enough to improve things?

We often don't strive to make things better because we feel that we're not good enough, that we don't deserve better. We don't believe that a better life is possible so we don't do anything. Pessimism justifies inaction. This is why we keep attracting people and things that keep us stuck.

The next time you encounter a situation or person that upsets you, refrain from the temptation to appoint blame. Look within yourself instead. What are the thoughts and habits inviting undesirable things into your life? What are the things in your life you tolerate that are not working for you?

The key to changing the world is changing ourselves.

Adapted from: A Slice of Life, presented and written by Eugene Loh

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当馆主读了这篇文章后，就很想与大家分享。对吧？很多时候，我们都将过错怪罪于别人，但是，往往问题会发生是因为我们自己的因素 [当然，馆主并不是说是你我的错，但是，是或多或少我们也得负上责任不是吗？] --- 我们“吸引”了这些不开心的元素到我们的生命里。

所以，从今天开始，先不要“怪罪”，先往自己的内心深处探讨、反省。

要改变世界，我们得从自己开始。

加油！ ^_^g

坐在角落里象两个要饭模样的人是谁?

请耐心看下去:

结婚那天，妈问我："坐在角落里象两个要饭模样的人是谁?"

我看过去的时候，有个老头正盯着我，旁边还有个老太太，发现我看着他们时赶忙低下头。我不认识他们但也不象要饭的，衣服是新的连折印都看得出来。妈说象要饭的是他们佝偻着身子，老太的身边倚了根拐杖的缘故。

妈说天池是孤儿，那边没亲戚来，如果不认识就轰他们走吧。现在要饭的坏着呢，喜欢等在酒店门口，见哪家办喜事就装作亲戚来吃黑酒。

我说不会，叫来天池问一下吧？天池慌里慌张把我的手捧花都掉地上了，最后吱吱唔唔地说是他们家堂叔和堂婶。我瞪了妈妈一眼：差点把亲戚赶走。

妈说: "天池你不是孤儿吗？哪来的亲戚呢?"

天池怕妈，低头说是他家远房的亲戚，好长时间不来往了。但结婚是大事，家里一个亲戚没来心里觉着是个憾事，所以……

我靠着天池的肩埋怨他有亲戚来也不早说，应该把他们调一桌，既然是亲戚就不能坐在备用桌上。天池拦着说: "就让他们坐那吧，坐别桌他们吃着也不自在。"

直到开席那桌上也就坐了堂叔和堂婶。敬谢席酒经过那桌，天池犹豫了一下拉着我从他们身边擦了过去。回头看到他们的头埋的很低，想了想我把天池给拽了回去："堂叔、堂婶，我们给你俩敬酒了!"

两人抬起头有点不相信的盯着我。二老的头发都是花白的，看上去很老应该有七八十岁的样子，堂婶的眼睛很空洞，脸虽对着我但眼神闪忽不定。我拿手不确定的在她眼前晃了晃，没反应。原来堂婶是个瞎子。

"堂...堂叔、堂婶，这是俺媳妇小洁，俺们现在给你们敬酒呢!" 天池在用乡音提醒他们。

"哦、哦。" 堂叔歪歪斜斜地站了起来，左手扶着堂婶的肩右手颤微微地端起酒杯，手指背上都是黄黄的茧，厚厚的指夹逢里留着黑黑的泥。面朝黄土背朝天的日子让他们过早地累弯了腰。我惊讶地发现，堂叔的右腿是空的。

堂婶是瞎子，堂叔是瘸子，怎样的一对夫妻啊？

"别站了，你们坐下吧。" 我走过去扶住他们。堂叔又摇晃着坐下了，无缘由的堂婶眼里忽然就叭嗒叭嗒直掉泪，看到堂叔无言地拍着她的背。本想劝他们两句，但天池拉着我离开了。

我跟天池说: "等他们回家的时候给他们一点钱吧，太可怜了。两人都是残疾，这日子根本想不通怎么过。"

天池点点头没说话，紧紧拥着我。

第一年的除夕，天池说胃疼没吃下晚饭回房睡觉去了。我让妈妈熬点大米粥也跟着进了房。天池躺在床上，眼里还憋着泪。

我说天池不带这样的，第一年的除夕就不跟我们一块吃晚饭，还跑房里这样。好象我们家亏待你似的，一过节你就胃疼，哪有这样的事情？其实我知道你不是胃疼，说吧什么事？

天池闷了半天说对不起，他只是想起堂叔和堂婶还有他死去的爹娘。他怕在桌上忍不住，惹爸妈不高兴才推说胃疼。

我搂着他说："真是个傻孩子，想他们我们过完年看他们去就成了，再说我也想知道他俩是怎么过日子的。"

天池说: "算了，那条山路特别难走。你会累着的，等以后路通了我们生了小孩再带你去那看他们吧。"

我心里想说："等我们生小孩的时候他们还不一定在呢!" 但没敢讲出来，嘴上说给他们再寄些钱物吧!"

第二年的中秋期间我正巧在外出差，中秋节那天又回不了家。我特别想天池和爸妈，我就跟天池煲电话粥。

我问天池想我想得睡不着怎么办？天池说就上网或者看电视，再不行就睡那睁着眼睛狠狠得想。
那晚，我们直到把手机聊得发烫没电为止。

躺在宾馆的床上，看着窗外圆圆的月亮，我怎么也睡不着。睁着眼睛流着泪想天池、想爸爸、想妈妈。想到天池估计也没睡着，说不定正在网上神游。翻身我也打开电脑，重新申请了一QQ号名叫读你，想捉弄一下天池。查了一下，天池果然在，我主动加了他，他接受了。

我问他："这样一个万家团圆的好日子，你为什么还在网上闲逛呢?"

他说："因为我老婆在外出差，想她睡不着觉所以就上网看看。"

我挺满意这句话，接着又打出："老婆不在家，可以找个情人代替，比如说网上，聊以自慰一下。"

半天他才敲出一行："如果你想找情人的话，对不起，我不是你找的人，再见。"

"对不起，我不是那个意思，你别生气。" 叭叭叭，我赶紧发过去。

过了一会他问我："你怎么也在网上闲逛呢?"

我说："我在外打工，现在想爸爸和妈妈。刚刚和男朋友通完电话还是睡不着，就上网了。"

"我也想我爹和娘，只是，亲在外，子欲养而不能。"

"亲在外，子欲养而不能。怎么讲？" 我把这句话又重复敲了过去。我有点莫明其妙，天池怎么说这样的话？

"你叫读你，我今天就让你读一次吧。有些事情放在心里很久会得病，拿出来晒晒会舒服些，反正你我也不认识，你就当作听一个故事吧!"

于是，我意外地知道了天池一直隐藏在内心的事情。

"30年前，我爹快五十了还没娶亲，因为他腿瘸加上家里又穷没有姑娘愿意嫁他。后来，庄上来了个要饭的老头还搀着个瞎眼的女人。老头病得很重，爹看他们可怜就让他们在自家歇息。没想到一住下那老头就没起来过，后来老头的女儿就是那瞎眼的女人嫁给了我爹。

第二年生下了我。

我家的日子过得很清苦，可我从来没饿过一顿。爹和娘种不了田，没有收入就帮别人家剥玉米粒，一天剥下来十指全是血泡，第二天缠上布条再剥。为了我上学，家里养了三只鸡，两只鸡生蛋卖钱，留下一只生蛋我吃。娘说她在城里要饭时听说城里的娃上学都吃鸡蛋，咱家娃也吃，将来比城里的娃更聪明。但他们从来都不吃，有回我看见娘把蛋打进锅里后用嘴舔着蛋壳里剩下的蛋清，我搂着娘嚎啕大哭。说什么也不肯吃鸡蛋了，爹知道原委后气得要用棍子打娘。最后我妥协，前提就是我们三人一块吃。虽然他们同意了，但每次也就象征性的用牙齿碰一下。

庄上的人从来不叫我名字，都叫我是瘸瞎子家的。爹娘一听到有人这样叫我必定会跟那人拼命。娘看不见就会拿了砖块乱砸，嘴上还骂着：你们这些杀千刀的，我们瘸瞎，我娃好好的，就不许你们这样叫唤。将来你们一个都不如我娃。

那年中考，瘸瞎子家的考了全县第一的喜讯 让爹娘着实风光了一把。镇上替我们家出了所有的学杂费，送我上学的那天爹第一次出了山。上车的那会，我眼泪扑剌剌的直掉，爹一手拄着拐一手替我擦泪：进了城要好好学，以后就在城里找工作娶媳妇。别人问起你爹娘你就说你是孤儿，没爹娘，不然别人会看不起你。特别是娶不上媳妇，人家会嫌弃你。误了你娶媳妇，我都无脸去见老祖。

爹！我让爹别在说了，这是什么话，还没有用呢咋就不认爹娘呢？娘也说这是真话，要听。你不记得在学校里吗？只要说你是瘸瞎子家的，别人就会拿白眼挤兑你。刚开始连老师都不喜欢你。以后，你带了城里媳妇回家就说俺们是你的堂叔和堂婶。娘说完就在那抹泪。爹说，不要把媳妇带回家，一带回来你娘忍不住就会露馅的。然后往我怀里揣了十个熟鸡蛋就拖着娘走了。

我的眼泪也扑剌剌地往下掉，残疾不是他们的错，那是老天对他们的不公。但他们却生了一个完美的天池给我。这个傻天池，这样的爹娘，无法再完美了。我很生气，他怎么就这么小看我呢?"

"那后来，你就告诉你媳妇他们是你堂叔和堂婶?" 我敲过去这句话。

"本来我不信。媳妇找的是我又不是爹娘，为啥爹娘都不能认呢？不过我在外十年，爹娘一次都没去过我的学校。第一年工作，我想带他们进城玩玩，他们都不肯，说让人晓得我爹娘是残疾人会在我脸上抹黑，影响我娶媳妇。一辈子都在山里了不想出去了。娘还说她就是从城里来的，也没啥意思。

后来，我谈了第一个女朋友，当我认为时机差不多的时候，就带她回了趟家。谁知到家后，她晚饭都没留下吃一顿就走了，我追出去她说，和这样的人过日子她一天都过不下去。

还说我们家基因有问题，以后的小孩肯定也不会健康。我气得让她有多远滚多远。回到家，娘在那哭，爹也骂我。说我不听他们的话，非要断了咱家的香火不可。

后来，我遇上了第二个女朋友，就是现在我的老婆。我很爱她，做梦都怕失去她，她们家又很有钱，亲戚都是些上等人家，有了前车之鉴我很害怕只能不孝了。但是一到逢年过节我就想他们，心里堵得慌，难受。"

"那你从来就没有告诉过你老婆？也许她不计较这些呢？"

"我没说过，也不敢说。如果她同意了我想我岳母也不会同意的。我和她们住在一起，岳父在外是有脸面的人。如果爹娘来了不是在他们脸上抹黑吗？我也只能在出差学习的时候偷偷回去看上两眼。谢谢你听我说了这么多，现在我的心里舒服多了。"

下了网，我依旧没有觉意。都说儿不嫌母丑，狗不嫌家贫，看看我们都做了什么？我理解天池的无奈，也了解他爹娘的苦衷。但他们不知道却将无辜的我陷入了无情无义的逆境之中。

天将放亮时，我敲开了部门经理的门，告诉他下面的事情请他全权处理，我有点非常重要的事情尽快要办，一切就拜托他了。然后简单收拾一下行李我就直奔火车站。还好，赶得上头班列车。
那条山路确实很难走。刚开始腿上还有点劲，后来脚上磨起了泡我就再也走不动了。正是中午时分，太阳又晒得厉害，我只有喘气的份。背来的水差不多快喝完了，我也不知道下面还有多少路程要走。脱下鞋子挤了水泡，那一会疼得我都哭出声来，真想打个电话让天池来接我回家，最后还是忍住了。从路边揪一把芦苇花垫在脚底，感觉脚上舒服多了。想到天池的爹娘此时还在家劳作着腿上忽的一下就来了劲，站起来继续往前走。

当老村长把我领到天池家门口的时候，那一片烧得红红的晚霞正照在他们家门口的老枣树上。枣树下坐着堂叔，哦不、是天池的爹，爹比结婚时看到的老多了，手上剥着玉米，拐杖安静地倚在他那条残缺的腿上。娘跪在地上准备收晒好的玉米，手正一把一把地往里撸。

这，宛如一幅画，而画中便是这世上最完美的爹娘。

我一步一步地往他们跟前走着，爹看到了我，手中的玉米掉在了地上，嘴巴张得老大，吃惊地问："你、你咋过来了?"

娘在一旁摸索着问："他爹，谁来啦?"

"天、天池家的。"

"啊！在、在哪?" 娘惊慌失措地找着我的方向。

我弯腰放下行李，然后一把抓着她的手，对着他们，带着深深地痛、重重地跪了下去："爹！娘！我来接你们回家了!"

爹干咳了两下，泪无声地从爬满皱纹的脸上流出。

"俺就说，俺的娃没白养阿!" 娘把双手在自个身上来回的搓，然后一把抱住我，一行行的泪水从她空洞的眼里热热地流进我的脖子里。

我带爹娘走的时候村里是放了鞭炮的。我又为爹娘风光了一次。

当天池打开门，看到一左一右站在我身边的爹和娘时吃惊不小，怔怔地愣在那，一语未发。

我说："天池，我是读你的人。我把咱爹娘接回来了。这么完美的爹娘，你怎么舍得把他们丢在山里?"

天池泣不成声，紧紧的抱住我，像他娘一样把一行泪流进我的脖子里。

The Benefits of Walking

What's one of the simplest and quickest ways to improve your overall wellness?

Walking!

Primitive tribespeople went on regular walkabouts, when individuals headed off into the bush as a rite of passage. In the wilderness, their minds, bodies and spirits were tested and cleansed. Some even met their spiritual guides, or so the legends say.

These days though, walking has been reduced to an inconvenience. It's considered a mile-stone for toddlers, something that all infants naturally progress to, but grown-ups generally wish to do as little of it as possible. We'd much rather get around in cars, taxis, buses and bikes.

But walking is immensely beneficial for our physical and mental well-being. For years, this single act has been linked to improving cardiovascular health. The reason is because, generally, walking is a safe movement that isn't likely to cause injury. New studies have shown that walking is also a terrific way to improve your mood. The next time you are feeling a little blue, you could just walk it off - literally.

A recent study paired individuals into groups, one of which spent 30 minutes on a treadmill and the other that participated in 30 minutes of rest. Each group's progress was monitored throughout the treatment with a conclusion that both groups reporting having less negative feelings at the end of the study, along with less stress and tension. The difference, however, was found when the group that spent 30 minutes walking also noted an overall improvement in well-being.

While the study further proves the theory that walking is good for mental health, as well as physical, it also lends credence to the theory that people who walk feel better overall. It also proves that an individual does not have to be outside in order to enjoy the benefits of walking. This simple exercise can be achieved with a treadmill or by simply walking in place while listening to music or watching TV.

Taking long walks also allows your mind to relax; the body goes into a spontaneous, comfortable rhythm, giving your thoughts a relaxed and unhurried climate in which to organize themselves. I've often come up with solutions and ideas while on a leisurely stroll.

So work a walking routine into your schedule. You'll start feeling the benefits in no time!

Adapted from "A Slice of Life" --- Presented and Written by Eugene Loh

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可能很多人都不觉得走路是没什么的。但是，就也还能算是保持健康体魄的一种方式哦。

有时候，让自己的精神和情绪在走路的同时，就能得到解脱和松懈吧。加油！

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邹越松江实验中学演讲

关于孝道和未来做人的方向。很感人的一篇演讲。




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馆主听着听着，真的很震撼、很感动。他说的不假，大家是否也犯了相同的错误？希望一篇演讲能带给大家醒悟。感谢月莉小姐和大家分享。

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The 9 Timeless Secrets to be Happy

要如何才能得到快乐呢？其实，快乐，是由内心而生的。我们要做的，是发掘快乐，将内心深处的快乐散发出来，和身边的所有人分享！

加油！

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They Have Wishes Too

Please read... A very touching message for all of us. Something that we do often take for granted.

This is about a man who tells how his booking an air ticket for his father, his first flight, brought emotions and made him realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never travelled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same.

In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Lufthansa.

The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen.

He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.

As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him. When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me.

But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life.

As a child how many dreams our parents have made come true. Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for football, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have satisfied to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes?

Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?

Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school.

Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young, it is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments.

Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care need to be given to our parents and elders.

Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes. Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.

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所以，大家要好好地感谢父母对我们无私的爱与关怀哦。。

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Stop Being Judgemental

Judgemental people tend to impose their beliefs and their way of life on others. They look down on people who don’t live up to their expectations.

Your way feels “right”, you say. But it may not be “right” for others. Others should not have to act, be, and make the same choices that you do. As long as we’re not out there raping, killing or robbing, we all deserve respect and acceptance.

But many of us inevitably find things we don’t like about others.

Say you see someone in line at the post office. He wears faded-gray sweat pants, a ratty T-shirt, and dirty tennis shoes. You may be appalled that he could leave home looking like that. You may judge him to be poor and dirty.

But there could be a myriad of reasons why he chooses to present himself that way. Perhaps he’s in deep grief from a personal loss and so he does not care about his appearance. It could be any reason. The point is that he is who he is and you are who you are. How one presents themselves in public is none of our business, nor is it up to us to dictate how another person runs his life. Your way is right for you. His way is right for him.

When you stop being judgemental, you release all the bad emotions that come along with that habit. You’ll have a new habit of going around with compassion in your soul for the people with which we share this world.

It’s a wonderful feeling to be unsaddled from thinking ill of others. This is not to say that others will quit judging you just because you aren’t judging of others. After all, they may not yet know that there is such a thing as being non-judgmental or of becoming a better person!

Adapted from “A Slice of Life” – Presented and Written by Eugene Loh

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做人，不能太咄咄逼人，也不要以己见加在他人身上哦。

加油了！！！ ^_^g

Loving your true self

Some people always put other before them, and to them, this is a very natural thing; they feel they're being selfless and sympathetic. But in the process, they can forget who they are and lost themselves. They begin to get depressed, lose focus and ambition and wonder what happened to their lives to make them get to this point. The answer is simple --- they let their obligations and responsibilities get in the way of fulfilling their life's destiny and, in short, they lost themselves to others.

So, how does one who has become lost get found again?

One of the best things you can do for yourself and your loved ones is to practise self-love. Loving and respecting yourself more than anyone else is crucial because if you can't help yourself, you can't help others.

Nobody was born disliking how they looked. But some of us learnt to become insecure about our appearance as we grew up. So, reclaim that birthright. Fall in love with yourself all over again. See what you can do to enhance your appearance. We can all look and feel better paying more attention to our wardrobe, grooming, fitness and how we carry ourselves.

Now that you've worked on the outside, it's time to work on the inside. What's holding you back? What will set you free?

Self-reliance is your key to freedom. Many of us rely on others to make you happy. If not, make a list of goals to achieve a sense of self-validation and independence. The first thing on your list should be to accept responsibilities. Living your life always allowing others to make things happen for you or to make your life better puts you at the mercy of others later in life. Even within a relationship, try your best to even things out. Nobody likes giving all the time. So do your part.

And refocus your life to doing good whenever you can. Doing good empowers us and makes us feel more useful and valuable.

In order to be true to yourself, you must find time to reboot your life to become the happy, well-adjusted person lying dormant inside of you. By taking that positive step towards finding the self-love you deserve, you open yourself to happiness and self-fulfillment and become the person you want to be!

Adapted from "A Slice of Life" by Eugene Loh

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馆主也是有同感。很多时候，我们都是无私地付出、为他人着想，可是，总会有些时候感觉这样下去很疲惫。需要的，是一个小小的鼓励的力量让我们继续走下去。。一定可以的！

加油！找回自己！

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迎春花

有不同的版本，但是，这个版本应该是我们较少听到的吧。。^^

嘻嘻哈哈过新年

真的要过年了！

春天里（原曲）-赵丹主唱

经典老歌 ^^

The Seven Wonders of the World

A group of geography students studied the Seven Wonders of the World. At the end of that section, the students were asked to list what they considered to be the Seven Wonders of the World.

Though there were some disagreement, these got the most votes:
1. Egypt's Great Pyramids
2. Taj Mahal
3. Grand Canyon
4. Panama Canal
5. Empire State Building
6. St. Peter's Basilica
7. China's Great Wall

While gathering the votes, the teacher noted that one student, a quiet girl, hadn't turned in her paper yet. So she asked the girl if she was having trouble with her list. The quiet girl replied, "Yes, a little. I couldn't quite make up my mind because there were so many."

The teacher said, "Well, tell us what you have, and maybe we can help." The girl hesitated, then read, "I think the Seven Wonders of the World are:
1. to touch
2. to taste
3. to see
4. to hear"

She hesitated a little, and then,

"5. to run
6. to laugh
7. and to love"

Just because some things are in abundance doesn't make them less precious. Mothers delivering their babies occurs regularly enough, but think about the amount of effort, sacrifice, agony, and endurance that went on nine months before. And all the possible things that could have gone wrong but didn't. All the complexities involved in conception, pregnancy, and the final delivery, and how everything worked together to create another life --- a miracle in itself.

Things like the Great Wall, the Pyramids of Egypt, may be wondrous in the sheer immensity and architectural genuis involved, but these are not the things which make life worth living. Seek out the true wonders of the world --- your family, your friends, your ability to appreciate and enjoy the simple things in life.

Adapted from "A Slice of Life", Written by Eugene Loh, Story by Unknown Author

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真的，有时候，我们人总是忽略了最实在、最基本的事物。可能外国的月亮真的比较圆吧，可是，那是因为我们忘了珍惜我们所拥有的。你要知道，当你觉得甲国的月亮比较圆时，甲国的人民可能也在觉得你国家的月亮比较圆呀！

人是不知足的动物，所以，才会有不满。有时，眼睛看靠近一点儿，你可能会有意想不到的收获哦！

加油！馆主祝福大家一切变得更好！

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Life = Risk

"If you've never failed, you've never lived"

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馆主也觉得，我们不要害怕失败，因为每次的失败，就是为了成就我们的未来。要坚强，要加油哦！

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Letting Go

Letting go. It's much harder than it sounds. In the physical sense, it is almost effortless. But emotionally, it often requires a tremendous amount of courage.

Letting go of a partner who no longer wants to work at the relationship. Letting go of a child who is no longer a child. Letting go of the ghost of a loved one. Letting go of anger and resentment. Letting go of pride.

But the ability to "let go" is crucial for happiness and peace of mind. The people who break down at the feet of misfortune and loss are the ones who haven't learnt how to "let go", the ones who are frozen by the winter wind because they could not stop weeping by their dead crops.

It's important that we understand the true meaning of letting go.

Letting go does not mean that you stop caring. It means that you can no longer do it for someone else.

Letting go is not cutting yourself off. It's realizing that you can't control another.

Letting go is not trying to change or blame another. It's about making the most of yourself.

Letting go is not caring for, but caring about.

Letting go is not about fixing. It's about being supportive.

Letting go is not judging. It's allowing another to be a human being.

Letting go is not denying. It's accepting.

Letting go is not adjusting everything to your vagaries and desires, but taking each day as it comes and cherishing yourself in it.

Letting go is not about regretting the past. It's about growing and living for the future.

Letting go is fearing less, and loving more.

Letting go emotionally is endlessly harder than letting go physically. But if you practise it, you'll find it easier and easier to do. Choose peace of mind.

Adapted from 'A Slice of Life', written by Eugene Loh; and quotes on "Letting Go" adapted from a passage of unknown origin.

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说“放下”，可能对有些人来说，是件很困难的事。其实，要学习放下是需要莫大的勇气的。真正的英雄是不败的勇者，你是勇者吗？

但愿大家在新的一年会学习勇敢，也在新的一年学会“放下”以前不开心、不愉快的事情。

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