Letting Go

Letting go. It's much harder than it sounds. In the physical sense, it is almost effortless. But emotionally, it often requires a tremendous amount of courage.

Letting go of a partner who no longer wants to work at the relationship. Letting go of a child who is no longer a child. Letting go of the ghost of a loved one. Letting go of anger and resentment. Letting go of pride.

But the ability to "let go" is crucial for happiness and peace of mind. The people who break down at the feet of misfortune and loss are the ones who haven't learnt how to "let go", the ones who are frozen by the winter wind because they could not stop weeping by their dead crops.

It's important that we understand the true meaning of letting go.

Letting go does not mean that you stop caring. It means that you can no longer do it for someone else.

Letting go is not cutting yourself off. It's realizing that you can't control another.

Letting go is not trying to change or blame another. It's about making the most of yourself.

Letting go is not caring for, but caring about.

Letting go is not about fixing. It's about being supportive.

Letting go is not judging. It's allowing another to be a human being.

Letting go is not denying. It's accepting.

Letting go is not adjusting everything to your vagaries and desires, but taking each day as it comes and cherishing yourself in it.

Letting go is not about regretting the past. It's about growing and living for the future.

Letting go is fearing less, and loving more.

Letting go emotionally is endlessly harder than letting go physically. But if you practise it, you'll find it easier and easier to do. Choose peace of mind.

Adapted from 'A Slice of Life', written by Eugene Loh; and quotes on "Letting Go" adapted from a passage of unknown origin.

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说“放下”，可能对有些人来说，是件很困难的事。其实，要学习放下是需要莫大的勇气的。真正的英雄是不败的勇者，你是勇者吗？

但愿大家在新的一年会学习勇敢，也在新的一年学会“放下”以前不开心、不愉快的事情。

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