Your 4 boyfriends

Once upon a time there was this girl who had four boyfriends.

She loved the 4th boyfriend the most and adored him with rich robes and treated him to the finest of delicacies. She gave him nothing but the best.

She also loved the 3rd boyfriend very much and was always showing him off to neighboring kingdoms. However, she feared that one day he would leave her for another.

She also loved her 2nd boyfriend. He was her confidant and was always kind,considerate and patient with her. Whenever this girl faced a problem, she could confide in him, and he would help her get through the difficult times.

The girls 1st boyfriend was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining her wealth and kingdom. However, she did not love the first boyfriend. Although he loved her deeply, she hardly took notice of him!

One day, the girl fell ill and she knew her time was short. She thought of her luxurious life and wondered, I now have four boyfriends with me, but when I die, I'll be all alone.'

Thus, she asked the 4th boyfriend, 'I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?'

'No way!', replied the 4th boyfriend, and he walked away without another word..

His answer cut like a sharp knife right into her heart.

The sad girl then asked the 3rd boyfriend, 'I loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?'

'No!', replied the 3rd boyfrien d. 'Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to marry someone else!'

Her heart sank and turned cold.

She then asked the 2nd boyfriend, 'I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?'

'I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!', replied the 2nd boyfriend. 'At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave.'

His answer struck her like a bolt of lightning, and the girl was devastated.

Then a voice called out: 'I'll go with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go..'

The girl looked up, and there was his first boyfriend. He was very skinny as he suffered from malnutrition and neglect.

Greatly grieved, the girl said, 'I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!'

In truth, you have 4 boyfriends in your lives:

Your 4th boyfriend is your body. No matter how much time and effort you lavish in making it look good, it will leave you when you die.

Your 3rd boyfriend is your possessions, status and wealth.When you die, it will all go to others.

Your 2nd boyfriend is your family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for you, the furthest they can stay by you is up to the grave.

And your 1st boyfriend is your Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world.

However, your Soul is the only thing that will follow you where ever you go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of you that will follow you and continue with you throughout Eternity.

Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect. It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.

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馆主大约记得这个故事之前是讲着我们的“四个老婆”其实，无论是丈夫、老婆、男友还是女友，真正要传达的意义是我们往往都忽略了这一世人最为重要的一环：我们的本性良心。我们都在在乎那些身外物，而不好好修持我们内在的主人。

记得哦，快乐并不代表一切完美，而是当我们决定将眼光和视线跨越不完美。

今天也是我们微笑学习馆的“两岁生日”！真是令人兴奋啊！但是，馆主也知道，咱们这儿的分享不算多哦，所以，大家不必害臊，多多投稿分享唔！

加油！^_^g

杀蛇记

今天，馆主没有文章要特别和大家分享的，但是，馆主想与大家分享一篇部落格的心情语录。在新加坡有一位艺人郑斌辉，他在上个星期分享了他为了救朋友而杀死了一条并没有毒的蟒蛇，而感到后悔。

其中有几段话是馆主想特别与大家分享的：

1：可是，我因为心里对毒蛇的忧虑，而第一时间就判了它死刑。我并没有给它任何机会，也没有怜悯，更没有先确定它是否有毒，就把那蛇的生命抹杀了。
2：我们人类最自私的本性
3：我没有滥用主宰他物生死的权力
4：兄弟姐妹们，下次如果有小虫子飞入你们房间时，不要立刻把它们消灭掉，打开窗口，给它们一点时间飞出去吧，因为哪怕是多小的生命，也是一条命。正因为我们能够主宰它们的生死，我们背负的责任更大。除非是生死关键，放生一命，是我们必须做的。

就这几段话，让馆主深深感动。为什么？因为我们都很习惯地为了确保自己的安危和欲望，而不假思索地伤害其他人和小生命。无论是动物、昆虫还是植物。我们都习惯性地把自己的利益放在第一位而忽略了宇宙主宰是多么希望我们每一个生命能和睦共处，一起相处及存亡啊。馆主真的很希望借助郑斌辉的这篇心情分享提醒我们要好好地爱惜和珍惜每一个生命。我们不要事事都等到来不及时才知道后悔哦。

加油哦！^_^g

Source: 郑斌辉 - 杀蛇记

Anticipating Success

Are you affected by what happens to you? Or do you affect what happens to you? Which would you prefer?

In The Art of Possibility, authors Rosamund and Benjamin Zander remind us of our tremendous ability to attract what we want in our lives by being purposeful.

After 25 years of teaching, Ben Zander observed that students would be in such a chronic state of anxiety over the measurement of their performance that they would be reluctant to take risks with their playing. announced at the beginning of the semester that each student in the class would be getting an A for the course. However, they were asked to fulfill one requirement to earn this grade. Sometime during the next two weeks, each student was to write him a letter post-dated by a year, which began with the words, "Dear Mr. Zander, I got my A because...". In the letter they were to tell a detailed story of what would have happened to them within a year that was in line with them receiving an A in his class.

In other words, Zander asked the students to place themselves in the future, looking back, and to report on all the insights they acquired and milestones they attained during the school year, as if those accomplishments were already in the past.

Zander tells us that “the A is an invention that creates possibility for both mentor and student, manager and employee, or for any human interaction. The practice of giving an A allows the teacher to line up with her students in their efforts to produce the outcome, rather than lining up with the standards against these students. In this way, the instructor and the student, or the manager and the employee, become a team for accomplishing the extraordinary.

Zander reminds us that “It is dangerous to have our musicians so obsessed with competition because they will find it difficult to take the necessary risks with themselves to be great performers. The art of music, since it can only be conveyed through its interpreters, depends on expressive performance for its lifeblood. Yet it is only when we make mistakes in performance that we can really begin to notice what needs attention.” You don’t have to be a musician to appreciate the value of his wisdom.

So write yourself a letter, dating it a year from now. Project yourself into the future as you write a letter about all the insights you will have acquired and the milestones you will have attained during the year, as if your accomplishments for the next twelve months were already in the past. Chances are you’ll be able to reach your goals more effectively.

Source: Adapted from A Slice of Life by Eugene Loh

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馆主想也是吧。如果能够将心思放在未来、为人生设定目标，那生命就会是有意义的。我们不都希望自己是有意义地活着吗？

加油哦！

^_^g