Thursday 21 October 2010
Friday 15 October 2010
Seeing Failure As Success
We all know that in life, we can't avoid failing.
Yet, there's a way of viewing failure that might actually make it empowering for us.
Author Laura B. Randolph once said that "failure is success if we learn from it".
Following this logic, we can take it that life's upheavals are not meant to defeat us. They are intended to make us stronger. Every failure presents an opportunity to learn something that would benefit us in future.
With this view, we no longer need to see failure as a setback.
So if you're going through a bad patch, instead of spending your time moping, think critically about what could have led to your situation. What could you have done better? What new knowledge did you gain from this experience? What are your options now taht can take you to a better place?
Look forward. No storm lasts forever. And though life's potholes can slow us down, even break us a bit, they can always be breached. And we can heal and improve. Humans are the original upgradeable machines.
In life, there is only one dead end. But the rest of the time, your life is still ahead of you, no matter how bleak present circumstances seem. Even the apparent "dimness" of your present plight is a matter of outlook. Don't allow a setback to limit your view and prevent you from enjoying the rest of what life has to offer.
Too many of us focus on the negative aspects of life. Seldom do we savour and cherish the good parts of life. We simply take them for granted until they're no longer around.
Similarly, we often view failure with derision and disappointment. But it's time to change this mindset.
Make failure a stepping stone and it will nudge you towards your eventaul goals.
Let's learn from the words of author Laura B. Randolph... if we learn from Failure, it really is Success with another name.
Adapted from 'A Slice of Life' presented by Eugene Loh
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
其实，馆主还蛮赞同的。每次事情发生后，我们只顾着找出罪魁祸首，却忘了其实那已经不重要了。更重要的是，依据现在的情况，我们该如何将它变好。从过失中学习、进步，那才是有用的。
加油哦！
^_^g
Yet, there's a way of viewing failure that might actually make it empowering for us.
Author Laura B. Randolph once said that "failure is success if we learn from it".
Following this logic, we can take it that life's upheavals are not meant to defeat us. They are intended to make us stronger. Every failure presents an opportunity to learn something that would benefit us in future.
With this view, we no longer need to see failure as a setback.
So if you're going through a bad patch, instead of spending your time moping, think critically about what could have led to your situation. What could you have done better? What new knowledge did you gain from this experience? What are your options now taht can take you to a better place?
Look forward. No storm lasts forever. And though life's potholes can slow us down, even break us a bit, they can always be breached. And we can heal and improve. Humans are the original upgradeable machines.
In life, there is only one dead end. But the rest of the time, your life is still ahead of you, no matter how bleak present circumstances seem. Even the apparent "dimness" of your present plight is a matter of outlook. Don't allow a setback to limit your view and prevent you from enjoying the rest of what life has to offer.
Too many of us focus on the negative aspects of life. Seldom do we savour and cherish the good parts of life. We simply take them for granted until they're no longer around.
Similarly, we often view failure with derision and disappointment. But it's time to change this mindset.
Make failure a stepping stone and it will nudge you towards your eventaul goals.
Let's learn from the words of author Laura B. Randolph... if we learn from Failure, it really is Success with another name.
Adapted from 'A Slice of Life' presented by Eugene Loh
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
其实，馆主还蛮赞同的。每次事情发生后，我们只顾着找出罪魁祸首，却忘了其实那已经不重要了。更重要的是，依据现在的情况，我们该如何将它变好。从过失中学习、进步，那才是有用的。
加油哦！
^_^g
Friday 8 October 2010
A Thinking Problem
Do you think too much? Do you dream up worse-case scenarios in your head before they happen? Do you turn trivial snags in your career or relationships and turn them into apocalyptic catastrophes?
Well, I'm exaggerating for effect of course, but it's a condition that many of us suffer from but are woefully unaware of.
If you feel you could be suffering from a "thinking problem", well, that's a good start because if you're able to admit it, you're already on the road to recovery. Most "problem thinkers" don't realise they have a problem.
"What's the harm in a couple of thinks?" they say.
"Oh, I'm just a social thinker!" they claim.
But very soon, they can't start their day without a think and can't go to bed without one. Or four. They then feel as thought they can't function without thinking. They're consistently distracted at work, and their relationships suffer because of over-analysis and suspicion. Before they know it, they're thinking their lives away.
Now I'm not knocking the "think" per se. We both know that thinking is essential in life. It's when thinking becomes a barrier, an imaginary gulf that separates you from happiness and self-development. Over-thinking can interfere with your natural instinct and spontaneity. It can make you fearful and suspicious. It can impair your ability to focus and if it becomes a habit, can become a crutch you lean on instead of actually taking action.
Over-thinking can also be incredibly isolating. We can begin to avoid social situations because we're thinking too much about what others are thinking about us. We might also judge others prematurely, sometimes avoiding or despising them because of some aspect we perceive as negative or undesirable. We might also withhold love and intimacy because of our suspicions.
A thinking problem can also affect performance, well, at anything really... at work, at a meeting, on stage, in bed. How can we do well when we're so fixated with how well we're doing? You know as well as I that pressure is the last thing we need when trying to perform.
So if you feel like you're carrying a mountain of worries and problems on your shoulders, assess your situation. Are you perhaps thinking too much?
As author Oscar Wilde once remarked, "Life is too short to be taken seriouslyy".
Adapted from 'A Slice of Life' presented and written by Eugene Loh
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
馆主也好一段时间没有在这里做分享了。刚巧前些日子读到了这篇文章，觉得很适合我们现代人和社会，就摘选了。可不是吗？现代人很爱胡思乱想，把一些有的没的东西想得想是生命中的全部。最要不得的是在还未向前迈进以前，就先打退堂鼓，因为已经幻想了一万种不可能和肯定失败的结局来限制了自己。
不要让自己陷入这种无谓的自我约束。无论结果是什么，只要还有一线希望，我们都要努力地尝试。说不定结局并不是我们想象的那样呀。
加油哦！
^_^g
Well, I'm exaggerating for effect of course, but it's a condition that many of us suffer from but are woefully unaware of.
If you feel you could be suffering from a "thinking problem", well, that's a good start because if you're able to admit it, you're already on the road to recovery. Most "problem thinkers" don't realise they have a problem.
"What's the harm in a couple of thinks?" they say.
"Oh, I'm just a social thinker!" they claim.
But very soon, they can't start their day without a think and can't go to bed without one. Or four. They then feel as thought they can't function without thinking. They're consistently distracted at work, and their relationships suffer because of over-analysis and suspicion. Before they know it, they're thinking their lives away.
Now I'm not knocking the "think" per se. We both know that thinking is essential in life. It's when thinking becomes a barrier, an imaginary gulf that separates you from happiness and self-development. Over-thinking can interfere with your natural instinct and spontaneity. It can make you fearful and suspicious. It can impair your ability to focus and if it becomes a habit, can become a crutch you lean on instead of actually taking action.
Over-thinking can also be incredibly isolating. We can begin to avoid social situations because we're thinking too much about what others are thinking about us. We might also judge others prematurely, sometimes avoiding or despising them because of some aspect we perceive as negative or undesirable. We might also withhold love and intimacy because of our suspicions.
A thinking problem can also affect performance, well, at anything really... at work, at a meeting, on stage, in bed. How can we do well when we're so fixated with how well we're doing? You know as well as I that pressure is the last thing we need when trying to perform.
So if you feel like you're carrying a mountain of worries and problems on your shoulders, assess your situation. Are you perhaps thinking too much?
As author Oscar Wilde once remarked, "Life is too short to be taken seriouslyy".
Adapted from 'A Slice of Life' presented and written by Eugene Loh
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
馆主也好一段时间没有在这里做分享了。刚巧前些日子读到了这篇文章，觉得很适合我们现代人和社会，就摘选了。可不是吗？现代人很爱胡思乱想，把一些有的没的东西想得想是生命中的全部。最要不得的是在还未向前迈进以前，就先打退堂鼓，因为已经幻想了一万种不可能和肯定失败的结局来限制了自己。
不要让自己陷入这种无谓的自我约束。无论结果是什么，只要还有一线希望，我们都要努力地尝试。说不定结局并不是我们想象的那样呀。
加油哦！
^_^g
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