Living With Dementia

produced by Singapore Polytechnic

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真的很感人，也很让人觉得可悲。。我们是不是也让爱着我们的人为了我们奔波劳累，而没有关心他们？

真的应该好好反省了。

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Letting Go of Revenge

Retailation is an instinctive response for most people when they suffer an injustice. Even the most peace-loving pacifist experiences some points in life where he or she comtemplates the idea of revenge. One may not act upon the thought, but the very idea of "getting back" at someone is enough to rob us of happiness, if it becomes a preoccupation.

The desire for revenge is an obsession, and obsessions pull us away from the most important things in life, like our loved ones, our work, and the enjoyment of all that we have. It prevents us from living fully in the moment because it traps us in a cycle of thinking: "Now, how shall I hurt this person who has hurt me, so that I might feel better?"

The fact is, no one feels better after a vengeful act. If someone has done something disrespectful or disdainful enough to upset us, our act of vengeance would have to be just as bad, or worse. Consequently, we lower ourselves to a level where it's difficult to respect ourselves, and our sense of self-worth suffers. In the long-run, our souls become pale and sick because we've shut it in a dark room for too long, ignoring the sunshine of forgiveness which exists just outside. As E.H. Chapin once said, "Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge, and dares to forgive an injury."

People who focus on revenge don't allow their wounds to heal. They never quite recover from the transgression, because in order to fan the flame of revenge, they have to keep their wounds open... better still, make them bigger and allow them to fester. Old hurts tend to become more and more grievous when we allow them to bubble and boil in our cauldron of resentment.

People with a strong desire for revenge miss out on many good things in life. They often only see the ugly, the unjust, and the irredeemable. They add to the anger and hatred in the world, of which, if you haven't already noticed, we have in great abundance.

Revenge, ultimately achieves nothing. After the act, you might feel "good" for a while, but the thrill wears off. You realise that revenge doesn't heal your grievances. You don't become a better person, in fact, you're just as bad as the person who supposedly wronged you. You realise that while you were comtemplating revenge, your relationship with your loved ones and the world had suffered.

Forgiveness is so much easier, and it is so much sweeter than revenge.

As Confucius once said, "To be wronged is nothing... unless you continue to remember it."

Adapted from Eugene Loh - A Slice of Life

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没有错，其实人生中最大的美德，就是饶恕。可是，我们往往只记得别人对我们的不好，而一心想要报复他们，而最终在这过程中迷失了自己 --- 真正的自己。

我们要学习放开过去，这样，我们才有可能拥抱更美好的明天哟！

加油！^_^g

三岁了！

大家知道吗？馆主才发现，原来设立这个学习馆的三年和慢慢带大一个婴孩的感觉是一样的。每天每天，你都会希望这个宝贝会好好地、健康地成长，可是，你不可能永远待在孩子身边，所以，它终于慢慢长大了，有点儿欣慰，但也开始为它未来的成长过程感到担忧。

未来的日子，会是怎么样的呢？馆主也不知道。但是，馆主真心的希望每个到微笑学习馆的朋友们都也有一些体会，也希望在接下来的日子里，无论是学习馆里的分享或到学习馆来的朋友们都会快乐地成长。

大家要快乐地学习。微笑着哟！

^_^g

Man's faithful friend

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馆主虽然还是觉得结局很残忍。有时候，人的选择并非就是最正确的，只是当务之急能做的是什么，我们就该将它做到最好。

我们应该学习着更爱护我们的宠物。它们不是在我们无聊的时候才依靠的。有时，它们是最能体会我们的，最真心的朋友。

希望这个感人的影片能让你学习多爱护动物，不要做出伤害它们的事。

^_^g

Importance of Sleep

What killed Ranjan Das and Lessons for Corporate India

A month ago, many of us heard about the sad demise of Ranjan Das from Bandra, Mumbai. Ranjan, just 42 years of age, was the CEO of SAP-Indian Subcontinent, the youngest CEO of an MNC in India. He was very active in sports, was a fitness freak and a marathon runner. It was common to see him run on Bandra's Carter Road. Just after Diwali, on 21st Oct, he returned home from his gym after a workout, collapsed with a massive heart attack and died. He is survived by his wife and two very young kids.

It was certainly a wake-up call for corporate India. However, it was even more disastrous for runners amongst us. Since Ranjan was an avid marathoner ( in Feb 09, he ran Chennai Marathon at the same time some of us were running Pondicherry Marathon 180 km away ), the question came as to why an exceptionally active, athletic person succumb to heart attack at 42 years of age.

Was it the stress?

A couple of you called me asking about the reasons. While Ranjan had mentioned that he faced a lot of stress, that is a common element in most of our lives. We used to think that by being fit, one can conquer the bad effects of stress. So I doubted if the cause was stress.

The Real Reason

However, everyone missed out a small line in the reports that Ranjan used to make do with 4-5 hours of sleep. This is an earlier interview of Ranjan on NDTV in the program 'Boss' Day Out': Boss' Day Out: Ranjan Das of SAP India.

Here he himself admits that he would love to get more sleep ( and that he was not proud of his ability to manage without sleep, contrary to what others extolled ).

The Evidence

Last week, I was working with a well-known cardiologist on the subject of ‘Heart Disease caused by Lack of Sleep’. While I cannot share the video nor the slides because of confidentiality reasons, I have distilled the key points below in the hope it will save some of our lives.

Some Excerpts:

· Short sleep duration ( less than 5 or 5-6 hours ) increased risk for high BP by 350% to 500% compared to those who slept longer than 6 hours per night. Paper published in 2009. As you know, high BP kills.

· Young people ( 25-49 years of age ) are twice as likely to get high BP if they sleep less. Paper published in 2006.

· Individuals who slept less than 5 hours a night had a 3-fold increased risk of heart attacks. Paper published in 1999.

· Complete and partial lack of sleep increased the blood concentrations of High sensitivity C-Reactive Protein (hs-cRP), the strongest predictor of heart attacks. Even after getting adequate sleep later, the levels stayed high!!

· Just one night of sleep loss increases very toxic substances in body such as Interleukin-6 (IL-6), Tumour Necrosis Factor-Alpha (TNF-alpha) and C-reactive protein (cRP). They increase risks of many medical conditions, including cancer, arthritis and heart disease. Paper published in 2004.

· Sleeping for less than or equal to 5 hours per night leads to 39% increase in heart disease. Sleeping for less than or equal to 6 hours per night leads to 18% increase in heart disease. Paper published in 2006.

Ideal Sleep

For lack of space, I cannot explain here the ideal sleep architecture. But in brief, sleep is composed of two stages: REM ( Rapid Eye Movement ) and non-REM. The former helps in mental consolidation while the latter helps in physical repair and rebuilding. During the night, you alternate between REM and non-REM stages 4-5 times.

The earlier part of sleep is mostly non-REM. During that period, your pituitary gland releases growth hormones that repair your body. The latter part of sleep is more and more REM type.

For you to be mentally alert during the day, the latter part of sleep is more important. No wonder when you wake up with an alarm clock after 5-6 hours of sleep, you are mentally irritable throughout the day (lack of REM sleep). And if you have slept for less than 5 hours, your body is in a complete physical mess ( lack of non-REM sleep ), you are tired throughout the day, moving like a zombie and your immunity is way down ( I’ve been there, done that ).
Finally, as long-distance runners, you need an hour of extra sleep to repair the running related damage.

If you want to know if you are getting adequate sleep, take Epworth Sleepiness Test below.

Interpretation: Score of 0-9 is considered normal while 10 and above abnormal. Many a times, I have clocked 21 out the maximum possible 24, the only saving grace being the last situation, since I don’t like to drive ( maybe, I should ask my driver to answer that line ).

In conclusion:

Barring stress control, Ranjan Das did everything right: eating proper food, exercising ( marathoning! ), maintaining proper weight. But he missed getting proper and adequate sleep, minimum 7 hours. In my opinion, that killed him.
If you are not getting enough sleep ( 7 hours ), you are playing with fire, even if you have low stress.

I always took pride in my ability to work 50 hours at a stretch whenever the situation warranted. But I was so spooked after seeing the scientific evidence last week that since Saturday night, I ensure I do not even set the alarm clock under 7 hours. Now, that is a nice excuse to get some more sleep.

Unfortunately, Ranjan Das is not alone when it comes to missing sleep. Many of us are doing exactly the same, perhaps out of ignorance. Please forward this mail/article to as many of your colleagues/friends as possible, especially those who might be short-changing their sleep. If we can save even one young life because of this email, I would be the happiest person on earth.

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所以啊，我们一定要尽量睡足才行哦。不要经常缺睡哦。

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A Tale of Tolerance

我们知道忍耐是什么吗？千万不可把和谐当成是理所当然的哦。

祝福着大家。

^_^g

三字经 - 买臣负薪

故事

汉朝有个叫朱买臣的读书人，家里很穷，到了四十岁还是一个穷困的书生，与妻子崔氏艰难度日。为了生活，朱买臣每天都进山砍柴。即使这样，他也没有放弃读书，每次砍柴，他都要带上书。妻子崔氏无法忍受这种艰苦的生活，与他离了婚。朱买臣孤身一人，依然每天砍柴读书。在他快五十岁时，汉武帝召见他，任命他为中大夫，后来又做了家乡的太守。他的妻子见朱买臣衣锦还乡，羞愧难当。

三字经 - 李密挂角

如负薪 如挂角 身虽劳 犹苦卓

释义
汉朝朱买臣一面背柴，一面读书；隋朝李密骑牛外出时，牛角上挂着书，以便随时阅读。他们虽然身体劳累，却仍能刻苦读书。

故事
隋朝时的李密从小就喜欢读书学习，即使外出也把书随身携带。一次，他出门去拜访朋友，路上为了方便，就把《汉书》挂在牛角上。正在他全心读书时，与当时的宰相杨素相遇。杨素见他如此好学，顿生好感。通过了解，杨素感觉李密还有举一反三的独到见解。后来，杨素的儿子起兵反隋，拜李密为军师。李密后来加入了瓦岗军，为推翻隋朝的残暴统治做出了贡献，他挂角读书的事迹也激励了很多的读书人。

三字经 - 车胤囊萤

故事

车胤 [che1 yin4] 是晋朝时期的一个年轻人，他非常喜欢读书，不管白天多累，只要晚上一拿起书，所有的疲劳就会一扫而光。后来家里穷得连灯油也买不起了，车胤很苦恼。一个夏天的晚上，车胤在野外散步，忽然发现飞舞着的萤火虫，心里有了一个好主意。他抓了一些萤火虫装进袋子，借着萤火虫微弱的光，车胤又能读书了。后来，车胤做了大官，但仍然坚持学习，他一生都以勤学闻名于世。

Life is like a cup of coffee

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真的，你怎么看待人生/生命呢？

Why Must You Be Like Others?

親愛的小孩

如果勾起你的记忆。。。


小小的小孩　今天有沒有哭
是否朋友都已經離去　留下了帶不走的孤獨

漂亮的小孩　今天有沒有哭
是否弄髒了美麗的衣服　卻找不到別人傾訴

聰明的小孩　今天有沒有哭
是否遺失了心愛的禮物　在風中尋找從清晨到日暮

我親愛的小孩　為什麼你不讓我看清楚
是否讓風吹熄了蠟燭　在黑暗中獨自漫步

親愛的小孩　快快擦乾你的淚珠
我願意陪伴你走上回家的路

親愛的小孩　今天有沒有哭
是否朋友都已經離去　留下了帶不走的孤獨

親愛的小孩　今天有沒有哭
是否遺失了心愛的禮物　在風中尋找從清晨到日暮

Life Without Limits

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"Are you going to finish strong?" --- inspiring~!

每个人的人生经历都是不一样的，可是，我们每个人的未来都是无可限量的。尝试是一门很棒的功课。可是，我们往往都害怕失败所以不愿意尝试。可是，没有尝试过又怎么知道我们一定不会成功呢？

加油吧，大家！谢谢之前分享的朋友们，也感谢月莉小姐又再次向馆主提起，拿出来作分享。

^_^g

Daddy, you can let go

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发人深省。。。馆主了解，我们很多时候都可能觉得我们的父母怎么就不能放手让我们去做自己想做的事。。我们都认为自己长大了，父母只会唠叨、过分地担心。但是，生我们、养育我们的人，岂能放心、放下我们？ 我们一辈子都是他们的孩子，一辈子都在他们的呵护之下成长着，不可能会改变的。

要珍惜啊。

^_^g

好不好？

朋友您好，为了你好，请您坐好，用心听好。
钱多钱少，够吃就好。
人丑人美，顺眼就好。
人老人少，健康就好。
家穷家富，和气就好。
老公晚归，有回就好。
老婆唠叨，顾家就好。
孩子从小，就要教好。
博士也好，卖菜也好，长大以后，乖乖就好。
房屋大小，能住就好。
名不名牌，能穿就好。
两轮四轮，能驾就好。
老板不好，要忍就好。
一切烦恼，能解就好。
坚持执着，放下最好。
人的一生，平安就好。
不是有钱，一定会好。
心好行好，命能改好。
谁是谁非，天知就好。
修福修慧，来世更好。
天地万物，随缘就好。
很多事情，看开就好。
说这么多，明白就好。
人人都好，日日都好。
你好我好，世界更好。
总而言之，知足最好。
这条短信，真的很好，不发给你，是我不好。

MM Lee Kuan Yew On Aging (v)

In other words, you must have an interest in life. If you believe that at 55, you're retiring, you're going to read books, play golf and drink wine, then I think you're done for. So statistically they will show you that all the people who retire and lead sedentary lives, the pensioners die off very quickly.

So we now have a social problem with medical sciences, new procedures, new drugs, many more people are going to live long lives. If the mindset is that when I reach retirement age 62, I'm old, I can't work anymore, I don't have to work, I just sit back, now is the time I'll enjoy life, I think you're making the biggest mistake of your life.

After one month, or after two months, even if you go travelling with nothing to do, with no purpose in life, you will just degrade, you'll go yo seed.

The human being needs a challenge, and my advice to every person in Singapore and elsewhere: Keep yourself interested, have a challenge..

If you're not interested in the world and the world is not interested in you, the biggest punishment a man can receive is total isolation in a dungeon, black and complete withdrawal of all stimuli, that's real torture. So when I read that people believe, Singaporeans say, 'Oh, 62 I'm retiring.' I say to them, 'You really want to die quickly?' If you want to see sunrise tomorrow or sunset, you must have a reason, you must have the stimuli to keep going.'

Have a purpose driven life and finish well my friends.

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MM Lee Kuan Yew On Aging (iv)

So all right, cut out fats, change diet, went to see a specialist in Boston, Massachusetts General Hospital. He said: 'Take statins.' I said, 'What's that?' He said, '(They) help to reduce your cholesterol.' My doctors were concerned. They said, 'You don't need it. Your cholesterol levels are okay.' Two years later, more medical evidence came out. So the doctors said, 'Take statins.'

Had there been no angioplasty, had I not known that something was up and I cycled on, I might have gone at 74 like my mother. So I missed that deadline.

So next deadline: my father's fall at 87.

I'm very careful now because sometimes when I turn around too fast, I feel as if I'm going to get off balance. So my daughter, a neurologist, she took me to the NNI, there's this nerve conduction test, put electrodes here and there.

The transmission of the messages between the feet and the brain has slowed down.

So all the exercise, everything, effort put in, I'm fit, I swim, I cycle. But I can't prevent this losing of conductivity of the nerves and this transmission. So just go slow.

So when I climb up the steps, I have no problem. When I go down the steps, I need to be sure that I've got something I can hang on to, just in case. So it's a constant process of adjustment.

But I think the most important single lesson I learnt in life was that if you isolate yourself, you're done for.

The human being is a social animal - he needs stimuli, he needs to meet people, to catch up with the world.

I don't much like travel but I travel very frequently despite the jet lag, because I get to meet people of great interest to me, who will help me in my work as chairman of our GIC. So I know, I'm on several boards of banks, international advisory boards of banks, of oil companies and so on.

And I meet them and I get to understand what's happening in the world, what has changed since I was here one month ago, one year ago. I go to India, I go to China.

And that stimuli brings me to the world of today. I'm not living in the world, when I was active, more active 20, 30 years ago. So I tell my wife. She woke up late today. I said, 'Never mind, you come along by 12 o'clock. I go first.'

If you sit back - because part of the ending part of the encyclopaedia which I read was very depressing - as you get old, you withdraw from everything and then all you will have is your bedroom and the photographs and the furniture that you know, and that's your world. So if you've got to go to hospital, the doctor advises you to bring some photographs so that you'll know you're not lost in a different world, that this is like your bedroom.

I'm determined that I will not, as long as I can, to be reduced, to have my horizons closed on me like that. It is the stimuli, it is the constant interaction with people across the world that keeps me aware and alive to what's going on and what we can do to adjust to this different world.

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to be continued...

MM Lee Kuan Yew On Aging (iii)

So, as you acquire more knowledge, you then craft a programme for yourself to maximise what you have. It's just common sense. I never planned to live till 85 or 84! I just didn't think about it. I said: 'Well, my mother died when she was 74, she had a stroke. My father died when he was 94.'

But I saw him, and he lived a long life, well, maybe it was his DNA. But more than that, he swam every day and he kept himself busy. He was working for the Shell company. He was in charge, he was a superintendent of an oil depot. When he retired, he started becoming a salesman. So people used to tell me, 'Your father is selling watches at BP de Silva.' My father was then living with me. But it kept him busy. He had that routine: He meets people, he sells watches, he buys and sells all kinds of semi-precious stones, he circulates coins. And he keeps going. But at 87, 88, he fell, going down the steps from his room to the dining room, broke his arm, three months incapacitated. Thereafter, he couldn't go back to swimming. Then he became wheelchair-bound. Then it became a problem because my house was constructed that way. So my brother - who's a doctor and had a flat (one-level) house - took him in. And he lived on till 94. But towards the end, he had gradual loss of mental powers.

So my calculations, I'm somewhere between 74 and 94. And I've reached the halfway point now. But have I?

Well, 1996 when I was 73, I was cycling and I felt tightening on the neck. Oh, I must retire today. So I stopped. Next day, I returned to the bicycle. After five minutes it became worse.

So I said, no, no, this is something serious, it's got to do with the blood vessels. Rung up my doctor, who said, 'Come tomorrow'. Went tomorrow, he checked me, and said, 'Come back tomorrow for an angiogram.'

I said: 'What's that?' He said, 'We'll pump something in and we'll see whether the coronary arteries are cleared or blocked.' I was going to go home. But an MP who was a cardiologist happened to be around, so he came in and said: 'What are you doing here?' I said, 'I've got this.' He said: 'Don't go home. You stay here tonight. I've sent patients home and they never came back. Just stay here. They'll put you on the monitor.

They'll watch your heart. And if anything, an emergency arises, they will take you straight to the theatre. You go home. You've got no such monitor. You may never come back.'

So I stayed there. Pumped in the dye, yes it was blocked, the left circumflex, not the critical, lead one. So that's lucky for me. Two weeks later, I was walking around,I felt it's coming back. Yes it has come back, it had occluded. So this time they said: 'We'll put in a stent.'

I'm one of the first few in Singapore to have the stent, so it was a brand new operation. Fortunately, the man who invented the stent was out here selling his stent. He was from San Jose, La Jolla something or the other. So my doctor got hold of him and he supervised the operation. He said put the stent in. My doctor did the operation, he just watched it all and then that's that. That was before all this problem about lining the stent to make sure that it doesn't occlude and create a disturbance.

So at each stage, I learnt something more about myself and I stored that.

I said, 'Oh, this is now a danger point.'

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to be continued...

MM Lee Kuan Yew On Aging (ii)

Then one day I was at the home of my colleague, Mr Rajaratnam, meeting foreign correspondents including some from the London Times and they took a picture of me and I had a big belly like that (puts his hands in front of his belly), a beer belly. I felt no, no, this will not do. So I started playing more golf, hit hundreds of balls on the practice tee. But this didn't go down. There was only one way it could go down: consume less, burn up more.

Another turning point came when - this was 1976, after the general election - I was feeling tired. I was breathing deeply at the Istana, on the lawns. My daughter, who at that time just graduating as a doctor, said, 'What are you trying to do?' I said, 'I feel an effort to breathe in more oxygen.' She said: 'Don't play golf. Run. Aerobics..' So she gave me a book , quite a famous book and, then, very current in America on how you score aerobic points swimming, running, whatever it is, cycling. I looked at it sceptically. I wasn't very keen on running. I was keen on golf. So I said,'Let's try'. So in-between golf shots while playing on my own, sometimes nine holes at the Istana, I would try and walk fast between shots. Then I began to run between shots. And I felt better. After a while, I said: 'Okay, after my golf, I run.' And after a few years, I said, 'Golf takes so long. The running takes 15 minutes. Let's cut out the golf and let's run.'

I think the most important thing in ageing is you got to understand yourself. And the knowledge now is all there.

When I was growing up, the knowledge wasn't there. I had to get the knowledge from friends, from doctors. But perhaps the most important bit of knowledge that the doctor gave me was one day, when I said, 'Look, I'm feeling slower and sluggish.' So he gave me a medical encyclopaedia and he turned the pages to ageing. I read it up and it was illuminating. A lot of it was difficult jargon but I just skimmed through to get the gist of it.

As you grow, you reach 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25 and then, thereafter, you are on a gradual slope down physically.

Mentally, you carry on and on and on until I don't know what age, but mathematicians will tell you that they know their best output is when they're in their 20s and 30s when your mental energy is powerful and you haven't lost many neurons. That's what they tell me.

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to be continued...

MM Lee Kuan Yew On Aging (i)

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* I CARE ABOUT OUR SAFETY *
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Learn from the most wise from Singapore. I do agree he has a point or two there. Wishing all a long and blessed life.

Subject: Lee Kuan Yew On Aging

This has nothing about politics - very interesting.
A very good read! MM speaks from experience.

MY CONCERN today is, what is it I can tell you which can add to your knowledge about ageing and what ageing societies can do. You know more about this subject than I do. A lot of it is out in the media, internet and books. So I thought the best way would be to take a personal standpoint and tell you how I approach this question of ageing.

If I cast my mind back, I can see turning points in my physical and mental health. You know, when you're young, I didn't bother, assumed good health was God-given and would always be there. When I was about 1957 that was - I was about 34, we were competing in elections, and I was really fond of drinking beer and smoking. And after the election campaign, in Victoria Memorial Hall - we had won the election, the City Council election - I couldn't thank the voters because I had lost my voice. I'd been smoking furiously. I'd take a packet of 10 to deceive myself, but I'd run through the packet just sitting on the stage, watching the crowd, getting the feeling, the mood before I speak.

In other words, there were three speeches a night. Three speeches a night, 30 cigarettes, a lot of beer after that, and the voice was gone.

I remember I had a case in Kuching, Sarawak. So I took the flight and I felt awful. I had to make up my mind whether I was going to be an effective campaigner and a lawyer, in which case I cannot destroy my voice, and I can't go on. So I stopped smoking. It was a tremendous deprivation because I was addicted to it. And I used to wake up dreaming... the nightmare was I resumed smoking.

But I made a choice and said, if I continue this, I will not be able to do my job. I didn't know anything about cancer of the throat or oesophagus or the lungs, etc. But it turned out it had many other deleterious effects.

Strangely enough after that, I became very allergic, hyper-allergic to smoking, so much so that I would plead with my Cabinet ministers not to smoke in the Cabinet room. You want to smoke, please go out, because I am allergic.

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to be continued...

和你一样

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歌词感人、具有鼓励。和大家分享。

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Give It A Shot

Question: There are 3 frogs on a leaf. If one of them decided to jump off the leaf into the water, how many frogs are there left on the leaf?

Answer: Three!

Why? The frog only DECIDED to jump! It didn't!

Dreaming of a personal accomplishment, most people make the mistake of waiting...
- Waiting until they've been trained
- Waiting till someone say's they are ready
- Waiting till they have the proper tools
- Waiting till they're better
- Waiting till they're hired
- Waiting till they've been given the assignment

Ponder over this, my friends. Are you not unlike the frog; who decides to do this, decides to do that, but ended up not doing any?

In life, we have to make many decisions. Some easy; some hard. Most mistakes are not made by wrong decisions; Most mistakes are made due to our inability to take a right decision at the right time.

We have to live with the consequences of our decisions. And that is RISK.

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是吧，我们很多时候都光想但不行动，那样我们当然达不到目标、梦想呗。光说不练是没用的，所以，一定要以行动来实践梦想哦！感谢月莉小姐和我们分享这篇故事。

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People come into your life...

The Way You Wake Up

Success in life can be as simple as looking at the way you wake up. If you can wake up in a happy, peaceful and positive frame of mind, then you will reclaim your confidence, your love for life, your desire to succeed. The mood with which you start the day sets the tone for the rest of the day.

One way of ensuring that you wake up in a positive and powerful frame of mind is to change your ritual before you go to sleep. Look back over your day. How are you describing what happened to you today?

Are you focusing on those incidents that drained you or the actions, feedback and feelings that amde you feel good? You should concentrate on issues that give you power, what made you feel good. You see, what you focus on is what you get. So if you continue to focus on the negative and the draining issues then you have no choice but to feel sluggish and drained all the time. If you can allow yourself to drift off to sleep while thinking positively of your successes then you have the opportunity of being recharged through sleep and waking in a dynamic frame of mind.

It may sometimes be impossible to see successes of the day. Maybe one particular day, everything seemed to go wrong for you. What can you do then? Well, think about it this way --- it doesn't matter how bad the experience is; work with it as though it were an opportunity, a challenge. Nothing can happen to you that isn't for your benefit. Even though when it is happening it doesn't feel like it. Do not just accept the draining incident and make youself tired and discouraged but refocus your mind. Imagine that whatever happens to you is meant to happen to you and coming through it can only improve you.

And throw away your alarm clock. For many people this sounds ridiculous. How would you ever get up in the morning if it weren't for your alarm clock? But have you ever stopped to wonder what it is about your life that requires you to shock yourself awake? Can such regular rude awakenings be good for you? If you need some assistance in waking up by a particular time, try waking up to music, or use a more subtle method like a Zen Clock which gives a soft tone of increasing frequency, that will slowly and gently wake you up.

Wake up 5 to 10 minutes earlier, sit quietly and plant the seeds of peace and love in your mind. Listen to soothing music. Cultivate a feeling of warmth and peace. A feeling of love and acceptance. When you do this, you are connecting with your natural power of peace and love which naturally bring freedom and positivity to your life. The result is a feeling of harmony and contentment.

Now you're ready to face the world!

Adapted from "A Slice of Life" by Eugene Loh.

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馆主觉得这篇分享很适合大家。我们每天忙忙碌碌的，很可能不小心就迷失了自己；更轻易沮丧。我们不妨试试这个新的乐观理念，看看成效如何唔？

加油哦！

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有一天我老了，也會 ...

周六一大早，还在赖床，电话铃声打断了我的清梦，原來是妈：「中午要不要帶孩子回來吃肉羹？」

「可是我答应孩子今天去麦当劳吃早餐耶！」
妈仍不放弃：「把那个钱省下來啊！开车回來才十分钟。」

我心里想：孩子一定喜欢吃汉堡，不要吃肉羹。果然，在我犹豫时，老大、老二一个摇手、一个做拜托状，大家都期待一周难得一次的早餐会。

於是我告訴媽：「等我们讨论好再打给妳好吗？」
妈有点幽幽地回：「好吧！」
电话一掛，孩子们同声说：「不要啦！我们说好去麦当劳的。」

我告诉孩子：「外婆的目的根本不是要我们去吃肉羹，她是想看我们。」
「可是我们上星期不是才回去给她看过？」

我知道单以这个理由要更改原计划有点不合理，便告訴孩子：「有一天我老了，也会打电话給你们说：
『儿子啊！要不要回來？我烤了蛋糕哦，帶孩子回來吧！』如果兒子回答我：『蛋糕到处有得买，我今天沒空啦！』那我会很伤心。」
四岁的小女儿马上说：「我不会。我会说好。」结果我们协议：早餐照原计划，晚上去外婆家。

妈妈知道了好高兴：「那我晚上再煮肉羹。」

下午加完班，赶回家和孩子、老公会合，爸妈看到我们好高兴。我们鱼贯进入厨房盛肉羹，大人小孩叽叽喳喳地聊天，妈妈开始诉说她的五十肩每天折磨着她。我问她：「有沒有去做复建？热敷？」

「有啊，都沒有用！」 ... 於是，我深深了解到妈妈要的不是医疗资讯，而是儿女的关心。

走进厨房，看到一向爱干净的老妈心爱的锅子盖都沾了厚厚一层油垢，便用铁刷用力把它们刷洗干净，一面刷一面想到：妈妈一定是沒力气刷它们了。

她曾经用双手一手抱我、一手拿铲子炒菜，也曾用双手刷遍家里每一个角落。

她那双手还曾经握着汽车方向盤赚钱 ── 她是台中第一位女计程车司机 ── 如今年纪大了，她的手累了，却仍然忍着痠痛煮我们爱吃的肉羹面、炒米粉，然后打电话叫我们回家。

我再忙再累，都要常常回娘家洗锅子；也希望有一天党我年纪大了、手也不再灵光时，孩子们记得回家帮我刷刷锅子。

不要只关心小孩，有天我們也会老唷！

记得在花莲门若医院长廊上看见的宣导海报：「记得宝宝是一岁又... 個月长第一颗牙齿，却不记得父亲最后一颗牙是什么时候掉的。」

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有点儿长的故事。但是，重点是，我们要学习体会长辈的心思。他们所要做饭给我们吃，并不是单单要我们吃饭，而是想要我们多陪陪他们、多看看我们。知道了吗？感谢月莉小姐和我们分享的这篇故事。

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六十六条经典禅语（三十三）

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六十六条经典禅语（三十二）

六十六条经典禅语（三十一）

六十六条经典禅语（三十）

六十六条经典禅语（二十九）

六十六条经典禅语（二十八）

六十六条经典禅语（二十七）

You Raise Me Up

the 45 lessons life taught me

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written."

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath.. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's,we'd grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

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值得分享，思考。

^_^g

六十六条经典禅语（二十六）

Do Not Hurt Yourself

One night a snake, while it was looking for food, entered a carpenter’s workshop.

The carpenter, who was a rather untidy man, had left several of his tools lying on the floor. One of them was a saw. As the snake went round and round the shop, he climbed over the saw, which gave him a little cut.

At once, thinking that the saw was attacking him, he turned around and bit it so hard that his mouth started to bleed. This made him very angry. He attacked again and again until the saw was covered with blood and seemed to be dead.

Dying from his own wounds, the snake decided to give one last hard bite then turned away. The next morning the carpenter was surprised to find a dead snake on his doorstep.

Lesson to Learn:
Sometimes in trying to hurt others, we only hurt ourselves..

Adapted from: Pravs World

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感谢月莉小姐和大家分享的这个故事。的确，人往往在想害其他人的时候都忽略了，真正害到的人其实是自己。馆主个人认为 [i.e.不代表本学习馆立场 :p]: sometimes in trying to inflict pain and misery on others, we'll only realize that the greatest pain and misery resulted from the action / thought is upon ourselves... so why don't we try to bring happiness to others instead?

不知道馆主的想法是否正确，但是，让这世界加注多一分的快乐和欢笑总比多一分悲伤来得好吧？

祝福大家哦！

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六十六条经典禅语 (二十五)

Life's a reflection of u

You've undoubtedly read about the father and son who were hiking in the mountains, but it stands repeating. You may have had the same experience as they had.

As they were walking along the son falls, hurts himself, and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!"

To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!"

Curious, he yells: "Who are you?"

He receives the answer: "Who are you?"

Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!"

He receives the answer: "Coward!"

He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?"

The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention." And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!"

The voice answers: "I admire you!"

Again the man screams: "You are a champion!"

The voice answers: "You are a champion!"

The boy is surprised, but does not understand.

Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE. It gives you back everything you say or do.

How true this is. Our life is pretty much a reflection of our actions. If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart. If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence. This relationship applies to everything in all aspects of life—life will give you back everything you have given to it.

Your life is not a coincidence. It is a reflection of you.

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赞成吧？人生既是如此。我们往往都以为是别人才能影响我们的未来，但其实，我们自己的每一举一动才是真正推动着或将我们拖着的能量啊。

希望大家认真反思哦！

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六十六条经典禅语 (二十四)

A Friend is...

A friend is someone we lean on,
When we are feeling weak.

A friend is someone who helps us,
Find what it is we seek.

A friend is someone who looks out for you,
In all they say and do.

A friend is someone you don’t have to tell,
For they already knew.

A friend is someone who would,
Go that extra mile.

A friend is someone who shows us,
A heart that does truly smile.

A friend is someone who’ll stand by you,
And help you through your day.

A friend is someone who’ll show you,
There is always a way.

A friend is someone who’ll dry your tears,
When you feel you have to cry.

A friend is someone who’ll pull you through,
When the tide feels ever so high.

A friend is someone who’ll be there,
Until the very end.

A friend is someone who’ll show us,
How that broken heart they’ll mend.

A friend is someone who gives us,
Understanding, Joy and Grace.

A friend is someone who makes this world,
Truly a wonderful place.

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从前馆主读了这首诗, 希望与你们大家分享。

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六十六条经典禅语 (二十三)

六十六条经典禅语 (二十二)

六十六条经典禅语 (二十一)

六十六条经典禅语 (二十)

六十六条经典禅语 (十九)

六十六条经典禅语 (十八)

六十六条经典禅语 (十七)

六十六条经典禅语 (十六)

What is this?

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感谢月莉小姐和大家分享这个短片。我们是不是也会很不耐烦地回答我们上了年纪的父母、祖父母呢？有没有想过我们的父母在我们小的时候也是被我们“烦”呢？我们没有反哺之心，是很可悲的。一定要时时记得拥有的不是理所当然的哟。

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Beautifully Imperfect

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这个影片来自新加坡MCYS近期的一个宣传片。很感人，也很真实。因为我们每个人都是这样的吧？总要等到失去了、 没有了的时候才会后悔；而那时已经太迟了。

珍惜眼前人、现在的人事物。不要理所当然的一直要求而已哦。彼此付出人生才会精彩。

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最初的本心

有個老魔鬼看到人間的生活過得太幸福了，他說：「我們要去擾亂一下，要不然魔鬼就不存在了。」

他先派了一個小魔鬼去擾亂一個農夫。因為他看到那農夫每天辛勤地工作，可是所得卻少得可憐，但他還是那麼快樂，非常知足。

小魔鬼就開始想，要怎樣才能把農夫變壞呢？他就把農夫的田地變得很硬，讓農夫知難而退。那農夫敲半天，做得好辛苦，但他只是休息一下，還是繼續敲，沒有一點抱怨。小魔鬼看到計策失敗，只好摸摸鼻子回去了。

老魔鬼又派了第二個去。第二個小魔鬼想，既然讓他更加辛苦也沒有用，那就拿走他所擁有的東西吧！那小魔鬼就把他午餐的麵包跟水偷走，他想，農夫做得那麼辛苦，又累又餓，卻連麵包跟水都不見了，這下子他一定會暴跳如雷！

農夫又渴又餓地到樹下休息，想不到麵包跟水都不見了！「不曉得是哪個可憐的人比我更需要那塊麵包跟水？如果這些東西就能讓他得溫飽的話，那就好了。」又失敗了，小魔鬼又棄甲而逃。

老魔鬼覺得奇怪，難道沒有任何辦法能使這農夫變壞？就在這時第三個小魔鬼出來了。他對老魔鬼講：「我有辦法，一定能把他變壞。」

小魔鬼先去跟農夫做朋友，農夫很高興地和他作了朋友。因為魔鬼有預知的能力，他就告訴農夫，明年會有乾旱，教農夫把稻種在濕地上，農夫便照做。結果第二年別人沒有收成，只有農夫的收成滿坑滿谷，他就因此而富裕起來了。

小魔鬼又每年都對農夫說當年適合種什麼，三年下來，這農夫就變得非常富有。他又教農夫把米拿去釀酒販賣，賺取更多的錢。慢慢地，農夫開始不工作了，靠著經濟販賣的方式，就能獲得大量金錢。

有一天，老魔鬼來了，小魔鬼就告訴老魔鬼說：「您看！我現在要展現我的成果。這農夫現在已經有豬的血液了。」只見農夫辦了個晚宴，所有富有的人都來參加；喝最好的酒，吃最精美的餐點，還有好多的僕人侍候。他們非常浪費地吃喝，衣裳零亂，醉得不省人事，開始變得像豬一樣癡肥愚蠢。「您還會看到他身上有著狼的血液。」小魔鬼又說。


這時，一個僕人端著葡萄酒出來，不小心跌了一跤。農夫就開始罵他：「你做事這麼不小心！」「唉！主人，我們到現在都沒有吃飯，餓得渾身無力。」「事情沒有做完，你們怎麼可以吃飯！」

老魔鬼見了，高興地對小魔鬼說：「唉！你太了不起！你是怎麼辦到的？」小魔鬼說：「我只不過是讓他擁有比他需要的更多而已，這樣就可以引發他人性中的貪婪。」

心若改變，你的態度跟著改變；
態度改變，你的習慣跟著改變；
習慣改變，你的性格跟著改變；
性格改變，你的人生跟著改變。

這篇文章分享給每一個在為夢想努力奮鬥的你，提醒我們在努力追求夢想的同時， 千萬不要忘了最初的本心。

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感谢妙樺小姐和我们分享的这篇文章。很有意思对吧？其实，我们就像那农夫一样，最初时，我们都是善良无邪的，那是因为我们没有觉得我们拥有超出我们需要的， 一旦我们有了超出我们所需要的，我们的贪念就会增加，也就会改变我们的心。

所以啊，馆主希望大家在拥有必须要更多的时候要时时警惕自己哟！

^_^g

六十六条经典禅语 (十五)

六十六条经典禅语 (十四)

六十六条经典禅语 (十三)

六十六条经典禅语 (十二)

六十六条经典禅语 (十一)

六十六条经典禅语 (十)

L-O-V-E

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others including Love. One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all repaired their boats and left.

Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment. When the island was almost sinking, Love decided to ask for help. Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat. Love said, "Richness, can you take me with you?" Richness answered, "No, I can’t. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."

Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel, "Vanity, please help me!" "I can’t help you Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat." Vanity answered.

Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, "Sadness, let me go with you." "Oh....Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!"

Happiness passed by Love too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her!

Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come Love, I will take you." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived at dry land, the elder went his own way.

Love realizing how much he owed the elder and asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who helped me?"

"It was Time," Knowledge answered.

"Time?" asked Love. "But why did Time help me?"

Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, "Because, only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

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哇，馆主好像很久没有在馆内发言了吧？对啊，前阵子真的是对不起大家哟。因为一些技术上的问题，所以“消失”了好一段时间，但是现在终于又回到大家身边了！ ^_^g

前面几篇分享都是一些幻影片的分享，那今天，馆主借着月莉小姐从彦铭先生和惠忠先生那里得到的文章与大家分享。馆主个人觉得这篇文章很有意思，也蛮感人的。大家觉得呢？

希望大家还是跟以前一样，可以快快乐乐地学习。要保持你微笑的作风哦！

加油！祝大家安好！

^_^g

5 instant soothers for high stress times

Be a better breather. "When you make a conscious effort to breathe deeper, it naturally brings your body back to a more relaxed state," explains Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., author of Stress Free for Good (HarperOne). Place your hand on your stomach and watch it rise as you inhale for a count of 3 or 4; hold your breath for the same count, and then exhale for as long as comfortable and watch your belly fall.

Look forward to something. Each morning, think about one little, enjoyable thing you plan to do that day (the crossword puzzle) and one bigger pleasure on the horizon (your trip to the mountains), suggests Allen Elkin, Ph.D., director of the Stress Management and Counseling Center in New York City. This ritual trains your brain to focus away from what can go wrong that day. How to put an end to overnight anxiety.

Make a small change to your routine. "Unpredictable events can cause the most stress," Luskin explains. "If you cultivate even a little bit of surprise in your life, it helps keep your cognitive responses flexible and helps you handle whatever life throws your way." Take a new cardio class or pick a cuisine you've never tried. (Hallå, Scandinavian!)

Convert Monday into Funday. The flip side to TGIF is OMGIM: Oh, my God, it's Monday! In fact, more heart attacks occur on Mondays than on any other day. Schedule a weekly lunch with a friend or take a class you love on Mondays so you'll look forward to the start of the week, Dr. Wheeler advises. More fun ways to let loose (and stop stress!)

Come home 15 minutes late. After work, walk home or listen to music at a pretty scenic spot before you burst through your front door. "Don't look at it as a waste of time," Dr. Wheeler says. "It's an important way of decompressing and transitioning back to home life."

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六十六条经典禅语 (一)

Believe in Yourself

Self-help, self improvement, motivation, life-coaching...

There is so much material available these days and so many motivational speakers and coaches and self-styled gurus who claim they can change your life that it's easy to be skeptical about their efficacy.

The truth is, you can read a thousand books, attend a hundred seminars, and hire several life coaches, and it will not make a shred of difference. Or you could just happen to pick up one book or even hear one quote, and be well on your way to achieving your most ambitious goals. It's not really how much you're exposed to; more important is what and most crucially, how you respond to it. Before any "self-improvement" can start, something must first click within you. Your "self" is the key.

You know how two people can be shown exactly the same thing and each of them sees completely different things? It's the same with self-help materials. Before they can even begin to help you, you have to first believe in yourself. How badly do you want to change? Have you prepared your heart to sustain you through the challenges and baririers that will no doubt be in your way? Are you able to re-affirm your self-worth when others begin to lose their faith in you? Do you know precisely what you're good at and just how valuable you are?

Conviction is everything. Your belief system must be unshakeable.

Many people have big dreams but how many of them truly believe they can make them reality? Successful people continue to be in the minority because attrition swiftly eliminates those whose hearts are not really into it. Doubt and fear gnaw at all our hearts, but those who make it know that these things hold no real power if we choose not to give them power.

Typically, after a motivational programme, people get all excited, but after a time of not seeing the results that they want, they quit. You know, with all the time invested into it, they probably would have been better off not even starting!

These people begin with the thought of "well, let's see if this works out..." This is not the kind of thinking that will make you successful. Successful people believe it will work out and persevere until it does. Now many people scoff at this and think that the reason successful people have a great attitude is that they are successful. But the opposite is true --- successful people are successful because they have a great attitude!

You have to first get into a state of mind that something will work for you. The magic has to happen inside. Then, you will begin to see results.

Adapted from "A Slice of Life" by Eugene Loh
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没错吧？我们要时时先学习相信自己，才有办法成功啊！如果自己都不相信自己，那别人又怎么会相信你呢？

加油哦！

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HAPPY 牛 YEAR!!!! ^_^g

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拜大年

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新年颂

看父母就是看自己的未來

如果你在一個平凡的家庭長大
如果你的父母還健在
不管你有沒有和他們同住

如果有一天，你發現媽媽的廚房不再像以前那麼乾淨
如果有一天，你發現家中的碗筷好像沒洗乾淨
如果有一天，你發現母親的鍋子不再雪亮
如果有一天，你發現父親的花草樹木已漸荒廢
如果有一天，你發現家中的地板衣櫃經常沾滿灰塵
如果有一天，你發現母親煮的菜太鹹太難吃
如果有一天，你發現父母經常忘記關瓦斯
如果有一天，你發現老父老母的一些習慣不再是習慣時，就像他們不再想要天天洗澡時
如果有一天，你發現父母不再愛吃青脆的蔬果
如果有一天，你發現父母愛吃煮得爛爛的菜
如果有一天，你發現父母喜歡吃稀飯
如果有一天，你發現他們過馬路行動反應都慢了
如果有一天，你發現在吃飯時間他們老是咳個不停
千萬別誤以為他們感冒或著涼，(那是吞嚥神經老化的現象)
如果有一天，你發覺他們不再愛出門…

如果有這麼一天
我要告訴你，你要警覺父母真的已經老了
器官已經退化到需要別人照料了

如果你不能照料，請你替他們找人照料
並請你請你千萬千萬要常常探望
不要讓他們覺得被遺棄了
每個人都會老
父母比我們先老
我們要用角色互換的心情去照料他
才會有耐心、才不會有怨言
當父母不能料理自己的時候，為人子女要警覺，
他們可能會大小便失禁、可能會很多事都做不好，

如果房間有異味，可能他們自己也聞不到，
請不要嫌他髒或嫌他臭，為人子女的只能幫他清理，
並請維持他們的『自尊心』。
當他們不再愛洗澡時，
請抽空定期幫他們洗身體，
因為縱使他們自己洗也可能洗不乾淨。
當我們在享受食物的時候，
請替他們準備一份大小適當、容易咀嚼的一小碗，
因為他們不愛吃可能是牙齒咬不動了。
從我們出生開始，
餵奶換尿布、生病的不眠不休照料、
教我們生活基本能力、供給讀書、吃喝玩樂和補習，
關心和行動永遠都不停歇。

如果有一天，
他們真的動不了了，
角色互換不也是應該的嗎？
為人子女者要切記，
看父母就是看自己的未來，
孝順要及時。

如果有一天，
你像他們一樣老時，你希望怎麼過？
現在的你，
是在當單身寄生蟲、還是已婚雙料或多料寄生蟲？
你留意過自己的父母嗎？
樹欲靜而風不止、子欲養而親不在
您的父母還有多少時間等您?