The Source of Our Unhappiness
We're always looking for something or someone to blame for our unhappiness. It's our job ["there's too much work, I've no time for fun!"], it's our partner ["I can't stand her mysterious outbursts!"], it's our parents ["they brought me up to be fearful and unable to stand up for myself"], or it's the economy, social bias, disappointing children... and the list goes on.
It does seem as though the source of our frustrations lies outside of us. After all , we didn't ask for these problems.
Or did we?
A popular theory called 'The Law of Attraction' refers to "the idea that thoughts influence chance. It argues that thoughts (both conscious and unconscious) can affect things outside the head, not just through motivation, but by other means". In other words, we attract what we think about.
If you don't feel you deserve happiness, then you'll continue to invite things, people and events that upset you. You stick with a job you find unfulfilling because you don't think you can do any better. Your partner's habits rile and baffle you but you don't talk to him or her about it... "It's just one of those things" you think, but could it be because you don't respect yourself enough to improve things?
We often don't strive to make things better because we feel that we're not good enough, that we don't deserve better. We don't believe that a better life is possible so we don't do anything. Pessimism justifies inaction. This is why we keep attracting people and things that keep us stuck.
The next time you encounter a situation or person that upsets you, refrain from the temptation to appoint blame. Look within yourself instead. What are the thoughts and habits inviting undesirable things into your life? What are the things in your life you tolerate that are not working for you?
The key to changing the world is changing ourselves.
Adapted from: A Slice of Life, presented and written by Eugene Loh
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当馆主读了这篇文章后，就很想与大家分享。对吧？很多时候，我们都将过错怪罪于别人，但是，往往问题会发生是因为我们自己的因素 [当然，馆主并不是说是你我的错，但是，是或多或少我们也得负上责任不是吗？] --- 我们“吸引”了这些不开心的元素到我们的生命里。
所以，从今天开始，先不要“怪罪”，先往自己的内心深处探讨、反省。
要改变世界，我们得从自己开始。
加油！ ^_^g
It does seem as though the source of our frustrations lies outside of us. After all , we didn't ask for these problems.
Or did we?
A popular theory called 'The Law of Attraction' refers to "the idea that thoughts influence chance. It argues that thoughts (both conscious and unconscious) can affect things outside the head, not just through motivation, but by other means". In other words, we attract what we think about.
If you don't feel you deserve happiness, then you'll continue to invite things, people and events that upset you. You stick with a job you find unfulfilling because you don't think you can do any better. Your partner's habits rile and baffle you but you don't talk to him or her about it... "It's just one of those things" you think, but could it be because you don't respect yourself enough to improve things?
We often don't strive to make things better because we feel that we're not good enough, that we don't deserve better. We don't believe that a better life is possible so we don't do anything. Pessimism justifies inaction. This is why we keep attracting people and things that keep us stuck.
The next time you encounter a situation or person that upsets you, refrain from the temptation to appoint blame. Look within yourself instead. What are the thoughts and habits inviting undesirable things into your life? What are the things in your life you tolerate that are not working for you?
The key to changing the world is changing ourselves.
Adapted from: A Slice of Life, presented and written by Eugene Loh
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
当馆主读了这篇文章后，就很想与大家分享。对吧？很多时候，我们都将过错怪罪于别人，但是，往往问题会发生是因为我们自己的因素 [当然，馆主并不是说是你我的错，但是，是或多或少我们也得负上责任不是吗？] --- 我们“吸引”了这些不开心的元素到我们的生命里。
所以，从今天开始，先不要“怪罪”，先往自己的内心深处探讨、反省。
要改变世界，我们得从自己开始。
加油！ ^_^g
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