You and Them - An Intelligence that gives rise to fear
How do you feel about speaking in front of a group of people? If you are like many, many others, you won't be too keen on the idea!
[Did you know?]
The number 1 fear for humans - greater than the fear of snakes, spiders, mice, insects and creepy crawlies, war, famine, diesease, alien attacks and death - is fear of pubilc speaking!
In fact, fear of public speaking scored twice as highly as the next most common fear in a recent survey.
At first glance this seems a surprising result, but on deeper investigation it can be seen as a very rational and quite predictable response. Many people have had little or no training in presentation skills and speaking in public, and often, especially in work situations, find that they are suddenly expected to give a presentation to their colleagues, or clients or to their manager, the out come of which can have significant effect on their current and future careers. Even during social occasions (especially important ones like weddings), where the speaker has got friends around for moral support, speechmaking can be a very stressful experience if people are not prepared.
No wonder the natural response is FEAR!
Fear not!
The thing to remember is that communicating to a large group of people is really the same as communicating to one other person. This should help you feel less oppressed by numbers, and relate to everybody more personally.
To check the truth of this, think about yourself at a theatre or at a concert, and think about your own relationship with the people on stage. All the while you are listening and watching, surrounded you may be by hundreds of others, you are the only one listening with your ears and seeing with your eyes; you are the only one reacting physically and emotionally to the performers as you do; you are the only one who will remember the show in the way in which you will. The relationship, therefore, between the performers and you in entirely a personal one, regardless of whether you are on your own, with one other person, or with one million people.
The great geniuses of Social Intelligence understand this and react appropriately. You can too.
Another tip to remember when making any sort of speech in public, which will help you relax and allow your natural intelligence shine through, is to prepare your material thoroughly. It may seem obvious, but if you know what you are going to talk about, you will be able to take control of the occasion.
Adapted from: Head First by TONY BUZAN
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嗯，的确，大多数人最害怕的就是需要站在大家面前发表、发言。馆主记得小的时候，是蛮天不怕地不怕的，可是学生时代却害怕得要命。哈哈！我们大家也学着点吧！加油！
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At first glance this seems a surprising result, but on deeper investigation it can be seen as a very rational and quite predictable response. Many people have had little or no training in presentation skills and speaking in public, and often, especially in work situations, find that they are suddenly expected to give a presentation to their colleagues, or clients or to their manager, the out come of which can have significant effect on their current and future careers. Even during social occasions (especially important ones like weddings), where the speaker has got friends around for moral support, speechmaking can be a very stressful experience if people are not prepared.
No wonder the natural response is FEAR!
Fear not!
The thing to remember is that communicating to a large group of people is really the same as communicating to one other person. This should help you feel less oppressed by numbers, and relate to everybody more personally.
To check the truth of this, think about yourself at a theatre or at a concert, and think about your own relationship with the people on stage. All the while you are listening and watching, surrounded you may be by hundreds of others, you are the only one listening with your ears and seeing with your eyes; you are the only one reacting physically and emotionally to the performers as you do; you are the only one who will remember the show in the way in which you will. The relationship, therefore, between the performers and you in entirely a personal one, regardless of whether you are on your own, with one other person, or with one million people.
The great geniuses of Social Intelligence understand this and react appropriately. You can too.
Another tip to remember when making any sort of speech in public, which will help you relax and allow your natural intelligence shine through, is to prepare your material thoroughly. It may seem obvious, but if you know what you are going to talk about, you will be able to take control of the occasion.
Adapted from: Head First by TONY BUZAN
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嗯，的确，大多数人最害怕的就是需要站在大家面前发表、发言。馆主记得小的时候，是蛮天不怕地不怕的，可是学生时代却害怕得要命。哈哈！我们大家也学着点吧！加油！
^_^g
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